I came across this website in trying to figure you guys out. Just like you, women are often confused with how to interpret things, how to approach you, etc.. It looks like you are all giving each other good advice and are very supportive of one another's goals. So I guess I am approaching as a member of the "other team" asking for your help. I don't think that other women can answer my questions the way all of you can.
Here's my deal. There's this guy at work that I am extremely attracted to. I gave him my number about a month ago but he has never called. We see each other several times a week and he is always extrememly nice and tells me that he's going to call, but he's too busy (I know this is an excuse). The other day I found out from a friend of mine that he's seen as quite the player - that he is asking several women out under the guise of wanting to find that right woman to start a family with. Although my feeling were a little hurt, I can't be mad at him for not being attracted to me in that way. I didn't say anything at first because, hell, what CAN I say? But after a couple more days of him going on and on about how busy he is (without me asking) I realized he was just throwing excuses out there to prevent me from talking about the fact that he hasn't called. Yesterday he asked me if I was mad at him because he hasn't called and I told him no. Then he asked if I was mad because he told me he would call. So I pulled him aside and told him that yes I was but that he didn't owe it to me to call just because I gave him my number. I told him that I liked him and thought he was a nice guy but that I didn't want this "thing" between us about the phone call. I did tell him that I had heard about his reputation and that the only thing that told me was that he did have time and that he just didn't see me that way. I assured him that I wasn't going to trip out on him because of it and that if he never called, he wouldn't have to worry about me acting any differently towards him. I also told him that I thought it was a shame, that I thought we had a lot in common, but that not everyone's attraction is mutual. I guess my goal was just to clear the air. I know he said he would call, he knows he said he would call, and we both know he never did. Now we can go about interacting with each other without that black cloud over us.
Here's the problem though guys, I still like him. And I know for a fact that's he's attracted to me on some level because of signs like long eye contact, him touching me when he talks to me, and him always smiling at me. Maybe I shouldn't have called him to the mat, but I'm not a passive woman and am not going to have someone lying to me when it's obvious. Any ideas on whether there's anything I can do to get him to use my number?
Thanks. And if there's anything I can answer from a woman's point of view, I'd be glad to help.
Cece
Here's my deal. There's this guy at work that I am extremely attracted to. I gave him my number about a month ago but he has never called. We see each other several times a week and he is always extrememly nice and tells me that he's going to call, but he's too busy (I know this is an excuse). The other day I found out from a friend of mine that he's seen as quite the player - that he is asking several women out under the guise of wanting to find that right woman to start a family with. Although my feeling were a little hurt, I can't be mad at him for not being attracted to me in that way. I didn't say anything at first because, hell, what CAN I say? But after a couple more days of him going on and on about how busy he is (without me asking) I realized he was just throwing excuses out there to prevent me from talking about the fact that he hasn't called. Yesterday he asked me if I was mad at him because he hasn't called and I told him no. Then he asked if I was mad because he told me he would call. So I pulled him aside and told him that yes I was but that he didn't owe it to me to call just because I gave him my number. I told him that I liked him and thought he was a nice guy but that I didn't want this "thing" between us about the phone call. I did tell him that I had heard about his reputation and that the only thing that told me was that he did have time and that he just didn't see me that way. I assured him that I wasn't going to trip out on him because of it and that if he never called, he wouldn't have to worry about me acting any differently towards him. I also told him that I thought it was a shame, that I thought we had a lot in common, but that not everyone's attraction is mutual. I guess my goal was just to clear the air. I know he said he would call, he knows he said he would call, and we both know he never did. Now we can go about interacting with each other without that black cloud over us.
Here's the problem though guys, I still like him. And I know for a fact that's he's attracted to me on some level because of signs like long eye contact, him touching me when he talks to me, and him always smiling at me. Maybe I shouldn't have called him to the mat, but I'm not a passive woman and am not going to have someone lying to me when it's obvious. Any ideas on whether there's anything I can do to get him to use my number?
Thanks. And if there's anything I can answer from a woman's point of view, I'd be glad to help.
Cece
