pbsurf said:
The answer you've gotten over and over is true - at 30 you can bang 18 year olds all day if you know where to put your effort. And you can bang hot 50 year olds too. The world is your oyster my friend.
Was only with one woman until age 38. Then divorced. I'm nothing special but I've banged plenty of 20 somethings over the last 8 years. Thank you game.
BUT, you need to really get a handle on the big D first. And if you are submissive, you are dramatically limiting your options - most women want and need a dominant man. In life and in bed.
I'd say working on your skillz w/women will boost your mood, but i would be careful about putting that first.
Work on hobbies, interests, getting in shape, the old being happy with yourself thing, do that for a few months. Pare back on the ADs as much as is possible (titrate?) and boost your mood naturally.
Women can sniff out depression and insecurity and unless you want an insecure depressed GF, you need to fix that as much as you are able...
Good luck my friend
Thanks pbsurf, really helpful encouragement around here, I suppose I should just give a **** and see what happens when I'm out.
I am getting into shape work out hard everyday, surprised how fast the 6 pack is coming back and I can now see 4 again (last time I saw the 6-8 was 22-23
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BUT, you need to really get a handle on the big D first...
Women can sniff out depression and insecurity and unless you want an insecure depressed GF, you need to fix that as much as you are able...
Yes they can for sure, I'm afraid with the depression I may have it for life its a chemical thing, I am doing my best to deal with it trying new things. Although that said James Dean had that dark depressive thing (but also rebellious thing) about him that girls went wild for. Perhaps accepting it is a step in the right direction.
Men always talk about how they have a longer time to enjoy their prime and that is true but the problem is that guys who do well into their 30s are those who go in with experience. At this point all I can say is find some hobbies and start out with baby steps. Going to a bar or some crowded place will probably destroy your self-esteem. There is a movie called the "40 year old virgin" which gives a lot of good advice in terms of being a virgin at that late of an age.
Yea too true experience is what should make you better in this field, not too sure about the movie, but maybe studying some PUA and inner game may help somewhat or help me catch up.
And if you are submissive, you are dramatically limiting your options - most women want and need a dominant man. In life and in bed.
I'm not submissive in real life at all. In bed, well I suppose I can meet in the middle, but it'd be so much hotter for me to let her be the aggressor once things have started i.e. I'm happy to escalate to that point etc. I know these women are out there because I have been hit on by them (albeit when I was unwell), just they are a rarer breed.
that's karma for women for their lack of approaching guys, for their lack of initiative
Jaegerpilot your bitterness and jaded approach to the opposite sex does you no good whatsoever, although it may drive you to some short term successes it will come around and bite you eventually. Turn the thoughts you have around on their head. YOU were the problem because you didn't know how to interact with girls and turn them on.
Think of it as your duty now to do that and educate yourself and practice, and give them the best ONS's they've ever had, because they can't make that happen, a man needs to make it happen. Read Minimal Game by Aaron Sleazy it will help you.
