Be in charge of your own life!
I used to think that what people call "cheating" is wrong.
That was when I lived according to Christian rules.
At age 21 I finally matured , I decided that I will not agree with things that don't make sense to me.
About Truth
Don't tell me about absolute "Truth" when all you are talking about is just a wild guess. Especially if you're too dumb to understand a mathematical proof, or even just highschool physics. Why the **** do people subject themselves to religions that are based on practically NOTHING that can be proved. I'm not saying people shouldn't be religious. I'm saying that people should be aware that they're really just "gambling" with the
purpose of their lives.
Real scientists are not afraid to find out that their current model of reality lacks in certain aspects. Religious leaders (and their followers) don't even consider the
possibility that their model of reality might be flawed.
Defeatist thinking
In classical physics, the "atom" was considered the core of all matter. But even though it may be the essence of chemistry and physics, scientists have not kept themselves from redefining the concept of the atom in order to get closer to REALITY.
How many religions have redefined their concept of GOD?
Whenever religious people come across a paradox, they'll just say "Well, you should consider the context", or "That goes beyond the comprehension of man. God knows.". That's defeatist thinking. There hiding behind their "holy" scriptures. I know that people will start defending their religion and start barking at me for saying this:
People join religions out of fear.
Why else would you join a religion?
For fun?
For money?
For hot women?
For a more enjoyable life?
Scientists want to discover the TRUTH more than anything else. In the past, scientists have even risked their lives for that. Some people will probably answer with "Well, fundamentalists also risk their lives for the TRUTH!".
Let me tell you what the difference is: religion and truth are NOT the same things. Fundamentalists stay true to their religion. But nobody knows whether any religion is even close to the real TRUTH! Like I said before: it's just a wild guess at the truth. Just as it may be true, it may also be false.
Needless to say, if you die for your religion and it turns out to be false: no paradise, no eternal life, no happiness!
You accepted to invest in a "low-returnvalue-kind-of-life", expecting a huge reward after 30+ years. When you die. (Would you invest in a company that would only be able to give you the returnvalue when you died? Even if it can't be passed on to your dear ones?)
Lots of respect for your (relative) integrity, though.
But there's no one you can blame: you simply made a wrong bet!
In fact, choosing ONE a religion is definitely not the smartest thing to do. Religions are "models of reality". If you can't get over your fear of death, then the safest thing to do is betting on as many "models of reality" as possible. Treat it like you're buying stocks.
Otherwise, if you're fearless (thus a real DJ), the best thing would be to make your OWN model of reality by thinking for yourself and adopting the good concepts from other models.
Okay, now let me answer the question "Is cheating ok?".
Cheating is deception.
Deceit is saying one thing, while doing the exact opposite.
Having sex with other women is not the same as cheating!
You are cheating when you promised
someone that you will not have sex with anyone else but your girlfriend/wife. This "someone" doesn't even have to be your girlfriend. Even if she's "okay" with it, it's not garanteed that you are not cheating.
The definition of "cheating" implies that the following logical statement is true.
"marry your girlfriend in church" AND "have sex with another woman" -> "cheating"
So, if either one (or both) of the premises "marry your girlfriend in church" or "have sex with another woman" is FALSE in your situation, than you are NOT "cheating".
Don't want to cheat?
Then don't vow "till death do us part", or anything like that to ANYONE!! Period.
This goes out to all our religious friends on this board.
Did you ever ask yourself any of these questions:
"Why do I believe my religion?"
"Why am I (not) a Christian"
"Why am I (not) a Muslim?"
"Why am I (not) a Buddhist?"
"What is my motivation for my religious life?"
Be honest with yourself first, and then to other people.