I'm a Daddy (I think)!!!

[backbreaker]

Congrats bb!



If you could see it comin, then you wouldnt be in this situation

what "situtation". you are assuming that having a baby is a bad thing. why?

 

[Bonhomme]

Congrats, backbreaker!

 

[Rudra]

Hey BB, congratulations from my neck of the woods as well!

здоровья малышу ))

 

[Bible_Belt]

I'm interested to see what this little rascal is going to look like. Of course i'm black. She's English. I'm 5'9. She's 5'7. we are both in excellent shape...

The way genetics work, the more different the two parents, the better off the kid is. This is why brother and sisters have inbred kids. If you take the extreme opposite of that, two parents with genes from different parts of the world tend to make kids with the best genes.

If the kid's a boy, pick a sport and start grooming him in it by age 2. All the great athletes I know started at a ridiculously young age. af was a state champ wrestler - he had his first match at 2. I always thought NFL field-goal kicking was a pretty sweet job. Are you familiar with the Gramatica family of kickers? There's like three kids in the family who kick. I've seen a film of their home in Argentina. It's rolling hills for as far as you can see in every direction... and an American goal post in their yard. It looks like those kids grew up with nothing to do except kick a football. Martin Gramatica, who John Madden once decribed as looking like a little kid dressed up as a football player for Halloween, held the ncaa college record for a while with a 65-yard field goal.

In regard to your ltr, you're great with women, but you've never done the kid thing. Don't let this fvck you up! It's got to be hard to keep your willingness to walk away when the woman is the mother of your child. But if anyone can do it, you can. Good luck and congrats again.

 

[D!ck Ramsey]

I didnt mean to make it sound bad, bb. Just makin a pun of your choice of wording.

If you are stoked, then congrats are genuinely in order.

Kids are only a bad move when you feel you've made a mistake or experience dread instead of excitement.

Props for being a man about this.. I know I am not ready to make that leap!

 

[backbreaker]

The way genetics work, the more different the two parents, the better off the kid is. This is why brother and sisters have inbred kids. If you take the extreme opposite of that, two parents with genes from different parts of the world tend to make kids with the best genes.

I have a pretty good working understanding of how genetics work due to understanding in depth horse racing pedigree.. Although you have the Rasmusseun factor, which is basically when you two horses with wiht half siblings somweher within 3 generations (Street Sense is a beneifcator of this), for the most part you are better off going as far away as possible from your family tree.

Are you familiar with the Gramatica family of kickers

yes.. isn't one of htem the guy that broke his foot celebrating a game winning kick or something?

I'm not as big on sports as I used to.. growing up it was life. however, iw ould imagine he would be a horse racing fan.. it's one of the very few things his parents will have in common.

but you've never done the kid thing.

I have a 7 year old sister... but when I got sick of her, I could just leave. so you are right. I know it's different but what are you gonna do?

! It's got to be hard to keep your willingness to walk away when the woman is the mother of your child.

watch me if she Starts' f'n up. we even had that talk last night. As long as she keeps doing what she's doin now she's not going anywhere however.

Props for being a man about this.. I know I am not ready to make that leap!

thanks.. I mean a week ago if you would have told me I" you are gonna be a daddy next year" i would have laughed at you. trust me when I say it wasn't in the forefront in my mind.. my parents don't even know yet. and when she told me it took a good 5 mintues to sink in. After the shock value... i was like damn.. that's neat. she was even willing ot have an abortion if i wanted... nah.. it's about that time.

another good thing out of this is I get to advoid her training my horses I just bought (and I am continuing to buy).. not htat she CAn't.. but trainers come a dime a dozen.. I can find a good trainer.. I need her to be my woman and the mother of my child. that is hard to find.

so hopefully she can help me with the day to day operations but still stay at home and i can have s 100% business relationship with the perosn I choose to be the trainer.. right now she's leglally my trainer howeve
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[Royal Ace]

gratz!

 

[KneghtRyder]

congratz and a big toast

 

[cordoncordon]

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[cordoncordon]

Congrats BB...I guess. I mean I'm happy for you if this is something you really want...but.

I don't know, am I the only one here who is wondering about the sanity of bringing another baby into the world from two unwed parents, the father being only 24, and after dating for 2 months or so? I'm surprised by the responses here. Me thinks if it wasn't BB posting this and just some nondescript poster, we would be seeing a lot more questioning of this. I'm not saying this is a terrible thing..this having a baby..but so MANY things to consider here.

I'm just surprised you are so gung ho about this considering your lifestyle and the goals that you have talked about right here on this forum. It was just a month or two ago you were talking about not having relationships with any women so that you could concentrate on furthering your career goals and horse racing, and now you are having a kid? And you kind of wanted to?? Those are two polar extremes.

I'm confused.

BB, I don't think you are comprehending the implications here. Not only is your life as you know it over, (no more just going to the track whenever you want to, or going out to party, even time spent with the horses will be more limited). Plus, its a huge financial burden. Many people think having kids is the be all and end all of happiness, that having one will make their life "better", until they realize that caring for a child is a 24/7 every day of the year job. Not to mention I believe you make your living through gambling? Thats great for a single guy, but lets see how she feels about that when it comes time to start planning for the color of the baby's bedroom. Thats not the most secure of careers for a family man.

What about her? She has a successful career as a horse trainer/assistant. That will have to be curtailed and eventually given up so that she can care for the child. I can only imagine what her family is thinking right now. A lot to think about.


I do wish you best of luck though and hope it all turns out great .

 

[speakeasy]

Congrats BB...I guess. I mean I'm happy for you if this is something you really want...but.

I don't know, am I the only one here who is wondering about the sanity of bringing another baby into the world from two unwed parents, the father being only 24, and after dating for 2 months or so? I'm surprised by the responses here. Me thinks if it wasn't BB posting this and just some nondescript poster, we would be seeing a lot more questioning of this. I'm not saying this is a terrible thing..this having a baby..but so MANY things to consider here.

I'm just surprised you are so gung ho about this considering your lifestyle and the goals that you have talked about right here on this forum. It was just a month or two ago you were talking about not having relationships with any women so that you could concentrate on furthering your career goals and horse racing, and now you are having a kid? And you kind of wanted to?? Those are two polar extremes.

I'm confused.

BB, I don't think you are comprehending the implications here. Not only is your life as you know it over, (no more just going to the track whenever you want to, or going out to party, even time spent with the horses will be more limited). Plus, its a huge financial burden. Many people think having kids is the be all and end all of happiness, that having one will make their life "better", until they realize that caring for a child is a 24/7 every day of the year job. Not to mention I believe you make your living through gambling? Thats great for a single guy, but lets see how she feels about that when it comes time to start planning for the color of the baby's bedroom. Thats not the most secure of careers for a family man.

What about her? She has a successful career as a horse trainer/assistant. That will have to be curtailed and eventually given up so that she can care for the child. I can only imagine what her family is thinking right now. A lot to think about.


I do wish you best of luck though and hope it all turns out great .

I have had the same thoughts, so you're not alone on that. BB is one of the more level headed people in here, so his desire to have a kid with a girl he's known for such a short period of time and isn't even married to leaves me kinda baffled. I'm assuming she's been pregnant for at least a month now, and in August he was considering leaving her because he told us all he caught her doing cocaine. So yeah, BB's decision here has me scratching my head. I hope everything turns out for the best for those 3, but I think there's going to be a HELL of a lot of things to be worked out once BB gets home.

 

[backbreaker]

Congrats BB...I guess. I mean I'm happy for you if this is something you really want...but.

I don't know, am I the only one here who is wondering about the sanity of bringing another baby into the world from two unwed parents, the father being only 24, and after dating for 2 months or so? I'm surprised by the responses here. Me thinks if it wasn't BB posting this and just some nondescript poster, we would be seeing a lot more questioning of this. I'm not saying this is a terrible thing..this having a baby..but so MANY things to consider here.

I'm just surprised you are so gung ho about this considering your lifestyle and the goals that you have talked about right here on this forum. It was just a month or two ago you were talking about not having relationships with any women so that you could concentrate on furthering your career goals and horse racing, and now you are having a kid? And you kind of wanted to?? Those are two polar extremes.

I'm confused.

BB, I don't think you are comprehending the implications here. Not only is your life as you know it over, (no more just going to the track whenever you want to, or going out to party, even time spent with the horses will be more limited). Plus, its a huge financial burden. Many people think having kids is the be all and end all of happiness, that having one will make their life "better", until they realize that caring for a child is a 24/7 every day of the year job. Not to mention I believe you make your living through gambling? Thats great for a single guy, but lets see how she feels about that when it comes time to start planning for the color of the baby's bedroom. Thats not the most secure of careers for a family man.

What about her? She has a successful career as a horse trainer/assistant. That will have to be curtailed and eventually given up so that she can care for the child. I can only imagine what her family is thinking right now. A lot to think about.


I do wish you best of luck though and hope it all turns out great .

1. we've been dating since Feburary.. Exclusively since July

2. the reason I don't come here anymore.. is because this place is a pithole. only this forum could take one of the most important experiences in my life, something I'm so stoked about and find a way to spin it into a negtitive


and about my GF... what does everyone have against her? my freaking gosh.. I would think I'm a decent judge of character.

People here can't be happy because they are always looking for defeat. If you look hard enough you can find some bad in anyone. It's the theory of attraction all over again. hell there is some **** I have been though and done that would turn a woman off, and every guy here can say the same.

is she perfect? no one is. have I had any problems out of her besides that one incident? not a one.. and i"ve even given her a couple of random tests.

instead of waiting at home for her to "**** up" then when she does saying 'see, you are evil" then beingt 45 and single.. I'm going to enjoy life. yesterday we went to the beach, got drunk and made out in the sand for about an hour. it was fun as hell. in a couple of hours, I'm about to board a plan to go to the biggest race in the world, a race I could only dream about going to as a child.

I'm just surprised you are so gung ho about this considering your lifestyle and the goals that you have talked about right here on this forum.

I'm having a child.. not getting married. That's what the woman is there for.. to be a caretaker.

Not to mention I believe you make your living through gambling?

finances is the least of my concerns. I can not make another dime until I'm 40 and my child will have nothing to worry about.

That will have to be curtailed and eventually given up so that she can care for the child.

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I'm out guys. I'm on my way to Paris/longchamp to catch the arc.

thanks for f ucking up my day

 

[cordoncordon]

BB, honestly? You have issues. You CANNOT in any way take ANY form of criticism or questioning of something that you have done. Go back and look at all of your posts, you just can't without striking back...every time. I have seen this over and over and over from you. How many times have we heard now that you are leaving this forum because you "didn't like" what a particular poster had to say? Countless. Fine...leave. No one cares.

Just don't forget you were the one in the past few months who was considering leaving this woman because of her cocaine habits, and who just before that said you didn't want ANY relationships because you want to 100% fully totally without fail concentrate on your career. Now we have someone saying there is A LOT to consider in having a child, especially coming from someone who has had these past issues, and you are leaving again?

Ok...goodbye. And grow some tougher skin while your gone. I'll see you in about 3 days lol.

 

[cordoncordon]

And btw if you think she is just going to be the sole caretaker of this child while you go about dancing away like you always have without having this be a major change in your life...get real. No shot.

I'm sure a lot of women would be insulted by that attitude to tell you the truth.

 

[azanon]

the reason I don't come here anymore.. is because this place is a pithole. only this forum could take one of the most important experiences in my life, something I'm so stoked about and find a way to spin it into a negtitive

Do you think you could quit slandering the forum and its community? You have done it repeatidly in different threads. You also continue to say that you don't come here anymore, and its never true.

 

[dannyc]

BB, honestly? You have issues. You CANNOT in any way take ANY form of criticism or questioning of something that you have done. Go back and look at all of your posts, you just can't without striking back...every time. I have seen this over and over and over from you. How many times have we heard now that you are leaving this forum because you "didn't like" what a particular poster had to say? Countless. Fine...leave. No one cares.

Just don't forget you were the one in the past few months who was considering leaving this woman because of her cocaine habits, and who just before that said you didn't want ANY relationships because you want to 100% fully totally without fail concentrate on your career. Now we have someone saying there is A LOT to consider in having a child, especially coming from someone who has had these past issues, and you are leaving again?

Ok...goodbye. And grow some tougher skin while your gone.

Oh no....

Congratuations anyway i guess.

Personally im only going to have kids until im married.

 

[cordoncordon]

And oh, if you let an internet forum, that you apparently hate but for some sick reason keeping coming back to, F up your day??

You have more issues than I originally thought.

 

[mpimpin]

He's making the best of the situation. I commend him for being a man and preparing and taking responsibility. Things this big totally change a person's outlook on life and their future. BB is looking at it optimistically and I think we could keep this mind. You never know when something like this could happen in your life.

 

[Bible_Belt]

fwiw, Cordon you have a point about bb not taking criticism well. I see that a lot in successful people. Maybe they are just not used to hearing it.

But somewhat in bb's defense, he's from Little Rock, which lies in the Bible Belt. I'm from not far away. Around here, we have kids at a young age. You see a lot of 40 y/o grandmas, sometimes 30something. I am guessing most of his friends from back home have kids by now. My friends my age think I am some kind of freak of nature by not having kids. At 24, he is probably a little older than average to become a first-time father. And although I don't know the guy personally, I can tell from his posts here on sosuave that this kid is not going to make a serious financial impact on him.

Wait, Azanon, is successful. Azanon, how do you tend to take criticism? (Hey, he's from Little Rock, too.)

 

[cordoncordon]

No one has said this isn't potentially a wonderful thing, and no matter what if a baby is born..congrats!!

But at the same time, there are SO many questions and issues that arise from this, mainly from things he has posted about in the past, that it is for sure worth at least discussing. BB is the one who went off the deep end when someone dared question him......again.