You telling them to fvck off says to their warped minds "He or she loves me or he or she is just playing games like I would play games so I've got to think of a better game to beat them with and come at them with next time!"
Thanks. That probably serves as an answer to something about my ex-wife that raised an eyebrow (one of many things...) She was a woman who I kicked out because I discovered that she was seeing an old ex-boyfriend and lying to cover it up. Yet, though she went immediately to live with him, and is still with him for all I know, she kept getting in touch with me. Now, I was a mess at the time, it killed me to kick her out, but I had to. So for a while, I did limp along, licking my wounds and talk to her. But it got to the point eventually where I had to tell her to not contact me anymore. Mostly because it wasn't doing me any good to hear from her every few months, and also because I finally got my center back and realized what she was doing was all about her, and about her using me at those times for attention needs, when things perhaps weren't so wonderful with lover boy (AKA, I guess, "the easier mark"). Man, when I finally blew her off in no uncertain terms and called her on her game, she threw a real fit and emailed me the nastiest letter calling me all sorts of names, after just the day before where she had contacted me all purring and cooing, inviting me to meet up with her, following her having previously writing me that there was a part of her still in love with me, that's she was now sorry for what she did, blah, blah, none of which I had responded to because I was done. But I did respond to turn down her invite and told her never to contact me again - and she got downright nasty. That, I figured, was because I didn't give her the strokes she was looking for and do her bidding.
But then, within one hour of flaming me, she writes me again, but this time, does a 180, as she's all nice and sweet again... asking me if I still had feelings for her because, she says, she thinks she has feelings for me... And all I could think was she hasn't feelings for me, that's ridiculous. That this was nothing but more bait to try to get me to keep this going and/or to see if I'd confess harboring warm feelings for her. At the time, I reasoned that this was all about her deep need for attention, but I recall noticing that she didn't observe my stated request not to contact me further by emailing me two more times, and I think your post may explain why she'd ignore my request. But I never replied, and it's been over a year now I haven't heard from her at all. So I figure it's because she knows that I know what she's about; she knows her wiles don't work on me anymore. Can't say she was Cluster, but who knows, she was messed up.
