I'm 40, I want kids

[jhonny9546]

that is what I will teach my girl as well

I'm very curious to know how you'd do it!

 

[BaronOfHair]

The thing about having kids in your 20s is yeah, you're not ready, financially or otherwise. But if you wait until you're ready, you'll probably never have kids. You're never ready, or so I hear. There are a lot of government programs set up to help people with kids, so that helps defray the costs somewhat

It's not a made of "being ready", so much it is a matter of being more suited for fatherhood at some stages than others. Very few, if any, modern men have the cash for kids in their 2nd decade of life. Those government programs you mentioned have fueled a decades long epidemic of single mothers with multiple kids by multiple thugs in our ghettoes and trailer parks for an unforgiveably long time. None of that s-it ever benefited men, and still doesn't today

In any event, OP is sweating things which are already past, and which are thus no longer amendable. Far more astute to work on the future he wants to have... Most young women STILL desire motherhood https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/...hildren-eggs-freeze-hitched-KARA-KENNEDY.html , so if OP wants to be a father, and he has the trappings of a solid provider, all he needs to do is start pursuing fertile women

Ain't complicated

 

[BaronOfHair]

I like kids and think it would give meaning to my life


Obviously, the biggest fear is that i grow to love my kid(s) and then she uses the courts to take them from me. When i was in my 20s, i couldn't comprehend men that killed themselves after a divorce. I can see it now

You can get meaning in your life by joining up with a father's rights organization-or several-and agitating, politically and legislatively, to make shared parenting in the event of the divorce the law of the land. Losing things we love(kids included)through a wide variety of ways(end of the marriage, estrangement, car bombs, etc etc)will ALWAYS be a risk: No amount of protesting will ever change that

 

[zekko]

Those government programs you mentioned have fueled a decades long epidemic of single mothers with multiple kids by multiple thugs in our ghettoes and trailer parks for an unforgiveably long time. None of that s-it ever benefited men, and still doesn't today

Oh, absolutely agree. Arguably, if it weren't for government interference/activity, the cost of living and having children would be far more affordable. But that's a whole separate rabbit hole to go down.