There definitely are some magic bullets. Claiming there aren’t is misleading tbh. What’s your alternative? Just resign to what fate decided your place will be? That doesn’t work for me
Evolution and change are different things. You want to be you, but evolving into your actualized self
that’s exactly what I did
Based off your first paragraph I would classify you as an introvert. However, Americans have a terrible idea on what an Extrovert/Introvert is. The concept is based off what you stated…energy management. Do you need a lot of down time to recharge or very little? I used think I was an introvert because I was shy, but I could never be by myself or in the house for very long. Being shy can be caused by a bunch of reasons such as incompatible environment, personal issues, and etc. Last, if you have considered yourself an ambivert than you are basically an extrovert lol.
This is esoteric talk to those who don't know what gold looks like... I maintain that the likes of AS, you, and others like Dash, and Howie, should have links to the gold in your signatures. Otherwise people are skipping over the gold thinking it's fools gold...
I think the underlying tone of black pill is that there isn't anything you can do about the predicament in your life. A really good example of this would be thoughts like "I am on the spectrum and therefore will not be able to make friends". However, a better thought process would be "I am on the spectrum and have a hard time making friends but if I work on my social skills I may be able to".
I still identify myself as an 'introvert'.
You didnt date since 2019 and are over six feet. Are you part of that minority?
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
I don't consider myself black pill if that is what you are trying to imply.
That analogy does not define blackpill mindset since its more systematic (ie how many matches and meetups through tinder vs one specific women who rejects you). So with your analogy the rejected guy just meets someone else on the dating app. A blackpilled guy may not be meeting enough people, if any at all, and just give up. Women reject chads too.
I geuss more men getting desperate as dating clearly became more difficult. Sosuave at least provides an alternative view that deviates from the general mainstream. I can imagine a man will run in circles when he follows mainstream reddit /bluepilled mommies/ sister advice. And the difference between for example approaching women and getting them home vs swiping and never getting a match is what's going on nowadays. Countless layers of problems with women. All these men want something, all these men seek advice.This forum is becoming more and more blackpill. People are using the terms normie, chadlite, and chad seriously. I sense a large amount of apathy and disillusionment in the people who use these terms. They feel that they are confined to a certain league, defined by their looks, and are condemned to stay there. Approaching becomes pointless because no girls will respond.
This mentality was not in the PUA community in its heyday. When you read Roosh, Strauss, and especially Pook, you feel excited. You hear cool stories and you get pumped to try the tactics yourself. You may have once sucked with women, but writers like those above give you a spark to take action and approach. They remind you that you will fail, but that eventually — sometime — you will succeed.
It is from this inspiration that I began my PUA journey. I was excited — though very nervous — to learn how to get girls. These guys told me how to approach. They gave me a plan for action. I came into college and started applying. I failed a ton, and didn’t work up enough confidence to approach time after time, but I had a goal in my mind so I kept going.
These OG PUA guys weren’t against improving your looks. No, not at all. Pook’s article on gaining muscle mass inspired me to lift:
What every skinny guy should know…
High rates of testosterone affects not only your actions, I believe women can sniff it out. So take a guy, stuffed with testosterone, and push him into a room full of lovely young ladies. He doesn’t speak a word. He won’t have to. The women will go to him automatically.bookofpook.com
But they didn’t tell me that I couldn’t approach if I didn’t have X muscles, Y veins, and Z height. There were no thresholds, no requirements. I just had to put the work in and eventually I would succeed. Yes, I had to improve myself as a man, but that was what I should be doing for myself anyways. I didn’t have to rate myself out of 10 every time I go out to “match” myself with an equal rating girl. Who wants to do that?
The above PUA authors helped me out greatly. I am having a blast at my college. I have two plates I bang every week now and not a year ago I hadn’t even kissed a girl. I’ve gained a good 40 pounds of muscle mass and can now bench 300 lbs max.
One of my biggest inspirations was these PUA guys, especially Pook. They have an excitement in their writing that makes you want to emulate them. It gives you a drive to see other guys’ success. You want to be like them. So you set to work, improve yourself and overcome your fears.
I just don’t see this enthusiastic mindset here much. There is much more complaining about the state of women in general, with the subtext being they are not even worth approaching anymore. Nothing is worth it, so the mentality goes.
Screw that. I don’t like this blackpill trend. Literally 99/100 guys aren’t approaching at all. They have no idea what their potential is. They don’t even know how to talk to girls, because they haven’t. I want these men to find sparks of inspiration, not endless moaning and groaning.
I tell some of my college friends my adventures with women, and they’re always amazed. Not many people do this stuff — and other guys think it’s pretty inspiring and cool. Why drive them off by being blackpill and against any sort of improvement? Instead drive them forward, to greener pastures!
I hope this blackpill trend changes and we can inspire more men through this forum.
I'm not sure where you are reading into that. To me, after reading about black pill I view it as the mindset that you have a certain set of traits and characteristics that are 100% responsible for what you will experience in the dating market and there is NOTHING you can do about it. Again, there is some truth to this element but it's not that black and white. It's true that some races do worse than others with dating, that doesn't mean that being an Asian or Indian man will necessarily doom you for a life of inceldom. However, it is a fact that the vast majority of white women would not date men in this category. It's also a fact that the majority of women of all races will consider dating a white man. It's true that women seem to overwhelmingly say they prefer men that are 6'+, that does not mean if you are below this you are doomed. Women will typically look for a man that is taller than them, being a 5'7" man in the U.S means that you are in the height range for the majority of women. Being on the spectrum means that you may lack in social skills and have a hard time with dating/relationships. However, this does not necessarily mean that it is totally impossible, though I feel in more severe cases this can be a huge handicap.
Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
My guess is that ironically enough the black pillers are the more romantic ones, with less realistic expectations. Rp ,like you say,will work around difficulties. Big part of being able to do this is by being a realistic person with realistic expectations of love and women.
Agree with all those insights.
My friends and acquaintances are mostly blue pill guys. Blue pill guys can get laid and get into LTRs. There are some blue pill guys who are completely ignored by women.
Yeah agreed.
