Well this will probably come across as a pretty pathetic post but it's not like i'm a known poster on these boards anyway so if anyone feels the need to boost up their self esteem by shooting down someone coming out and asking for advice then by all means go for it.
Anyhow, the purpose of my post is because I would like to hear from other people on the forums who have made great strides in improving their life overall and if they were ever in the type of rut that I am going to describe. I would be alot more motivated/inspired/optimistic if I could hear from other people that getting out of this f*cking rut is possible other than the hopeless feeling I currently have. If it's not possible well then drugs are possible and well yeah if that doesnt work, we know what comes next.
I'm not THAT deep into a depression or anything yet though so no need to tell me to go call a suicidal hotline or anything But my current rut is pretty bad. I lack social skills to the Nth degree and do not have much interaction whatsoever. I basically go to work every day, come home and watch tv, get online and browse forums and thats my day, my life. I know that the only way I can ever see a change is if I take it upon myself but getting out of a rut like this feels hard, I don't even know where to begin, it would be nice if there was some sort of step by step guide out there on how to get out of such a rut. I am not a bad looking guy at all and at one point had social skills and confidence talking with women but this new job of mine has stripped all my social life away and I have lost all my friends and contact with family.
Has anyone else been in a horrible state/rut like this and been able to turn things around for the better and actually build a social network? Find themselves a strong group of friends? A girlfriend? I honestly would be very happy just with a small group of guy friends to hang out with when I have free time and a girlfriend to spend time with. Is that too much to ask for in this life...?
I just would like to hear if anyone else has been in a rut like this and how they managed to get out of it and how they are doing now. Any input from anyone would be very appreciated.
PS: This post will also probably serve as great stomping ground for flamers to toss out insults so enjoy! Just hoped on a site dedicated to men improving the quality of their life that I could get some type of feed back.
Anyhow, the purpose of my post is because I would like to hear from other people on the forums who have made great strides in improving their life overall and if they were ever in the type of rut that I am going to describe. I would be alot more motivated/inspired/optimistic if I could hear from other people that getting out of this f*cking rut is possible other than the hopeless feeling I currently have. If it's not possible well then drugs are possible and well yeah if that doesnt work, we know what comes next.
I'm not THAT deep into a depression or anything yet though so no need to tell me to go call a suicidal hotline or anything But my current rut is pretty bad. I lack social skills to the Nth degree and do not have much interaction whatsoever. I basically go to work every day, come home and watch tv, get online and browse forums and thats my day, my life. I know that the only way I can ever see a change is if I take it upon myself but getting out of a rut like this feels hard, I don't even know where to begin, it would be nice if there was some sort of step by step guide out there on how to get out of such a rut. I am not a bad looking guy at all and at one point had social skills and confidence talking with women but this new job of mine has stripped all my social life away and I have lost all my friends and contact with family.
Has anyone else been in a horrible state/rut like this and been able to turn things around for the better and actually build a social network? Find themselves a strong group of friends? A girlfriend? I honestly would be very happy just with a small group of guy friends to hang out with when I have free time and a girlfriend to spend time with. Is that too much to ask for in this life...?
I just would like to hear if anyone else has been in a rut like this and how they managed to get out of it and how they are doing now. Any input from anyone would be very appreciated.
PS: This post will also probably serve as great stomping ground for flamers to toss out insults so enjoy! Just hoped on a site dedicated to men improving the quality of their life that I could get some type of feed back.