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Master Don Juan
So I've been dating this girl for a little over a month now. We have a lot of history and have been messing around for about 5 months prior to this. At the time I met her she had a bf, and she eventually broke up with his AFC @ss for me. Everything is going very well in the sense that she calls everyday just to say "hi" and check up on me. She has deep feelings for me, and has increasingly opened up to me during that time. I obiviously feel very strongly for her too and know that we have a very deep connection.
However she works a lot. She comes from a pretty bad family upbringing as well. You know one of those households were your pretty much responsible for yourself. She's 20 years old, and has to pay for EVERYTHING! She's on a academic scholarship, so that's how school's covered, but everything else comes outta her pocket. She has 3 jobs right now. 2 as a waitress at very popular resturants, where she does quiet well and another office job where she's on salary. I'd estimate that she's working 40-45 hours a week. She moved back home for the summer, just as I did and she still has to pay her parent's $200/month to live at home. She pays for her car, her insurance, her expenses and her food!!!
With summer here a lot of her friends from high school are coming back home and she obiviously wants to see them too. This basically has left little time for me and her. I get to see her 2 times a week right now. And even then its only for a couple hours, unless we go to a party together.
So yesterday she could just tell that something was not right and I basically told her that I've been frustrated with the situation. In all fairness she did warn me before we got involved that she is a very busy person and a lot of people don't understand her lifestyle. I told her that I guess this frustration is more about me trying to understand her lifestyle because I've never been through as much as she has.
She basically told me that this is the way its going to be until August, that's when school starts back up and she doesn't work half as much. Plus the fact that were both moving up right by our college, we will be within 5 minutes of eachother. She said she's telling me this because she wants to preserve this relationship because she knows its going to be something really amazing. She said she wants to be my girlfriend, but that she cannot fulfill that label right now because it requires a lot of time, which she obiviously doesn't have right now. She told me she realizes that it suxs that we only get to see eachother 2x a week, and that its not fair to either of us to put that pressure on us right now. We are going on a 4 day cruise in August together and we both have been very patient with one another, even when we felt like we didn't want to be.
She told me to really try and understand her position, and that she's really trying to be unselfish by telling me this. I told her a long time ago that I hate clingy girls and girls that move too fast. She's really done her best not to be like that, but I at least expect to see her for more than an hour or two 2x a week. She told me she wants to see me more too, but that she just doesn't have that much time right now. A lot of time she works double shifts serving (9-10 hrs) so when she does have the rest of the day off she'll be exhausted and pass out sleeping. I think I've been more than understanding and I guess I'm just venting, but how would you handle this if you were in my shoes?
PIMP
However she works a lot. She comes from a pretty bad family upbringing as well. You know one of those households were your pretty much responsible for yourself. She's 20 years old, and has to pay for EVERYTHING! She's on a academic scholarship, so that's how school's covered, but everything else comes outta her pocket. She has 3 jobs right now. 2 as a waitress at very popular resturants, where she does quiet well and another office job where she's on salary. I'd estimate that she's working 40-45 hours a week. She moved back home for the summer, just as I did and she still has to pay her parent's $200/month to live at home. She pays for her car, her insurance, her expenses and her food!!!
With summer here a lot of her friends from high school are coming back home and she obiviously wants to see them too. This basically has left little time for me and her. I get to see her 2 times a week right now. And even then its only for a couple hours, unless we go to a party together.
So yesterday she could just tell that something was not right and I basically told her that I've been frustrated with the situation. In all fairness she did warn me before we got involved that she is a very busy person and a lot of people don't understand her lifestyle. I told her that I guess this frustration is more about me trying to understand her lifestyle because I've never been through as much as she has.
She basically told me that this is the way its going to be until August, that's when school starts back up and she doesn't work half as much. Plus the fact that were both moving up right by our college, we will be within 5 minutes of eachother. She said she's telling me this because she wants to preserve this relationship because she knows its going to be something really amazing. She said she wants to be my girlfriend, but that she cannot fulfill that label right now because it requires a lot of time, which she obiviously doesn't have right now. She told me she realizes that it suxs that we only get to see eachother 2x a week, and that its not fair to either of us to put that pressure on us right now. We are going on a 4 day cruise in August together and we both have been very patient with one another, even when we felt like we didn't want to be.
She told me to really try and understand her position, and that she's really trying to be unselfish by telling me this. I told her a long time ago that I hate clingy girls and girls that move too fast. She's really done her best not to be like that, but I at least expect to see her for more than an hour or two 2x a week. She told me she wants to see me more too, but that she just doesn't have that much time right now. A lot of time she works double shifts serving (9-10 hrs) so when she does have the rest of the day off she'll be exhausted and pass out sleeping. I think I've been more than understanding and I guess I'm just venting, but how would you handle this if you were in my shoes?
PIMP
