Incels deserve being sexless. The only person you have to blame is yourself. Unless you ruthlessly self improve for 10 years you can’t complain.

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True again, even if a black guy has a beta personality, he can still find some white guilt liberal woman or a mudshark to date. However, that's if his standards are really low. A black guy with higher standards will start to run in to issues.
A lot of the white guilt liberal women or mudshark White women are overweight women. When Indian/Indian-American men have sex with White women, they are more likely to be having sex with overweight White women.

I don't know a lot about Hispanic men and White women. Hispanic men are fortunate that Hispanic women are considered desirable. Many White men find Hispanic women attractive. Because Hispanic women are desirable, there's less motivation for Hispanic men to go outside their ethnicity. The biggest problem with Hispanic women is that there's a lot of single motherhood among Hispanic women. Additionally, I have seen some 30+ childless Hispanic women with bachelor's or advanced degrees mimic White women from those same categories.

This is the main issue for white men on the apps. This is why other than Chads, the edgy or artsie white men do better because they set themselves apart more.
White men need to either have a strong case that they are Top 10% male or be highly niched to succeed on apps.

A White man who isn't Top 10% or isn't strongly niched is better off focusing on social circle or approaching.

As I mentioned to @Mike32ct intelligent men that are analytical are not seen as unattractive due to these traits but due to the fact that they lack spontaneity. These types of men are less likely to provide women feelings of excitement and adventure simply because spontaneity is not a personality trait of theirs. With that said, a man should not feel that he has to constantly entertain a woman like a court jester. Side note, whenever I've heard other men talk about women that get bored easily it's never a good sign.
The spontaneity issue is legimate. In the 1980s, even Melinda French gave that feedback to Bill Gates as an initial rejection. If a mediocre woman with an advanced degree in the 1980s is telling an analytical STEM that, you know that it is an issue. Women do like feeling entertained, and analytical STEM type guys are often boring.

I'd say in the U.S./west the highest prevalence of inceldom would be with Asian and Indian men. A simple reason for this is that most women outside of their ethnic group, which constitutes the overwhelming majority of the population in the west, will just flat out not date them. Very few white women in the U.S would date an Indian or Asian man, these types of men would be better off going for a woman of their own race, though even they prefer white men if given the opportunity.
The typical White woman in the United States isn't interested in an East or South Asian man. Sometimes an East or South Asian man can get an overweight White woman and sometimes that's also the liberal White guilt White woman. It's a challenge for an East or South Asian man to get a White woman who is average in looks/weight or overall above average looking. This is true in both one night stands and in extended, committed relationships.

As for black and hispanic men compared to white men. From what I've seen in AZ, it's not difficult for even low quality and unattractive hispanic men to land a looks match female lol.
Often times, you'll see a blue collar/warehouse worker type Hispanic guy with a Walmart cashier type Hispanic woman.

I agree with your point about white women in that many of them are entitled and have far higher expectations than women of other races as a whole. I believe that this is especially the case for white women that grew up in upper middle class backgrounds, which is the norm for many parts of the U.S. This is going to heavily relate to how they were raised by their parents, and often times these women growing up were overindulged. Look at the sorority girls you'd see at ASU or the UofA, that's a fantastic example of what I'm talking about.
100% on target

The thing is, the whole red pill, black pill and all this other crap exists BECAUSE of the dating market being complete trash due to women's behavior towards men.

What I'm getting at is the modern dating market is far more difficult for men now than it has ever been and when large numbers of them are getting little to no success they naturally become frustrated. They then start looking up stuff on the internet about game and all of this other nonsense and eventually stumble upon some of these red pill forums where other men are venting their frustrations about experiences that they can relate to in some way or another. I do agree that some of the stuff on black pill and more extreme versions of this is very toxic but there is a reason these followings exist in the first place.
100% on target

Baby boomer males literally just needed to show up and they'd eventually get married and have children, it was incredibly unusual for them to be childless bachelors, it existed but they were not at all the norm. Many boomer men would be complete incels if they were to be young men in today's dating market.
This is true and a lot of the reason that Baby Boomer fathers who were present in their Millennial sons' lives had essentially zero impact in preparing their sons for the mating market of the 2000s-present.

Being a beta male wasn't horrible for a Boomer, unlike subsequent generations. Boomer betas could usually find wives and/or steady partners in their 20s/30s.

Women's expectations today are substantially loftier than that of their mothers, grandmothers, etc. A major part of this is due to the sheer abundance of options they have due to dating apps and social media. An average woman in a good sized metro could make a tinder profile and literally have dozens of men swipe right on her within a week. This woman would have more options in this short span of time than women of previous generations may have had in an entire lifetime. Ask any female you know that is on these apps and you'll see it for yourself, I personally can cite a few women that are very overweight and yet they literally have an entire harem of men to choose from.
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This is one of the biggest fears I have with what the current dating market is like. There are so many stats that are showing a very large number of men are literally completely sexless or very close to it. Are some of these men your stereotypical well below average man that looks like he plays world of warcraft in his basement all day, sure. However, the vast majority of these men are going to be relatively average or normal guys that really have nothing wrong with them. I'm honestly becoming very concerned about this because what ends up happening is these men basically check out from society. What will eventually happen is these men feel little to no incentive to putting in effort into anything and they begin to stagnate. Jobs that are highly male dominated, particularly those that are physically demanding or potentially hazardous, may find it difficult to hire men. Why should these men work hard and risk themselves when women are telling them they aren't good enough. Then you start having issues with our infrastructure as a whole (railroad, trucking, electrical, police, etc.). Some other longer term issues will be a further decline in marriage and children being raised in well established households. Overall the fertility rate will be declining by quite a bit but what I also see is that the children being born will be more and more raised in single mother households with no father in the picture. I see many children basically growing up in what is the norm for black families now, which is not at all a good thing.

I'm honestly incredibly worried for the future of our society and I'll be around to see all of this decay occur, worst mating market in recorded history.
The ranks of sexless or nearly sexless men have grown so much. It is no longer true that it is solely socially awkward guys or other outcast guys that are sexless or nearly sexless. There are a lot of somewhat normal men who are sexless or nearly sexless.

A lot of guys who look good on the surface are nearly sexless too. There's been a growth in sexless/nearly sexless marriages of people under 60 since 1989. The under 60 detail is very important because of the aging population in the United States. Sometimes aging means less sex, but often won't mean that until after age 60.

The typical married man who is 35-54 today is having less sex in his marriage than the 35-54 year old married man of 1989. It used to be that people got married in order to have access to regular sex. Today, access to regular sex within a marriage is become rarer.

You're also correct about the broader cultural consequences too.
 
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... Baby Boomer fathers who were present in their Millennial sons' lives had essentially zero impact in preparing their sons for the mating market of the 2000s-present.
The mating market had always been good for men, and so the Baby Boomers didn't even think that it could be a problem. The problems with the mating market began as the Baby Bust Gen-Xers got going. By the late '80s or early '90s, there were more older women, which wasn't a problem until those women hit their mid-30s and became undatable. That's when it became OVER for GenXCels.
 

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I think the incels tend to be deep thinkers. Maybe that is why we are struggling. You can't be too heavy in mind and be light socially at the same time.
No fact is more stridently denied than the reality that being cerebral is a serious barrier to "fitting in" and almost antithetical to having "social skills." You do have intelligent extrovert psychopath types like Bill Clinton, but they're not cerebral or intellectual.
 

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The mating market had always been good for men, and so the Baby Boomers didn't even think that it could be a problem. The problems with the mating market began as the Baby Bust Gen-Xers got going. By the late '80s or early '90s, there were more older women, which wasn't a problem until those women hit their mid-30s and became undatable. That's when it became OVER for GenXCels.
The Gen X'ers got a better mating market in their 20s/30s than Millennials did.

Incel status was a bit unusual in the mid-1990s. Incel status didn't really become a big thing until the Millennials became sexually mature in the early 2000s.

Neil Strauss was slightly an outlier case as a 1969 born Gen X'er. He was borderline incel before meeting Mystery and other PUAs. Those men taught him how to get his penis wet despite being 5'6". Gen X is about when being short started to be a real curse, though I don't think being a shorter man as a Boomer would have been all too fun.

Average height Gen X'ers were in a better spot than average height Millennials.
 

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I'll probably make a topic on this later, but it's not that hard to be higher than 70-80% of men out there. Unless you have some genetic defect or something, any man can make himself a solid 7/10. This Adonnis or ideal guy RP teaches is more like the .01% not the top 10%.
Being a 70th percentile is essentially useless these days. As you say, it's a low bar. You have to be 85th percentile at minimum to have a fighting chance.
 

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I just gave you a really really good example with Mexico, I live in AZ and I've heard so many stories from people driving across the border and being stopped at checkpoints and literally being held hostage by the police until they pay them. Latin America is insanely corrupt, and I guarantee it's nothing compared to Africa. Does corruption in the U.S exist, hell yeah it does, but it's nowhere near to the same degree as in these countries in regard to how it directly affects its citizens.

For every one person that is looking to leave America substantially more are looking to come here. The best doctors, scientists, etc. don't move to places like Africa or Brazil or Pakistan, they go to the U.S. I'm not even sure if you are trolling here or legitimately aren't aware of this.

As for the comments about racism, it's not an issue in the U.S. Black people are the most race obsessed group in the entire country, which makes them the racists. Everything is about race to them as a collective. There lack of success is due to being held back by white people. Did this exist in the past, yes, but the civil rights movement was 60 years ago. Black people blame everyone else for their issues instead of taking accountability for their own actions and mistakes. Is it a white person's fault that over 70% of black children are growing up in single mother households? Is it a white person's fault that they have a significantly higher prevalence of not finishing high school? Is it a white person's fault that they commit the overwhelming majority of crime in our country despite being only 13% of the population?

Again, the U.S isn't perfect but it's a million times better than any other non western country.

This is getting seriously off topic
Sorry, but black people don't commit the majority of crime in the US, much less the "overwhelming majority."
 

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You ever consider that a home owned by a black person is going to be in a black neighborhood which on average has a higher crime rate than a white neighborhood?

Are you aware that black people often get priority over white people in regard to college admissions and even certain government jobs in order to meet certain equality quotas?

Tulsa race riot was over 100 years ago and has literally no relevance to anything going on today. Did you also know that one of the sparks to that was a black man allegedly raping a white woman in Tulsa in an elevator? As for reparations, are you aware that many other ethnic/cultural groups have been treated absolutely horrendously in the U.S? You know what the difference is between these people and black america, is that they moved the **** on and made a life for themselves instead of collectively complaining about **** that happened generations ago. If America was so racist then why the hell did it elect Barrack Obama not just once but twice? Hell, even a redneck state like Indiana voted for him in 2008 lol. Are there still some racist good ol' boys down south, hell yeah, but most white people just don't give a damn about race anymore. You know who is still obsessed about race?
There have been social experiments where black and white 'homeowners' have had the same house appraised. The white homeowners received higher valuations.
 

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They are targeted by le the most because of unchecked of the ws culture within le.
I think blacks were 13% of the US and comprised 28% of all arrests. So they commit a minority of crime, but are over represented in crime stats. One could argue that if blacks are targeted by law enforcement, they could potentially commit crimes at a lower rate than arrests would lead one to believe. This is difficult to prove.
 

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I think blacks were 13% of the US and comprised 28% of all arrests. So they commit a minority of crime, but are over represented in crime stats. One could argue that if blacks are targeted by law enforcement, they could potentially commit crimes at a lower rate than arrests would lead one to believe. This is difficult to prove.
Likely a much lower rate. There is allot of youtube vids and news out there that has me convinced that police do not care about crimes, and in fact can make up crimes that are not there or commit it themselves.

This is why I argued that other countries who have access to youtube and social media will see America as hypocritical on human rights. When you start jailing innoscent people and dont care then other countries, like Rwanda, take notice of this. Do you know how many exonerarions have been blacks compared to other groups? They are the majority of exonerations.

When you bring this up people think you are anti-American or anti-police or think America is racist rather than acknowledge constructive reform is necessary. You can only be against that if you like getting away with things or using your priviledge to get the benefit if the doubt to make life 10 times easier. Its always hard to do the right thing when you stand the most to lose.

This is why other races and blacks in particular have been made to feel like they are walking on eggshells and cant feel socially liberated like a priviledged class. Its because they will be seen as uppity and the system has ways of keeping that down if they are unfairly targeted.
 
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A boom in inceldom has been inevitable ever since the advent of the internet. It was always going to give women unprecedented access to the high-value men they desire. Feminism certainly didn't help matters, but the ideology had been around for decades prior to the internet.
 

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A boom in inceldom has been inevitable ever since the advent of the internet. It was always going to give women unprecedented access to the high-value men they desire. Feminism certainly didn't help matters, but the ideology had been around for decades prior to the internet.
The ideology was more welcome before the internet. When they start demonizing incels, the metoo movement or calling the police becauae they are too entitled to suffer a hello from you then it has overstayed its welcome and there is going to be pushback.
 

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Sorry, but black people don't commit the majority of crime in the US, much less the "overwhelming majority."
They don't? You realize over 50% of murders committed in the U.S are by black people, right?

This is literally the very first article I see on any google search that discusses this, Black Americans are incarcerated at nearly five times the rate of Whites, new report on state prisons finds | CNN Politics

Another one from several years ago here

Black Americans incarcerated five times more than white people – report | US prisons | The Guardian

Not a fan of CNN, but lol at anyone who argues about this. A demographic that is little more than 10% of the total population is overwhelmingly represented in our prison system. Trolls and leftist would say it's racism, the reality is that they are just committing more crime per capita than white and hispanic people. If you deny this you are a moron.
 

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Honestly, I really don't see that changing and I believe that black America will still continue to overwhelmingly support the democrat party, at least those that take interest in the political sphere. People need to take more accountability for themselves instead of thinking some politician is going to come in and magically save them. The issues that most people face are consequences of their own actions.

The 3 biggest issues people face that they can fix themselves

- Who you are dating, this can bring a tremendous amount of struggle and stress into your life if it's with the wrong person and you can't let go.

- Your financial life or lack thereof can be a tremendous burden but can possibly be fixed.

- Issues related to drugs

I think if people worked on these 3 things we'd be far happier and more successful as a society.
To be clear, I agree with the aspect that there is no white saviour and that voting for Democrats is not a solution. Every movement of progress is made through demonstrations and protests. What happens when Democrats are in power, is that there is a sleeping spell, everybody gets comfortable, and the when same evils that happen when Republicans are in power, there is no mass movements and people are more chill. Biden doesn't rile anyone up.

The fact is, my black family is very successful in the USA. One of my black cousin is into Real-Estate, owns a mansion, and flips properties like crazy in Newark and the area around. Another black cousin is an anchorman at a Chicago news station, and another has a condo in California and has a successful business where even mentors other people, including whites, to help set them up to find work.
 

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Likely a much lower rate. There is allot of youtube vids and news out there that has me convinced that police do not care about crimes, and in fact can make up crimes that are not there or commit it themselves.

This is why I argued that other countries who have access to youtube and social media will see America as hypocritical on human rights. When you start jailing innoscent people and dont care then other countries, like Rwanda, take notice of this. Do you know how many exonerarions have been blacks compared to other groups? They are the majority of exonerations.

When you bring this up people think you are anti-American or anti-police or think America is racist rather than acknowledge constructive reform is necessary. You can only be against that if you like getting away with things or using your priviledge to get the benefit if the doubt to make life 10 times easier. Its always hard to do the right thing when you stand the most to lose.

This is why other races and blacks in particular have been made to feel like they are walking on eggshells and cant feel socially liberated like a priviledged class. Its because they will be seen as uppity and the system has ways of keeping that down if they are unfairly targeted.
LOL

So, do you think that George Floyd and Ahmed Arbery were just total decent and normal citizens? George Floyd was confronted by police for using a counterfeit bill. At the time he was high as a kite on fentanyl, a drug that lowers your respiratory rate, and he later resists arrest and is held down, later no longer breathing. He wasn't suffocated, the autopsy revealed all of this stuff MONTHS later after the media had already instilled a narrative into the hive mind of the population.

Ahmed Arbery was some punk kid who was snooping around a construction site looking for something to steal. He starts jogging down the road to make himself scarce but is confronted by the neighbors who had grown tired of recent break ins going on in the neighborhood. Now, do you go and confront some guy over in an attempt to do a citizen's arrest while armed, hell no lol. The guys that confronted him were fools to do that but he wasn't just this kid jogging down the street, especially when he is literally miles away from home lol. The media again used this as a tool to instill a narrative into the hive mind of the population. They even had Arbery's father go on the news as if he was lynched by a white mob lol.

Relative to their population as a demographic, black people, men in particular, commit substantially more crime than that compared to white people. This isn't because of racism, it's because they do these ****ing acts in the first place lol. Guess what, blacks overwhelmingly grow up in single mother households and drastically underperform in school. What happens when you are in a situation like this? You are substantially more likely to be impoverished and be a criminal. People forget there are also poor white people, have you ever been to West Virginia or places like rural Maine? It's a white man's fault that I robbed this convenient store or felt the need to join a gang lol.
 
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