( I was once like you, out of marriage, nice guy, clueless about what work with women, until I found this place and it's invaluable information.
All I say below is from my experience and what worked for me.)
So, No, it's not a good first date. You lost here before you had her; why? Because you tried too hard to impress her to please her .This is the result of your scarcity mindset. Your actions put her on a pedestal before you even know her.
The first date should be low-key, like a drink or coffee, where YOU are the one who qualifies her, check if she suits to you ,not vice versa.
This is not an empty mantra when you have the right mind set. (I did reject women that I didn't like at the first date)
I never did more than a coffee or drink on a first date and rarely had flake for a second date and onward. (The main reason I attribute to screening hard for the high-interest level, not going for mediocre interest in hoping it'll get better . )
It's all in the mindset. You have to lose yourp scarcity mindset. Your scarcity mindset is a death sentence to your sex life.
Now stay with me here. To do so, you have to fu*k as many women as you can; only then you'll be able to lose your scarcity mindset. But to get to this point, you have to start from somewhere.
That somewhere point is the point where girl will start F you.
So, Lower your standard as much as you need and start from the bottom. ( lower standrt/bottom = the point where girls start F you. )
Then you'll notice,as you start losing your scarcity mindset, your quality of the girl you'll date and F will get higher.
Also, I can tell you that girls know if they are going to F you in the first few minutes after seeing and talking to you. ( I used to ask a girl, usually after few sex times, when they knew they wanted to F me, and all of them said almost the same = "I found you attractive and sexy few minutes into the date")
So to this effect, you have to lose your fat and get a sexy look. That means a lean sexy look.
(well, that works for me, but I'm lucky here, as my swimming and proper diet doing this job for me).
Women look at you and ask themselves: " do I want to F this guy?" if she is not feeling it straight away, she won't F you, and it doesn't meter where you'll take her for a first date.
Now, don't get it wrong. I'm not a Chadd,I'm far from it, but my mindset is on point. ( not to brag but not once did a woman comment about how I carry myself with confidence, calmness, and assurance and how that is so sexy in their eyes,and combined it with my lean masculine body from swimming, it's a no-brainer)
Like you, I started from the bottom. F anything came my way until I lost my scarcity for pus*y and my confidence sky rockets, and women could sense it.
From that point onward improving was a neutral path for me, learned what work and what not, and interacting and sexing women got easier as time went by.
good luck.