Damn - where was this forum last week?
I got this line 3 different times when hanging out with a girl from work a few nights ago. The first time was in front of several other co-workers, and it came out of nowhere. I jokingly asked 'why not?' and pretended as if I'd been working really hard at it for a long time. Laughs were had, next topic. As we're driving to the next bar and she jumps in my car. Somebody else makes a comment about us leaving together and once again she hits me with the line only it was "I'm not sleeping with you tonight." Deflected this dumb ish again and asked what she was doing tomorrow. Next topic.
We kill the next bar and as we're leaving alone together she gives it to me a third time - "I'm seriously not sleeping with you." We'd been flirty as hell all night, touching each other, she clearly wanted it. Yet here she was in the parking lot with this crap again and I didn't know how to play it. I said, "It's all good" and playfully pushed her. At that point I totally disengaged and tuned her out while we had a smoke before leaving. I felt like she'd just been messing with me all night and was a little peeved. During that conversation she was more or less begging me to take her straight home instead of to her car, which was literally 2 minutes from her place, but I had such tiredhead from her trying to interpret her posturing I didn't realize she was trying to get me back to her place without asking. I guess ASD is her thing. I mean I've seen hard to get but this is on another level.
So I found this thread searching for "I'm not going to sleep with you" and meaning. Painfully obvious to me now that instead of tuning her out I should have gone in for the easy kill right there. Perhaps a blessing in disguise seeing as how we both are professional types and work with each other a few times per week, but wow, this thread and forum have opened my eyes to the reasons behind almost every failed hookup in my life. Some of the things on this board should be required reading for every man.
I got this line 3 different times when hanging out with a girl from work a few nights ago. The first time was in front of several other co-workers, and it came out of nowhere. I jokingly asked 'why not?' and pretended as if I'd been working really hard at it for a long time. Laughs were had, next topic. As we're driving to the next bar and she jumps in my car. Somebody else makes a comment about us leaving together and once again she hits me with the line only it was "I'm not sleeping with you tonight." Deflected this dumb ish again and asked what she was doing tomorrow. Next topic.
We kill the next bar and as we're leaving alone together she gives it to me a third time - "I'm seriously not sleeping with you." We'd been flirty as hell all night, touching each other, she clearly wanted it. Yet here she was in the parking lot with this crap again and I didn't know how to play it. I said, "It's all good" and playfully pushed her. At that point I totally disengaged and tuned her out while we had a smoke before leaving. I felt like she'd just been messing with me all night and was a little peeved. During that conversation she was more or less begging me to take her straight home instead of to her car, which was literally 2 minutes from her place, but I had such tiredhead from her trying to interpret her posturing I didn't realize she was trying to get me back to her place without asking. I guess ASD is her thing. I mean I've seen hard to get but this is on another level.
So I found this thread searching for "I'm not going to sleep with you" and meaning. Painfully obvious to me now that instead of tuning her out I should have gone in for the easy kill right there. Perhaps a blessing in disguise seeing as how we both are professional types and work with each other a few times per week, but wow, this thread and forum have opened my eyes to the reasons behind almost every failed hookup in my life. Some of the things on this board should be required reading for every man.
