If you see her more than twice a week, she will lose attraction

[ThisIsSparta]

I was married with children for sixteen years. I know what I'm talking about.

So.... where is she now?

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

kink parties

Amsterdam.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Because I'm only average at drawing. Why do you care? You only read books with a lot of images?

Because I make comics.

Even though you're a prick, I read through a few of your books, not bad. Would be cooler in comics. Feels like a Saturday morning cartoon.

 

[EndlessNameless]

A lot of unhappy men here looking for a bit more piss in their puddle.

I've spent every day with my wife in a pretty small space for the last 15 years or so. All of that 'attraction advice' is for relationships where the people don't really like each other. Find a woman whose politics align with yours and being together feels like family. She must earn your attention? Does her making me breakfast/lunch and dinner count? I don't know how a bunch of guys who have had zero successful relationships give each other advice and are taken seriously. Would you board an airplane with a pilot who never successfully landed a plane? FFS, I think I'm going to start my own relationship site, this one is chalk full of self assured losers.

Do you guys not have dogs and cats? How do you live together with those guys and are still friends after?
When I've got my VR headset on, I'm in another world for a couple of hours, pull it off and my wife is sitting on the bed beside me. Does that qualify as being away?

Sparta, you seem like a super unhappy dude. I hope you're able to meet someone that fits you, same for you soulforge, I think you guys need to drop the ego, get out of the gym and go somewhere that is completely unfamiliar. Too many lonely yes-men in here getting high off their own farts.

If you want to be in a committed relationship, you have to be mature enough not to cheat. If you want a relationship that stands the test of time, you have to pass through some real sh1t together... going on a honeymoon to Cuba really doesn't cut it. I don't think most people are mature enough to make real friends anymore, probably why there are so many lonely dudes out there. Ya'll are hardcore flakes.

Agree with you but I also think that a large part of the problem is due to modern women expecting the honeymoon phase to last forever.
Inevitably it stops at one point and that is when many women decide to leave the relationship and say « i love you but i am not in love you ».

 

[ThisIsSparta]

We divorced. I was injured and sick and she couldn't handle that.

See...... the entertainment stopped and she was gone. Thats why a healthy relationship is not to be built on entertainment and "work on the relationship". In the end it means nothing and she is only there until her best interest ends and you are not her best option anymore. #conditional love




Sorry to hear about your injury/sickness though and i hope you are fine now.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

I collect (mainly European) comics / graphic novels. Hugo Pratt, Milo Manara, Franquin, Moebius/Giraud, Kuijpers, that type.


I prefer that readers have to use their imagination.

You are too serious, that's your problem. Wouldn't it be cooler if Katja had to rescue a cat. Better fight scenes with her trying to hold on to a kitten and wield a sword in her other hand. Juxtapose the extreme violence with a cute cat wandering around the fight scene... or they team up.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

You mean Kourou wasn't funny enough?

Its got too much of the 'weeb' feeling going on (much like your house). I feel like your characters are desperately trying to be warriors from cultures they've never really been a part of. That's just my 2 cents though. They don't feel like authentic, contemporary DUTCH heroes.

As soon as I meet these types of people IRL I immediately think of:

- YouTube

Enjoy the videos and music you love, upload original content, and share it all with friends, family, and the world on YouTube.

www.youtube.com

 

[Agamemnon43]

Being cared for in a hospital for 48 hours - moment I decided to marry her.
Her getting me through my little brother's death. If she wasn't there I wouldn't be here either.
The thing that I found early on in the relationship though, being around her strangely felt natural, not like any of this artificial cold approach wank. It felt like we were always supposed to be together and that there was always this part of me that was missing, like when you press that final piece of the puzzle into place... it just slides in. It felt like home was the place where she was at.

I guess those aren't really 2 or 3 things. I expect the same from her as I do from myself and she usually reflects that. I noticed recently that I pick my nose alot now and she's started doing that too, lol. She follows my lead, so I try and lead with purpose... on most things.

Theres a saying for this in China - "you and I, who and who"

Was she your first ltr girlfriend? If yes, you are extremely lucky. Most of the guys here are not since they wouldnt have been here. You've hit a lottery on attraction. For most men, work has to be put in to exude attraction. Men here are not talking nonsense if they speak on how to keep the attraction going, it's just that you've skipped that step completely, or you're just talking like you did.
And the analogy with cats/dogs? Really? Animals don't have free will, humans do. My border collie ***** will never leave me. She actually can't get enough of me every day. Girls have left me before.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Was she your first ltr girlfriend? If yes, you are extremely lucky. Most of the guys here are not since they wouldnt have been here. You've hit a lottery on attraction. For most men, work has to be put in to exude attraction. Men here are not talking nonsense if they speak on how to keep the attraction going, it's just that you've skipped that step completely, or you're just talking like you did.
And the analogy with cats/dogs? Really? Animals don't have free will, humans do. My border collie ***** will never leave me. She actually can't get enough of me every day. Girls have left me before.

Cats only hang around you if they like you, dogs are essentially slaves, they don't like you, they don't eat... cats couldn't care less. Cats eat mice, do their own thing and the claws come out if they sense you're a little b1tch.

I didn't hit the jackpot necessarily, I just found a place where I didn't need 'attraction website support' to work, and the internalized game I did have was just icing on the cake. There are certain jobs in the world where you can apply PUA material to make money AND get women, I was in one so I had women coming at me from every direction. The men here don't know sh1t from sh1nola unfortunately because they're still picking garbage out of the dumpster and proudly calling it diamonds.

If you're doing security in a vacant building, you're not going to meet a decent amount of girls. If you're doing security in a women's prison, you're going to be doing Kung Fury trying to keep women off of you. Location matters. Get to the diamond mines and you'll see what I mean.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Have you seen those guys that those women say that to them? Because I have, fat slobs who stopped taking care of themselves, became complacent, boring, stopped being the fun guys they women fell for them and to top it all threw themselves at work 80hrs a week, good job dumba$$. Do you really think a woman will leave a guy who is in his best shape, financially well off, fun guy, who other women will die to take her place? Not happening.

I approve of this message.

You don't have to be financially well off or even in good shape, but if you've got a bangin personality and you are F U N, women will fall all over themselves to be yours. I learned this from a fat, balding, greasy bartender who fvcked 3 girls while I waited on his couch watching looney tunes. He kicked them out part way during the night to come and watch cartoons with me... these are the people everyone wants to be friends with.

Women remember FUN guys forever. There are loads of rich losers but when the money runs out, so do their wives. Besides, theres always that ONE guy you invite to a boring party and he instantly makes it a bash. You want to be that guy. This used to be my job, I made rich losers look good infront of their friends.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

Cats only hang around you if they like you, dogs are essentially slaves, they don't like you, they don't eat...

Haha you have to love a dogs eagerness to please.

 

[zekko]

Question. how the fuk do relationships where people live together survive?

Living together is a whole different animal, with different expectations. I would say the key is make sure you each have your own lives, and still set aside time for quality time together.

As for relationships where you don't live together, I think your suggestion of two days a week (or less) sounds very reasonable.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

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If I get another cat it'll be one of those tiger-sized main coons. I get so tired of people and their bs 'emotional support dogs'.

 

[HaleyBaron]

When you got a good rotation, it's easy to do this. I like trying different flavors so I sometimes won't see a girl for weeks if I am favoring another. Then I redistribute based on my desire. And it keeps them wanting to see me more. Mind you I am not doing this on purpose. It just worked out like this. Ironically this makes them keep wanting me.

 

[The Duke]

Do you really think a woman will leave a guy who is in his best shape, financially well off, fun guy, who other women will die to take her place? Not happening.

Yes it does happen. There are some things you haven't mentioned that keep ltr's lasting. A few more trips around the sun amigo.

Women are very fickle creatures, slaves to their emotions, always chasing something personal that makes them feel secure. There is more to it.

 

[The Duke]

Living together is a whole different animal, with different expectations. I would say the key is make sure you each have your own lives, and still set aside time for quality time together.

As for relationships where you don't live together, I think your suggestion of two days a week (or less) sounds very reasonable.

Not carving out time to spend together has led to the demise of all of my ltr's. Never was it the many things that get rehashed here.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Klook is officially a 'therapy cat', so I can take him into restaurants. And he's way easier than a dog, doesn't need to drink water everywhere, signals when he needs to poop (and buries his poo), and if I don't feel like going out he will use the litter box.
And he does the fun things dogs do, like fetching balls I throw around the house.
Plus he's an enormous chick magnet.

What therapeutic need is he meeting for you? To be quite honest, that's fkin disgusting dude. I have massive allergies to male cats (where I go to the hospital), they shouldn't be allowed within 10ft of a restaurant. You clearly don't give a sh1t about other people's well-being.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

He helps me with PTSD patients.

Maine Coon cats have no 'undercoat' and therefore less chances on allergic reactions.

Except for hysterical wimps like you who go into anaphylactic shock from seeing pvssy - for you I carry an epipen that I will ram in your furry gluteus maximus if you dare to sneeze at Klook.

Better not visit Amsterdam, pretty much every cafe and restaurant has cats to keep down the mouse population. You'll have to find drugs and wh0res somewhere else.

No plans until the Russians re-arrange that leftwing sh1thole from orbit.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Ahh yes the internet forum badass. Clearly a distinguished member of the 101st Chairborne, or maybe a Keyborne Ranger? Never defeated in battle (in his own head).

Maybe the 102nd Fobbit Division? Or maybe the 103rd Pogues? Nah that would be giving you too much credit, you’d never have made it through the first week of basic.

In person a completely different persona, who would back down the moment anyone actually stepped their way.

Seriously man were you born a raging arsehole or did you get dropped on your head alot? Jesus.

 

[Learning Curve]

A lot of unhappy men here looking for a bit more piss in their puddle.

I've spent every day with my wife in a pretty small space for the last 15 years or so. All of that 'attraction advice' is for relationships where the people don't really like each other. Find a woman whose politics align with yours and being together feels like family. She must earn your attention? Does her making me breakfast/lunch and dinner count? I don't know how a bunch of guys who have had zero successful relationships give each other advice and are taken seriously. Would you board an airplane with a pilot who never successfully landed a plane? FFS, I think I'm going to start my own relationship site, this one is chalk full of self assured losers.

Do you guys not have dogs and cats? How do you live together with those guys and are still friends after?
When I've got my VR headset on, I'm in another world for a couple of hours, pull it off and my wife is sitting on the bed beside me. Does that qualify as being away?

Sparta, you seem like a super unhappy dude. I hope you're able to meet someone that fits you, same for you soulforge, I think you guys need to drop the ego, get out of the gym and go somewhere that is completely unfamiliar. Too many lonely yes-men in here getting high off their own farts.

If you want to be in a committed relationship, you have to be mature enough not to cheat. If you want a relationship that stands the test of time, you have to pass through some real sh1t together... going on a honeymoon to Cuba really doesn't cut it. I don't think most people are mature enough to make real friends anymore, probably why there are so many lonely dudes out there. Ya'll are hardcore flakes.

How do you keep the attraction balance for the past 15 years?