I'm 40, I want kids

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I know I shouldn't trust her. I know she texted another dude behind my back. Don't care. I want kids.

My argument: i'm running out of time. Women these days are retarded with their qualifications.

Wish i would have had kids in my 20s

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

It's funny, i've become the guy i used to rail on.

Life goes on. We change, i suppose

I think offspring is worth it, though.

You get older, you might change your mind, too

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I didn't know i wanted kids until i was 35.

I'd highly recommend you figure out sooner. Life is better that way. You don't let yourself and your wife become *****s. Abused by society.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

If i could go back with what i know now...

- Every relationship is drawing to a conclusion. Always. It's up to you when it happens
- Never talk down on yourself (ever)
- Slap her booty (all the time)
- Never explain yourself

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

@zekko @Bible_Belt

What do y'all think about this?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP have you considered how crazier the world is today compared to the 20th century? You don't have kids in wartime (yes, we're in a war).

 

[zekko]

Wish i would have had kids in my 20s

I don't think I'm the best person to ask. Since I don't have any kids, I have literally no experience with this.
I've always thought that the best time to have kids was in your 20s though. You have peak energy (I understand having a child is exhausting), and life smacks you in the head before you are smart enough to realize what is happening.

I think a lot would depend on your financial situation. If you were a billionaire, I'd say go for it. But chances are, you have just enough to lose if something goes wrong. It's even more risky considering you don't think you have a solid mother you can trust. If you were to go into it (which I'm not recommending), I'd look at the worst case scenario and be sure you would be okay with that. Basically being a divorced guy in a small apartment with your wages garnished, not being able to see your kids as much as you would like.

I empathize with you though, these are tough times for a guy who wants to have a family. Which is a perfectly reasonable and honorable thing for a man to want. Unfortunately, the world is very evil.

 

[plumber]

I know I shouldn't trust her. I know she texted another dude behind my back. Don't care. I want kids.

My argument: i'm running out of time. Women these days are retarded with their qualifications.

Wish i would have had kids in my 20s

Find another woman. Slightly or moderately lower SMV to you. There are lots of ways to get SMV points for men. For woman not so many ways. Consider the passport bro thing. See the other threads.... In case you need/want the hotter looking babe. In the west, go smaller town to settle.

It sucks to be fighting with a wife or GF when kids are around. Broken homes suck for kids regardless if the parents split or they stay together. It sucks to realize later that the kid is not yours...

 

[BaronOfHair]

Wish i would have had kids in my 20s

No you don't: As a male in Post-Industrial modernity, you didn't have the cash or emotional maturity to be a father and husband in your second decade of life, and this is true for MOST young to youngish guys, ESPECIALLY if you're living in a major metropolitan area. Unions where there's a 20 or more year age gap between the man and the woman are going to become more and more the norm in rich nations, where rising up the socioeconmic ladder requires an exhaustive amount of training and time on the clock

Low social mobility is the ONLY thing that keeps men in agrarian and manufacturing economy siring kids when they themselves still have faces filled with acne. These fellas have nothing else to do

 

[BaronOfHair]

OP have you considered how crazier the world is today compared to the 20th century? You don't have kids in wartime (yes, we're in a war).

We've essentially been in a third World War since 9/11, which hasn't ended just because we're out of Afghanistan... We still have boots on the ground in Iraq, and covert operations in places like Yemen are hotter than ever. Only difference between today and every conflict since, aside from the fact that this one is probably going to last a century or longer:

The absence a draft = Most Americans, Britons, and Aussies(who've been at the forefront of the fighting)aren't directly affected by the drama. This is the ONLY tike in history where this has been the case