L and C, you're young , That's why you are talking this way.
You still look to Females to validate your Masculinity, man.AND your own Self Worth.
L and C, I will tell you something that will hurt you, bad.
Thinking that you 'should ' have this or that, when it is dealing with OTHER PEOPLE, WHOM YOU CANNOT CONTROL, will ONLY result in MISERY.
Forever.
hanging your Happpiness and Validation, on others will ultimately lead to FAILURE.
This is one absolute you will have to learn to accept.
What you woudl be experiincing there to a large degree is an increase of EGO and PRIDE, and some Self Esteem for accomplishing a goal (a kiss,sex, a relationship, marriage,)
When you do things to inflate or increase your Ego and Pride, you are building a house of Cards, a castle in the sand.
It is extremley fragile and vulnerable.
Because it can ALL be TAKEN AWAY from YOU!
This is what happens when you seek validation and approval from others, and BASE your ENTIRE PERCEPTION about Life and Relationships on this faulty self defeating notion.
When you thnik that a female owes you her Love, intimacy or pvssy, you might as well forget about everything.
There is no woman on Earth.the ENTIRE Earth that has the POWER to MAKE you HAPPY!
Whatever happiness you feel is directly a result if YOUR thinking, perceoptions and beliefs.
And since she is a human being, WHOM YOU CANNOT CONTROL, if/when she LEAVES.........you will be BACK at Square One.and possibly WORSE off than before.
You must work towards your Goals in life.
Build Self Esteem and confidence. Recognize Your OWN SELF WORTH.
Live by your own standards.
Expect from your SELF, not from others.
When yuo achive your Goals , you build Self Esteem.
The more Self Esteem, the more courage and CONFIDENCE.
And as this goes upward, you no longer use the Ego, and no longer are NEEDY or seek validaton from others.
You are INDEPENDENT.
You are SELF assured.
And these things cannot be TAKEN away from you.
Anything that is inside another's Personal Boundary is OFF LIMITS to you.
You are not entitled to it.
You are not owed it.
You are not 'deserving' of it. Because you cannot decide for ANOTHER that they should think about deserving or not. Only they can reach that conclusion.
All these things are DEPENDENT on the PERSON whom DECIDES if they want to give it to you or NOT.
When you view life and relatioships this way....you will REALIZE that all these wonderful things like loyalty, sincerity, appreciation, love, affection, thoughtfullness etc ARE GIFTS TO YOU!!!!!!!!!!
Gifts.
You have a liot to learn.
But what I am telling you can change your Life.
For the better.
Guaranteed.
Only you need maturity, strength, a strong personal boundary, self esteem, compassion, forgiveness, patience, consideration,tremendous emotional strength and emotional resources, and a strong unbiased Intellect.
So you can relent, and submit to self defeatist thinking, and ACCEPT someone else's realtiy and paradign for yourSELF. Sure.
Take on some loser's mentality, and lack of self esteem. Sure, go ahead and accept that you are a loser, and not worth sh*t. Hey, they're telling you to do it. Listen to them. Your own opinion ain't worth sh*t anyway.
Might as well.
Go on, give up. Accept that youre a loser and all women are b*tches.
Your life will still suck, and you''l end up an embittered ass hole with no friends or women. So good luck.
OR you can use these tools ,and grow, and become a Mature Masculine Man whom is destined for success.
