Is cheating ok

[Jariel]

If cheating was ok, you wouldn't have to keep it from your girlfriend. That's logical.

You can really damage people psychologically by cheating and deceiving them and leave them with bitterness, serious trust issues and relationship problems. Just look around this forum for example!

If my GF wanted to hook up with other guys, I'd want to know so I could make a choice whether I stay or go, whether I sleep with other women etc. If she cheated on me, the deception alone would piss me off so much!

 

[JLW]

You are dealing with another person's emotions. Think about that.

How would you feel if your girlfriend of 1 year cheated on you? Probably like ****.

She could say "Oh but I love you the most" all she wanted, but it still wouldn't mean **** to you. You'd probably dump her. You'd feel betrayed, decieved, foolish, etc. You'd feel pretty worthless.


Why would you want risk making someone else feel like that?



Also, you are NOT being a man by cheating. It's really really unloyal. By being exclusive with a girl, you are promising that you are going to be faithful to her. No one likes a liar.

Even if you're not "religious" as some people put it, just to be a good PERSON, you should not cheat. It's not about religion, it's about being a good guy. Not a slimy, lowly, lying snake.

and just because OTHER people are liars and cheaters, does not make it right. I noticed someone say "oh well plenty of other guys cheat, it's human nature blah blah blah". So what does that matter?

These are just my views. I'm probably not going to change anyone's minds, but I just thought I'd express myself on this topic which is so frequently brought up.

 

[wolf116]

i only see her twice a week now, we live an hours drive away and we have different social circles. i think i can get away with it without hurting her. i think it would hurt her just as much if i dumped her now.

yes i feel bad about decieving her. but that wont hurt her.

 

[wolf116]

look i've only been with one person in my life. i want to experance others and become confident around strange women. If i'm going to stay with this girl i need some varaity. it would hurt her less if i did this because i woulden't have to dump her.

 

[Cod3r]

If my GF wanted to hook up with other guys, I'd want to know so I could make a choice whether I stay or go, whether I sleep with other women etc. If she cheated on me, the deception alone would piss me off so much!

Same here, if you want to leave... just leave, don't cheat on me

It's all good once he cheats, the world has a way of paying you back for your own shvt, i learned the hard way. When that day comes, just remember where it comes from and don't complain about it. What comes around goes around.


-Cod3r

 

[Complicated]

You have been with this girl for 2 years. Are you sure your not in love with the idea of her being there and meeting your needs instead of actually in love with her? I would say prob the later if your considering cheating on her. At your age there is nothing wrong with wanting to explore and not being tied down. If you choose to do that I would use your balls and just end it with her. If you cheat she will find out some way some how, they always find out. Most people get too ****y in the fact they are cheating and not getting caught and get careless.

 

[smeckle]

I can't believe this is even a question. Jesus t*ttief*cking Christ.

If you say you love her, which it is possible at your age, then you should have enough respect for her to do what it all entails. Give her your heart or break up with her.

For god's sake, broheem. My girlfriend lives in a completely different state. A vertical half-country, and I've never cheated on her. We've been together for six months.

Maybe you need to re-evaluate what it means to love someone. Hell, maybe even what it means to be a man before you get into a real relationship.

 

[Rex Man]

Cheat

 

[Warboss Alex]

You don't love your girlfriend if you think you 'need' to experience other women.

 

[Mental]

hi everyone im new here. been reading for a while, finally decided to post since im stuck on a moral delema and seeking advice.

Well im 19 and ive only been with one girl (my girlfriend of 2 years). im pritty happy with her and life. the thing is.

i want to be confident around women i dont know. be able to play them and bed them. i want to test the new knowlage i've gained. (my girlfriend would call this cheating and i woulden't like her to do it either).

1 a : to practice fraud or trickery b : to violate rules dishonestly <cheat at cards> <cheating on a test>
2 : to be unfaithful -- usually used with on <was cheating on his wife>

If you want game, go shoot a deer.

So, if you both have CLEARLY established that if she can do the same with guys, and you can do whatever with any woman, that's your decision.

But if you're in a serious relationship (I know of 19 year olds who were mature enough to get married, BTW), I would recommend not doing it.

You love this woman, and yet you still want to have "game." Why can't you have "game" with your current girlfriend?

And by the way, having game doesn't always have to mean sleeping with hundreds of women. Another thing, though... if you're sleeping with her, (you implied you are) then, well, don't you already have at least some "game" skills? Be fine with that, or break up with her.

I would think you're not that interested in the woman if you're looking to sleep with others. That's one thing if you're not, but then don't string her along, man. At least have the nuts to break up (or allow an "open relationship" for both people) if you're so concerned with having game with many different women.

 

[Berlex]

go for it

 

[wolf116]

You don't love your girlfriend if you think you 'need' to experience other women.

what makes you say that.
i do love her. what dose experiencing other women have to do with me loveing her anyway. i dont see the conection.


What do you think love is anyway? I see it as a feeling produced through evolution. So that we feel the need to partner up to help survival (male protects female and hunts for her. Female cooks raises young ect.)

I have very strong feelings to care for and protect my gf. thinking about her always makes me smile(lame I know)= i love her.

But I also have the urge to stick my **** in every girl I see. A very strong urge that feels like a beast inside me.

Why should I keep trying to supress it. I dont feel good when i supress it.

 

[azanon]

Wolf, you're not going to get every single guy here to say its ok to cheat, so quit trying. You can see that enough of us are ok with, so if you are to, then have at it. Look inside yourself for the right answer for you. You said you weren't religious, so you dont believe in universal truths.

My thoughts on cheating are, what she (or I even) doesn't know won't hurt her. It would be an incomplete statement to say that i'd be upset, hurt, whatever if my girlfriend/wife cheated on me. It would be a more accurate statement to say I would be upset, hurt, etc if i found out i was being cheated on.

It's all good once he cheats, the world has a way of paying you back for your own shvt, i learned the hard way. When that day comes, just remember where it comes from and don't complain about it. What comes around goes around.

Karma is a lie fabricated by those wanting to believe in equality in the world, or some divine entity that will see to it that everything is fair. If you ask me, it was probably created to help people deal with inequity in the world so that they could better cope with reality. Now there's even some TV show on Karma training millions of soon to be AFCs with regard to this false belief (something Earl?)

For those able to handle real reality, i'll break the truth to you; the world isn't fair, and what comes around does not always go around. Life is a game, and its definitely possible to play the game much better than other people. A much more accurate statement to characterize the world is that its "dog eat dog". Be the bigger dog.

We all are or are becoming DJ's here right? Everyone should know its possible to have an unfair advantage in your favor on catching women. The same applies to everything else in life.

I'm glad so many people play by artifical sets of rules. I wouldnt have such a distinct advantage if they didn't.

 

[gherald]

dump her first man...

if you started cheating it will becoome your habit and you're the one who's going to suffer at the end...

i mean, you'll you wont get serious with anyone wven if you want to because
you're molded to be a cheater...think about it...

you dont have to cheat to have many woman...

 

[gherald]

look i've only been with one person in my life. i want to experance others and become confident around strange women. If i'm going to stay with this girl i need some varaity. it would hurt her less if i did this because i woulden't have to dump her.

i LOLed at this...it would hurt her more...hahah..

 

[azanon]

i LOLed at this...it would hurt her more...hahah..

...... if he got caught by her. These hypothetical discussions are interesting, but if we have peeps here that keep getting caught, maybe we need another thread to discuss how to avoid being caught.

 

[Warboss Alex]

Wolf,

I say you don't love her because you don't love her enough to want to suppress your urges to be faithful to her. You may like her yes, and I'm sure she's a great girl but you're obviously not ready or not willing to commit to her, so why put her through the hurt when (not if) she finds out you cheated? You've been with her a while now, it's going to devastate her if you cheat. If you really care about her, would you want her to be so upset? And if you're planning anything longterm in the future with this girl, cheating on her is going to raise some serious trust issues which will most likely destroy any chances you have with your current gf in the longrun. Decide which is more important to you!

It's natural to have urges and frustrations. But if you're with someone you truly love then you won't be frustrated or even want to LOOK at anyone else, because you'll have all you need. Cheating does not make you a man, it makes you scum in my eyes - you should have the backbone to either address the relationships issues which are making you feel the need to be with another woman (or women) OR do the decent thing break up honourably with your girl and spend your time sleeping around as you please.

Take a long look at yourself and decide where your heart truly lies, because while I can't tell you how or what you feel, I'm not convinced.

 

[wolf116]

thanks everyone for the input. but i think the pros outway the cons on this one. I'll lets you guys know how it goes

 

[wolf116]

It's hard to get motivated to look for wemon when your alredy getting sex. Im doing ok tho.

 

[Warboss Alex]

It's hard to get motivated to look for wemon when your alredy getting sex. Im doing ok tho.

why do you NEED to like for women?

if this sh!thole of a website is screwing with your morals and making you think you SHOULD be a 'DJ/alpha male' whatever and that means you HAVE to sleep around then think again... if you're happy with your girl and are just feeling that you have to sleep around to gain status and respect then this is WRONGER THAN WRONG.