I'm a Daddy (I think)!!!

[cordoncordon]

BB, I'm sure you understand that to many people the stigma of people doing coke is strong. Crack *****, needles, addiction, prostitution, all come to mind when the word coke is mentioned. Not saying your girl is any of those by any means, but we don't have your "experience" when it comes to drugs, so to the virgin drug user, it's just a very dirty thing to be doing. So Don't take it personally when someone says something about your girl doing coke. It doesn't mean she is a horrible person.

But she made her bed, you told us about it here, so there has to be some responsibility for that from your girl and you.

As for why I can post here during the day, I daytrade stocks over the internet, and this helps pass the time during the slow moments in the market.

 

[D!ck Ramsey]

I've noticed that coke only has stigma in american culture. Everywhere else I have been it has about the same shock value as a few cups of coffee...kind of disturbing since its such a destructive drug.

Just say no kids!

 

[backbreaker]

I've noticed that coke only has stigma in american culture. Everywhere else I have been it has about the same shock value as a few cups of coffee...kind of disturbing since its such a destructive drug.

Just say no kids!

it is? the worst I ever got from railing lines of coke was a num throat and I was giddy and couldn't sleep.

Coke wasn't my problem.. I used to cook it and smoke it. coke was easy as hell to get over.. that's why I knew it wouldn't be a problem with my woman. No.. the problem with coke is that it's the worst gateway drug on earth. Weed leads to coke.. coke opens the door to freebase, meth and herion.

and it all starts the same way.. your coke connection "doesn't have any soft" but will "give you a really good deal on some hard" and you say **** it.. i'll try it. i mean it' sjust once.. and the high you get from smoking is 100x better than the high from snorting it..

But you can tell someone who has never done drugs.. man I got more F'ed up when I used to drink than when I did coke straight.

 

[SmoothTalker]

Well, congrats man. I think it will be a massive change, and maybe you haven't fully comprehended that yet, but you seem like a mature person and having the finances taken care of will definitely make things a bit easier.

But

instead of waiting at home for her to "**** up" then when she does saying 'see, you are evil" then beingt 45 and single.. I'm going to enjoy life. yesterday we went to the beach, got drunk and made out in the sand for about an hour. it was fun as hell. in a couple of hours, I'm about to board a plan to go to the biggest race in the world, a race I could only dream about going to as a child.

Am I the only one that sees a problem with this? Man, do you know what drinking while pregnant can do to a baby? Alright so if she drank before finding out is one thing, but come on, she should NOT be drinking now.

 

[backbreaker]

I GOT DRUNK

she doesn't drink.. well at least hard liquor anyway

 

[Last Man Standing]

I'm sure you'll be a good father IF, If, If you are in the household! She is eight years older than you and you have been together a short while so based on tens of millions of out-of-wedlock births in America you most likely will not be together through the child's adult years.So this is not a time for congratulatory salutations, it is a time of serious contemplation of what is best for the child!!

A child before a lifelong committment is backwards and out of step with the natural order of things - as reflected in our corrupt culture and familial structure!

Money and financial support is not what is important to a child - it is the presence and guidance of his/her mother and father LIVING in the household!

 

[Desdinova]

Congrats! Kids are fun. They do goofy stuff, make you laugh, and they're more loyal than any woman you'll ever meet - as long as you treat them well. Just in case you happen to have a girl, love her just the same. Treat her as the emotional being that she will be. In other words, treat her as a Don Juan would treat a woman and you'll do fine.

Now, if it's a boy, he's gonna be a pimp just like his old man :yes:

Either way, enjoy it! You're financially stable and you're mature enough. I'm not going to give you hell for not being married or anything. Personally, I think more men on this board SHOULD reproduce and raise their kids to be real men and good women. We need more of those in the world instead of wimpy men and dumb broads.

 

[iqqi]

Am I the only one that sees a problem with this? Man, do you know what drinking while pregnant can do to a baby? Alright so if she drank before finding out is one thing, but come on, she should NOT be drinking now.

LOL, I was stuck on the same thing. "WE went to the beach, got drunk..."

I was like ho hum...!

 

[BlackJackal]

Congradulations man.

 

[ValleyDJing]

Shoot me a pm if you need any ideas on how to get rid of the broad, along with the little bundle of terror she carries in her belly.

So you really want to keep it huh? Wow! Well I guess at you're age, you're ready to settle down anyways. My heart bleeds for you.

 

[Ken785]

it is? the worst I ever got from railing lines of coke was a num throat and I was giddy and couldn't sleep.

Coke wasn't my problem.. I used to cook it and smoke it. coke was easy as hell to get over.. that's why I knew it wouldn't be a problem with my woman. No.. the problem with coke is that it's the worst gateway drug on earth. Weed leads to coke.. coke opens the door to freebase, meth and herion.

and it all starts the same way.. your coke connection "doesn't have any soft" but will "give you a really good deal on some hard" and you say **** it.. i'll try it. i mean it' sjust once.. and the high you get from smoking is 100x better than the high from snorting it..

But you can tell someone who has never done drugs.. man I got more F'ed up when I used to drink than when I did coke straight.

can we see a pic of your new girl BB?? ...and also, lets all be happy for BB man..hes bring his son or daughter into this world in 9 months..if hes happy lets be happy for him. itll help him grow to be a good man. it'll make him strong.

there are afc's that run away and deny deny deny when a girl says there pregnant...those are the true cowards. BB is happy to take care of his sh!t. i respect this man a whole lot man. BB...PM me your sn man..we gotta chat sometime..

 

[belividere]

A child before a lifelong committment is backwards and out of step with the natural order of things - as reflected in our corrupt culture and familial structure!

For someone who argues that men are biological prone to specific reasoning and interaction you really dont make any sense here. 10,000 yrs ago when men would club women and migrate to pro-create was there any sense of family? Were neantherdals out of step with the natural order of things when they clubbed a ***** and left?

Anyways, Congrats BB hope that everything works out the best for you.

 

[Centaurion]

Hey BB!
Good luck and all the best wishes. I hope it all turns out for the good!

 

[WaterTiger]

BackBreaker!
Congratulations on the coming birth! Ignore all these nay-sayers (Pardon the horse pun!) Raise your son/daughter the best way you know how. From what you've told us of your youth, you know what NOT to do.
I wish you the best of luck! (Don't worry! You'll do fine.)

 

[speakeasy]

I'm sure you'll be a good father IF, If, If you are in the household! She is eight years older than you and you have been together a short while so based on tens of millions of out-of-wedlock births in America you most likely will not be together through the child's adult years.So this is not a time for congratulatory salutations, it is a time of serious contemplation of what is best for the child!!

A child before a lifelong committment is backwards and out of step with the natural order of things - as reflected in our corrupt culture and familial structure!

Money and financial support is not what is important to a child - it is the presence and guidance of his/her mother and father LIVING in the household!

LMS, I rarely agree with your political views, but I think this is the first time I agree with you wholeheartedly. I'll be damned! Yeah, I'm very strict about the value of having kids within marriage. I feel like if a girl's not good enough for me to ask her hand in marriage, she's not good enough to be carrying my baby. That's how I personally feel. My sister last year had a kid with a guy who is just her boyfriend and neither of them have any intention of marrying each other. It makes me question the seriousness of their relationship.

 

[6-heads lewis]

ive met mature 20-year olds and childish 30-year-olds, at 24, from reading your posts, you seem ready. the concerns are fair but untimely.

the one advice i would pass on is to accept constructive criticism better, if not from us, then at least from the kid. give him the impression that his opinions count, that you take his suggestions seriously. if he says something ridiculous, calmly correct him through logic as a teaching experience, dont get emotional. my dad was very calm and open, which created most of my good traits, my mother was psychotic and stubborn, and created most of my bad traits.

live the lifestyle that works for you, you dont have to get a 9-5 job, regardless of traditional wisdom or your womans nagging. if you can stay happy and free, that will reflect onto the child. if you change your lifestyle into something you hate, you will view the kid as the cause of your frustrations, which is very bad.

besides, even if things turn sour, you have surely invested wisely, and have created many contacts who can get you a stable middle-class position as whatever.

my main concern is legal, get into a position where you can take custody of the child if things go bad, and aren't forced to pay for the kid without even seeing him. remember that as wonderful as she may be now, by the time the courts get involved, she will hate your guts, and attemp to destroy you. THE COURTS WILL NOT HELP YOU.

i dont know much about legal practice, but i have seen many shattered, once optimistic men. do not join this sorry group.


good luck!

 

[backbreaker]

update:

went to the doctor's office (I hate doctors) today.. she's "very much pregnant"

 

[speakeasy]

So what do you think man? Are you content with the idea of settling down with this girl? I know at 24, the last thing on my mind was settling down.

 

[backbreaker]

It depends on what you mean by settling down.

I mean.. I haven't ****ed anyone else in about what.. 4 months now? That's literaly a record for me. even my last REAL GF, who I cared about, I was fvcking her cousin and another girl on the side. And I haven't really wanted to either.

But married? I dont' believe in marriage so that's out the question.

I don't know what to call it. I mean I'm happy.. I'm chasing my dreams and she's in sync with me to a certain extent.

 

[speakeasy]

Well, obviously this girl is going to be around for the long term even if not marriage. And I take it you will be exclusive to her given the situation. So are you content with the idea of being exclusive to this girl for the long haul?