Is divorce really as big of a risk as the statistics say?

[DJ Novice]

During my marriage the time spent raising and playing with my kids was the most happiest and most fulfilling time of my life to date. Sex didn’t even come close and I didn’t really miss it at all.

It was only when my kids became much older (high school age) that the quality and quantity of sex and being physically attracted to my wife became an issue. Even now I’m dating someone younger, more attractive and more sexually adventurous I still miss the times I had with my children when they were younger more.

I think without some form of purpose in your life than p*ssy (whether that be raising a family or something else) then you won’t truly find happiness or fulfilment.

Sex only takes up a very small part of your life in reality (but it’s still important that small part is great!) and as you get older the desire for it to the exclusion of or at the expense of everything else decreases (unless you are on TRT).

 

[BaronOfHair]

Why do you think so many celebrities got fleeced in their divorces? Were they simply too naïve to not have a prenup?

Same way so many of them go bankrupt, after once being richer than 98% of the human race will ever be, no matter how hard we work... Being a convincing actor or a solid musician doesn't make you either a financial wiz or especially knowledgeable of the law

 

[BaronOfHair]

Why do we need marriage? Whats the benefit?

In Post-Industrial nations such as ours, marriage IS NOT a necessity for anyone on an individual level... A fella can have a set up where he has two children by two different women, co-exists peacefully with them, sees his off-spring regularly, yet still lives alone. On a SOCIETAL level though, promoting marriage and monogamish living serves as a deterrent to our degenerating into a clone of Sub-Saharan Africa https://www.sos-usa.org/about-us/where-we-work/africa/aids-in-africa#:~:text=Sexual Behavior: The polygamy and,often have changing sexual partners.


"Have you ever wondered why a marriage contract isn't more like a business contract?"


Read Jeff Pfeffer's Power and The Millionaire Mind. Folks on the higher end of the socioecomic ladders DO approach marriage as just as much of a business contract as they do a matter of love. Part of what keeps those who are perpetually broke and grousing over how awful the government is(No doubt, it's flawed)continuing to buy into all the messages we've seen in rom-coms and Disney movies

 

[jhonny9546]

What interests me most about separation for unmarried couples with children is the financial situation upon exit.
If the man owns a house that he is paying for with a mortgage, in which he, she, and her son live, and the judge were to award the house to her and her son, he would ultimately have to pay both maintenance and the mortgage on the house, and then pay rent for a new place to live.
It really seems impossible to become a mature man in this society. As a man, you want to own real estate, such as a house, to have a space of your own. Then, you want to be a father, because nothing like having a son can make you a man and teach you valuable lessons. But what if things go wrong?
If all this is true, what living solutions have you found? Do you live in rented accommodation? Have you registered the house in someone else's name? Do you live with your parents? Do you have an agreement?
How does it work? I think we need to learn how to protect ourselves first and then consider buying a house.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Many dudes the divorce statistics as a cope so they don't have to do the necessary and difficult work of sorting for and creating and maintaining a healthy relationship.

Many people get married and stay married and have happy marriages.

Instead of using divorce stats, maybe look at what people are doing that works and emulate that.