If you see her more than twice a week, she will lose attraction

[CornbreadFed]

Again that guy..... that hasnt even lived with a woman for a couple of years.

Sounds like you have some problems to work through. Instead of getting triggered by a post on the internet, I would seek therapy.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

I was married with children for sixteen years. I know what I'm talking about.

Why wouldn't you make your books into comics?

 

[ThisIsSparta]

I was married with children for sixteen years. I know what I'm talking about.

So.... where is she now?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You will end up being her entertainer and spend more time and energy on "keeping the realationship fresh and vivid" then you get out of it, asides from the danger that she will get the impression you are simping hard to keep her around.

I didn't become her 'entertainer', but you both work on keeping the relationship fresh. When the kids were still young, you tend to get more complacent, so we'd go 'dating' each other every week. She had to prepare a date for me one week, and I would take her to a date the other week, and so on. Tango dancing, checking out new restaurants, kink parties, dinner parties with friends, et cetera.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

kink parties

Amsterdam.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

So.... where is she now?

We divorced. I was injured and sick and she couldn't handle that.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Why wouldn't you make your books into comics?

Because I'm only average at drawing. Why do you care? You only read books with a lot of images?

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Because I'm only average at drawing. Why do you care? You only read books with a lot of images?

Because I make comics.

Even though you're a prick, I read through a few of your books, not bad. Would be cooler in comics. Feels like a Saturday morning cartoon.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

not anymore i guess

No, I'm not married anymore, nor am I looking for a live-in girlfriend. I went back to the polyamorous lifestyle that I had before we married.

 

[EndlessNameless]

A lot of unhappy men here looking for a bit more piss in their puddle.

I've spent every day with my wife in a pretty small space for the last 15 years or so. All of that 'attraction advice' is for relationships where the people don't really like each other. Find a woman whose politics align with yours and being together feels like family. She must earn your attention? Does her making me breakfast/lunch and dinner count? I don't know how a bunch of guys who have had zero successful relationships give each other advice and are taken seriously. Would you board an airplane with a pilot who never successfully landed a plane? FFS, I think I'm going to start my own relationship site, this one is chalk full of self assured losers.

Do you guys not have dogs and cats? How do you live together with those guys and are still friends after?
When I've got my VR headset on, I'm in another world for a couple of hours, pull it off and my wife is sitting on the bed beside me. Does that qualify as being away?

Sparta, you seem like a super unhappy dude. I hope you're able to meet someone that fits you, same for you soulforge, I think you guys need to drop the ego, get out of the gym and go somewhere that is completely unfamiliar. Too many lonely yes-men in here getting high off their own farts.

If you want to be in a committed relationship, you have to be mature enough not to cheat. If you want a relationship that stands the test of time, you have to pass through some real sh1t together... going on a honeymoon to Cuba really doesn't cut it. I don't think most people are mature enough to make real friends anymore, probably why there are so many lonely dudes out there. Ya'll are hardcore flakes.

Agree with you but I also think that a large part of the problem is due to modern women expecting the honeymoon phase to last forever.
Inevitably it stops at one point and that is when many women decide to leave the relationship and say « i love you but i am not in love you ».

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Because I make comics.

I collect (mainly European) comics / graphic novels. Hugo Pratt, Milo Manara, Franquin, Moebius/Giraud, Kuijpers, that type.

Even though you're a prick, I read through a few of your books, not bad. Would be cooler in comics.

I prefer that readers have to use their imagination.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

We divorced. I was injured and sick and she couldn't handle that.

See...... the entertainment stopped and she was gone. Thats why a healthy relationship is not to be built on entertainment and "work on the relationship". In the end it means nothing and she is only there until her best interest ends and you are not her best option anymore. #conditional love




Sorry to hear about your injury/sickness though and i hope you are fine now.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Sorry to hear about your injury/sickness though and i hope you are fine now.

I'm fine now, thanks.

Actually, it wasn't because I stopped entertaining her, it was more that she had unrealistic expectations of motherhood. She left because she didn't think she could be happy with me anymore. After the divorce, she didn't find happiness.

I did.

That's why I'm not looking to live together with anyone. My teenage children live with me during the school weekdays and with their mother on the weekends.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

I collect (mainly European) comics / graphic novels. Hugo Pratt, Milo Manara, Franquin, Moebius/Giraud, Kuijpers, that type.


I prefer that readers have to use their imagination.

You are too serious, that's your problem. Wouldn't it be cooler if Katja had to rescue a cat. Better fight scenes with her trying to hold on to a kitten and wield a sword in her other hand. Juxtapose the extreme violence with a cute cat wandering around the fight scene... or they team up.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You are too serious, that's your problem. Wouldn't it be cooler if Katja had to rescue a cat. Better fight scenes with her trying to hold on to a kitten and wield a sword in her other hand. Juxtapose the extreme violence with a cute cat wandering around the fight scene... or they team up.

You mean Kourou wasn't funny enough?

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

You mean Kourou wasn't funny enough?

Its got too much of the 'weeb' feeling going on (much like your house). I feel like your characters are desperately trying to be warriors from cultures they've never really been a part of. That's just my 2 cents though. They don't feel like authentic, contemporary DUTCH heroes.

As soon as I meet these types of people IRL I immediately think of:

- YouTube

Enjoy the videos and music you love, upload original content, and share it all with friends, family, and the world on YouTube.

www.youtube.com

 

[Agamemnon43]

Being cared for in a hospital for 48 hours - moment I decided to marry her.
Her getting me through my little brother's death. If she wasn't there I wouldn't be here either.
The thing that I found early on in the relationship though, being around her strangely felt natural, not like any of this artificial cold approach wank. It felt like we were always supposed to be together and that there was always this part of me that was missing, like when you press that final piece of the puzzle into place... it just slides in. It felt like home was the place where she was at.

I guess those aren't really 2 or 3 things. I expect the same from her as I do from myself and she usually reflects that. I noticed recently that I pick my nose alot now and she's started doing that too, lol. She follows my lead, so I try and lead with purpose... on most things.

Theres a saying for this in China - "you and I, who and who"

Was she your first ltr girlfriend? If yes, you are extremely lucky. Most of the guys here are not since they wouldnt have been here. You've hit a lottery on attraction. For most men, work has to be put in to exude attraction. Men here are not talking nonsense if they speak on how to keep the attraction going, it's just that you've skipped that step completely, or you're just talking like you did.
And the analogy with cats/dogs? Really? Animals don't have free will, humans do. My border collie ***** will never leave me. She actually can't get enough of me every day. Girls have left me before.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Was she your first ltr girlfriend? If yes, you are extremely lucky. Most of the guys here are not since they wouldnt have been here. You've hit a lottery on attraction. For most men, work has to be put in to exude attraction. Men here are not talking nonsense if they speak on how to keep the attraction going, it's just that you've skipped that step completely, or you're just talking like you did.
And the analogy with cats/dogs? Really? Animals don't have free will, humans do. My border collie ***** will never leave me. She actually can't get enough of me every day. Girls have left me before.

Cats only hang around you if they like you, dogs are essentially slaves, they don't like you, they don't eat... cats couldn't care less. Cats eat mice, do their own thing and the claws come out if they sense you're a little b1tch.

I didn't hit the jackpot necessarily, I just found a place where I didn't need 'attraction website support' to work, and the internalized game I did have was just icing on the cake. There are certain jobs in the world where you can apply PUA material to make money AND get women, I was in one so I had women coming at me from every direction. The men here don't know sh1t from sh1nola unfortunately because they're still picking garbage out of the dumpster and proudly calling it diamonds.

If you're doing security in a vacant building, you're not going to meet a decent amount of girls. If you're doing security in a women's prison, you're going to be doing Kung Fury trying to keep women off of you. Location matters. Get to the diamond mines and you'll see what I mean.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Have you seen those guys that those women say that to them? Because I have, fat slobs who stopped taking care of themselves, became complacent, boring, stopped being the fun guys they women fell for them and to top it all threw themselves at work 80hrs a week, good job dumba$$. Do you really think a woman will leave a guy who is in his best shape, financially well off, fun guy, who other women will die to take her place? Not happening.

I approve of this message.

You don't have to be financially well off or even in good shape, but if you've got a bangin personality and you are F U N, women will fall all over themselves to be yours. I learned this from a fat, balding, greasy bartender who fvcked 3 girls while I waited on his couch watching looney tunes. He kicked them out part way during the night to come and watch cartoons with me... these are the people everyone wants to be friends with.

Women remember FUN guys forever. There are loads of rich losers but when the money runs out, so do their wives. Besides, theres always that ONE guy you invite to a boring party and he instantly makes it a bash. You want to be that guy. This used to be my job, I made rich losers look good infront of their friends.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

Cats only hang around you if they like you, dogs are essentially slaves, they don't like you, they don't eat...

Haha you have to love a dogs eagerness to please.