Tazman said:
Maybe this is a female thing, I don't know, but it doesn't make sense to me that anyone should get overly upset when someone insults them or their family/loved ones on this board. These people don't KNOW you and don't come in contact with you in RL. They exist on this board with typed words and anonymous identities. For all you know it could be some 14 y/o kid laughing at how easy it is to antagonize you.
Again...I don't get overly upset when someone insults ME or disagrees with my posts and does so in a rude way...to me.
I DO believe it is inherently wrong, tactless and vacant of any level of class or taste for ANYONE to attack or insult the child, loved one (alive or deceased) or family member of a member they don't like or disagree with. It bothers me just as much when I see it happening to someone else, too. Hell, titboy and I have gone round and round back and forth and quite honestly, I dislike him. However, when someone made rude cracks about his young daughter it bothered me JUST as much as it did when others have done the same regarding my own child. It's a matter of principle and etiquette, and it's blatantly out of line and unacceptable to make those kinds of attacks. This applies to everyone's children, family and loved ones...not just mine.
I like the fact that you can pretty much say what you want here, that's part of the draw for me. I've been to other boards and it annoys me to have to watch closely what I say to avoid getting band. Wyldfire, it seems like you post here to get some sort of validation and respect but I can't see that being possible when dealing with the majority of guys who come here. Look at the theme of this site, your presence here is inconsequential.
I'm not looking for validation, attention, a man or any of that nonsense. Being shown common the same level of common courtesy and respect that I show to someone is definately something I want...just like everyone else on here wants. No one wants to be treated with rudeness and disrespect, and I am no different. Whether I am male or female (which, incidentally, none of you REALLY know for sure what my gender is) is irrelevent...and it should be. I'm not the one demanding to be treated differently. In fact, the opposite is true. I am clearly saying that I want to be treated just like everyone else. It's a few members and apparently at least one moderator who thinks I need a different set of rules than everyone else has. If my presence here were, as you claim, inconsequential then I would not have posts in the DJ Bible and I would not receive many private requests for advice. As this thread shows, there are many who value my presence here. If I were not here, there is no one else who posts that offers advice and input that approaches things from the same angle and perspective that I do.
You keep saying that it doesn't bother you when someone attacks you personally, yet it's a different story when they talk about others you care for. I'm sorry, that doesn't make any sense to me. It's very female in nature, hence the reason you aren't going to get much sympathy from guys here.
It's not really a female trait to be protective of those you love. In fact, it's more of a masculine trait.
Lets say you WILL be treated differently, what choice do you have but to either concede or leave? You know you aren't going to rally support from guys here so why even bother making it an issue?
I'm not asking for support. I'm asking that I have the same rules everyone else on this forum has. I also warned those who do want me here that I am at risk for being banned if I don't follow a different set of rules and told them if they don't want to see that happen they should make that known to those who run the site. I'm sure there are many who would have liked that same option when Player_Supreme and Puerto_Rican_Lover faced the same situation I currently am facing.
