I am probably going to be leaving sosuave.net for good very soon...

[Ever onward]

I think people aren't reading what your saying Wyldfire, so I'll repeat it for you.

She can handle the insults and the flaming, that isn't the issue. She just wants the right to defend herself without the mods threatening to ban her.

Whether you think she belongs here or not is irrelevant. She isn't judging anyone else for posting here so don't judge her. If you don't want a woman's opinion on things then ignore her. But I for one like to get an opinion once in awhile from an intelligent female who tells it like it is.

 

[Wyldfire]

I don't care.
If you're going, go. If you're staying, stay.

Stop making drama's out of everything that happens to you on here.

Not trying to make it a drama. I didn't even intend to post on here after the initial post and a couple of edits to it. However, some of you either aren't really reading what I wrote or are completely confusing the actual issue of the thread with the things that have led to there being that issue. At this point I'm just trying to clear that up.

Flaming, attacks, insults, disagreements.... NOT THE ISSUE
Moderator telling Wyld she has different rules than everyone else....THE ISSUE

 

[Silverback82]

Okay...let's try this AGAIN. Please READ CAREFULLY this time. Some of you are entirely missing the point here.

This is NOT about me getting attacked or insulted or even about the attacks and insults on my loved ones. This is about me being told I have a different set of rules than you have. It is about UNFAIR MODERATION/ADMINISTRATION practices...not about the insults, flaming or any of that.

Since when does it mean a person's "sanity" is at risk just because they voice their opinion that something is not fair? I guess that must make everyone here insane because each and every one of you have felt you were treated unfairly by some woman/girl. Isn't that why you're here in the first place?
Your other questions have been answered a million times over and are not relevent to the issue at hand, so I'm not answering them.

posting threads about being treated "unfairly" by a girl is basically what this place is about

I've been viewing this place for two years and you constantly complain about what is "fair" here

I can feel you screaming at the computer, if it is so unfair you should leave.

you take the internet far too seriously

 

[Wyldfire]

I think people aren't reading what your saying Wyldfire, so I'll repeat it for you.

She can handle the insults and the flaming, that isn't the issue. She just wants the right to defend herself without the mods threatening to ban her.

Yay! Someone IS reading what I say before posting!

 

[WesCottII]

Ok thats fair enough. I occasionally enjoy your posts and I don't personally have a problem with you.

 

[Wyldfire]

posting threads about being treated "unfairly" by a girl is basically what this place is about

I've been viewing this place for two years and you constantly complain about what is "fair" here

I can feel you screaming at the computer, if it is so unfair you should leave.

you take the internet far too seriously

lol...I'm not screaming at all. In fact, usually when you guys think I'm upset or angry I'm just rolling my eyes, shaking my head, smirking to myself and thinking "what a bonehead".

 

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[Wyldfire]

Yes, responding to TOS violating posts is a TOS violation. With that being said, what can one do if they DO report posts that violate TOS and are greeted with angry PMs from a moderator telling you to stop alerting posts (even though they violate the TOS) because it is annoying them and they either don't have the time or don't feel like dealing with it? What does one do if those posts that violate the TOS never get deleted even after you have reported them?

Really, if anyone should be banned shouldn't it be those who first violated the TOS? And what about the moderators who get angry when violations are reported?

I honestly HAVE tried to follow the TOS and what I just described above is exactly what the outcome was...and more than once. What do you do then? If you ignore it more flamers come out of the woodwork. That makes for even more alerts...and pissed off mods. Ultimately, nothing is done about those who are creating the problem while those who get attacked the most get blamed no matter what they do. That's the position that I am in and have been in for about the entire time I've posted here.

If I respond it actually limits the number of people who flamebait me. If I don't respond, nothing gets done and there is at least 3 times as many flamers.

As I mentioned before...the only solution that would allow me to not respond to attacks without both disrupting every thread I post on and driving the mods crazy with dozens of alerts when they log in is to give me the ability to delete any personal attacks and flamebait posted to me as soon as I see it. However, that would cause some to get upset because they would assume that I would be unfair...so it's unlikely Allen would do that.

 

[Ever onward]

As I mentioned before...the only solution that would allow me to not respond to attacks without both disrupting every thread I post on and driving the mods crazy with dozens of alerts when they log in is to give me the ability to delete any personal attacks and flamebait posted to me as soon as I see it. However, that would cause some to get upset because they would assume that I would be unfair...so it's unlikely Allen would do that.

I think they should make you a mod.

1. You have seniority

2. You are on the board more than most mods are

3. You are mature, intelligent and fair

4. This place needs more mods.

 

[brucevangeorge]

I think they should make you a mod.

1. You have seniority

2. You are on the board more than most mods are

3. You are mature, intelligent and fair

4. This place needs more mods.

I agree with this.

 

[S0LID]

A bit of drama is fun

 

[whistler]

Wyldfire,

You're the best attention wh0re in this forum.

Exhibit 278: THIS THREAD

Stick around.

 

[STR8UP]

Wyldfire, you obviously spend enough time online, maybe you should start your own message board. You would be queen.

Just a thought....

 

[Wyldfire]

Wyldfire, you obviously spend enough time online, maybe you should start your own message board. You would be queen.

Just a thought....

I actually was the administrator of a gender issues forum for a year or so. I put up a forum where men and women could discuss gender issues without fear of being banned or censored (within reason). It was busier than this forum and far more volatile. Myself and one other moderator handled all the moderation.

I don't have time to do that again. I'm only online a lot lately because my landlord is selling the place I live in and I don't want anyone coming into my place without me here. The realtor is a pain in the arse. It's only temporary...

 

[S1NN3R]

Everyone one here agreed to play by the rules set forth by the admin. You did it before you were signed up, it was the second page in the registration process. People are expected to behave according to those rules. That's what this discussion should be about. It shouldn't be about whether you like her or not, whether you think she should be here or not because of her gender, whether you find her to be an attention vvhore or a valuable contributing member. All it should be about is verifying that rules are being applied differently to one person than they are to others for whatever reason, and if those upholding the rules are shown to be playing favorites, then something should be done about it. If those upholding the rules are to lazy to do anything about it, they should be replaced. If those upholding the rules are incapable of doing so properly, they should not be in a position that requires them to do so.

Sure the site belongs to a certain person and that person has the right to be as unreasonable about anything or to anyone as he chooses, yet he is still expected to be on his honor to ensure a level playing field for all who participate in discussions here. This site would not have grown to the current size it is now without some modicum of self-restraint on the owners part, for I'm sure that there are thousands of people that might have just been banned from the system on a whim, yet they are still here. Fair adjudication in respects to the accepted rules regardless of personal feeling towards either party, that' is what's required of every person with authority on this site. If it's not, then the rules might as well be thrown out the window and we can all just do whatever the f u c k we feel like.

Erin go Bragh, ye cheeky feckers.

 

[Brian20o2]

101th reply!

If your going to leave, then leave.
If your going to stay, then stay.
But you should know by now that the guys on here wont learn or care if you try to convince them. I doubt that you will be able to ever get rid of the prejudice on here against you. I dont have a problem with you. And I could care less. But all these flame threads are stating to annoy me.

 

[Wyldfire]

Everyone one here agreed to play by the rules set forth by the admin. You did it before you were signed up, it was the second page in the registration process. People are expected to behave according to those rules. That's what this discussion should be about. It shouldn't be about whether you like her or not, whether you think she should be here or not because of her gender, whether you find her to be an attention vvhore or a valuable contributing member. All it should be about is verifying that rules are being applied differently to one person than they are to others for whatever reason, and if those upholding the rules are shown to be playing favorites, then something should be done about it. If those upholding the rules are to lazy to do anything about it, they should be replaced. If those upholding the rules are incapable of doing so properly, they should not be in a position that requires them to do so.

Sure the site belongs to a certain person and that person has the right to be as unreasonable about anything or to anyone as he chooses, yet he is still expected to be on his honor to ensure a level playing field for all who participate in discussions here. This site would not have grown to the current size it is now without some modicum of self-restraint on the owners part, for I'm sure that there are thousands of people that might have just been banned from the system on a whim, yet they are still here. Fair adjudication in respects to the accepted rules regardless of personal feeling towards either party, that' is what's required of every person with authority on this site. If it's not, then the rules might as well be thrown out the window and we can all just do whatever the f u c k we feel like.

Erin go Bragh, ye cheeky feckers.

That's exactly what I'm saying...I don't want different rules and if nothing is going to be done about anyone else breaking the rules then don't threaten to ban me when I respond to flamebaiters.

 

[( . )( . )]

The only AFCs here are guys who get so easily offended by female opinion and who think that by disagreeing with anything a woman says (or flaming her) here will keep him from becoming an AFC. In reality, it just shows how uncomfortable you are around females and how much you still have to work on.

Wait..so calling out B.S is fine as long as its only a male poster? flaming rubbish written by a female and your AFC? ...Got it.

I am probably going to be leaving sosuave.net for good very soon.

Promise?

What a joke, how embarrasing for me to even reply to this carnivale of raw sewage. *punches himself in the face*

 

[Wyldfire]

Wait..so calling out B.S is fine as long as its only a male poster? flaming rubbish written by a female and your AFC? ...Got it.



Promise?

What a joke, how embarrasing for me to even reply to this carnivale of raw sewage. *punches himself in the face*

Manboobs...the issue isn't about the flaming. The issue is that I should not have a separate set of rules to follow. Now surely even YOU can't argue with having a different set of rules for a woman. That would qualify as giving me special treatment. How can any self-respecting supporter of men's rights EVER support a woman having different rules than men have?

The only flames I honestly get bothered by are the attacks and insults about kids and loved ones. I was just as bothered when someone made a vulgar post about your daughter as I am when someone makes one about my daughter. Certain things should be off limits and children, family and loved ones are perfect examples.

 

[SamePendo]

. . .

( . )( . )! You posted on this thread?!

Err.... now so did I . . .