even after I had told him that I just wanted to forget about him telling me he was going to call, he kept going on and on about the time thing. At one point I told him to look at me and said, "I don't care about the time - it's not about the time".
drama, drama, drama...wasn't this on ER like 10 times?
I didn't tell him that I had heard he asked a girl out earlier this week because that really didn't have anything to do with the way he feels about me,
gossip, gossip, gossip, but it has a lot to do with how you feel about him
other than making it clear he is asking women out which goes to my whole point which was that he must not see me on that level. Which in turn led me to feel the need to tell him that was okay, just cut the crap. I know, it's ugly.
sorry, but cry me a river, and welcome to what WE have to put up with on a near continuous basis
i guess that doesn't help your situation though.
Ulrick, the thought of putting myself out there again makes me sick. I am no different from anyone else that cringes at the thought of rejection. Especially because I rarely make the moves and don't have to worry about it (that is not a boast in any way). I swear I feel bad for you guys having to do this all the time. If you feel 1/10th of the anxiety I feel you must just want to join a monistary!
well, it's not that bad because we are men (most of us anyway). men chase, women get caught--usually. but, the next time you give out a fake phone # or agree to a date and blow a dude out, or make up some lie, or LJBF a dude, just keep that in mind. i know women are aware, but they really aren't.
yes, you are terrified of him rejecting you. most women are incapable of dealing with rejection. nobody likes it, but us guys HAVE to approach and take the "risk". some guys get rejected 9 times out of 10, but still do it. you should be thanking us for it too. you're welcome.
How crazy would it be to ask him out when all he does is tell me how busy he is?? Maybe closer to when he's supposed to leave as he really is working approximately 100 hours/week right now. I'm clearly not at the top of his list so whatever time he has is spent doing someone else. Ooops - doing something else.
as TooCold lays on the couch, ready for his therapy...
here's the deal because i know exactly where your boy is coming from.
i do investment banking related work and consulting. i also teach at a pretty big university. i'm a busy guy. i usually put in 60-80 a week, 60 is no sweat. 80 is rough. occasionally, i put in 100 hour weeks. when i do, it's usually for 4-6 weeks in a row, on a project. probably twice per year. i can tell you that it fukks you up. do the math: if you work 6 days, sundays off, you're looking at a 16 hour day (and 2/3 actually). you've got 8 left. sleep 6. you've got 2 left. travel time of 1 hour total, IF you're really lucky. down to 1 hour per day for shower, breakfast, dinner, take a sh!t, and take a bong hit to get to sleep, and whatever else you need to do. sundays you ask? they're for catching up.
literally, the only thing you want to do is sleep and maybe fukk a hot chick. you don't have time to pick up your dry cleaning, go to the store. cat is on his own. gotta hire someone (me anyway) to take care of my personal stuff--laundry, etc. last month i got my utils turned off! i fukking forgot to pay the bill! i had my MOM go and pay it and get it turned on again! family, they get bumped down temporarily. friends? right! gonna have to wait on the return calls. you forget stuff, then people call you (me) absent minded, they get pizzed off too, etc...
chicks? NO WAY! but, BIG BUT, for pvssy ONLY yes, just to relieve some stress, and to make sure that what sleep you do get is decent quality. how to get it? 1) a phone call and a couple of bills, 2) you've got horny chicks whom you can call, **** buddies.
"he's doing someone else..." you said jokingly. maybe he is! just so you know, i was only half joking about taking him into the utility closet and doing him up. poor guy probably needs it
when i do contact a buddy, family member, chick, etc... i will say "i'll call you when i can, i'm really busy now..." but i usually don't until things have settled down. it's not that i'm a liar or i'm bs'n. it's that i AM busier than most people can possibly imagine. so a chick thinks i'm playing games, because that's a standard line for reformed AFCs, she gets all pizzed off at me. or am i suppose to say, "yeah, will call you back in two months"? it won't work. explaining it is foolish. dealing with it is foolish!
i just got off a "rotation" like this. i'm taking a month off right now just to get my bearings back and get some of my personal life back in order, and yes, making phone calls that i promised two months ago! (eg repairing damage). even coming back here and dvcking around. your boy can't take a month off because he's probably dirt poor and residency precludes it.
read into this whatever you wish, but i know where he's coming from.
ahhhh... being a man is hard work, isn't it?
maybe that's his charm? maybe that's why i don't have too much of a problem with chicks? they are low on the list a lot of times. scarcity increases value, it's a fact.
PS: i'm not a workaholic, i just have a lot of responsibilities.
Here's the truth. I find him incredibly sexy and attractive. His quiet coolness sets me afire.
yes i know...your panties are a blazing inferno
uh, what's your number?
I have created this image in my head of what he must be like - this may be entirely false. I must admit that I was quite taken back by his image elsewhere - I would have never guessed based on how he is where I work. So I would love to get to know what he's really like.
yes of course you have done this. an idle mind is the devils workshop. women LOVE to do this! when a man's quiet coolness, and unavailability, sets a womens loins afire, whatever game you have, completely falls apart, in favor of passion. especially so when he's not returning the vibe, but you know he would, if only you could meet and talk for a while. you want to know how he kisses and makes out, forced eye contact, heavy petting, taking your clothes off, what he smells like, tastes like, what it would be like to wake up next to him. god i'm cruel, huh?
you're ga ga over him. those other guys you're dating do nothing to your loins like this guy. right?
what to do? that's tough. don't do anything till his hours settle down, but do keep in contact, do send him some signals, you're a woman you know how to do this. when he's off the hours, straight up, ask him out. if you don't, and he doesn't, you will drive yourself nvts. right?
here is something that a chick did for me a couple of years back. we had gone out twice, but had a good amount of professional contact, and got along fantastically. we definitely were diggin on each other. just one innocent kiss at this point. i was working insane hours. out of the blue, she says, "TooCold,i know you're working incredible hours, if there's anything i can do for you, let me know..." i actually took her up on it, because i knew it was from the heart. nothing major, just small errands here and there after work. definitely treated her like a queen after things settled down. was the nicest thing someone has done for me.
kinda risky for her to do that, but that made it all the better. she was the yummiest chick i've ever had. moved back to florida, boohoo.
you said that he's dating some others at your work? could it be that someone else in the hen house also has been set afire, but who's already acted, and/or sabatoged any chance you may have had? you know how vicious women can get when they really want something. just a thought.
