PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Pimpsicle,
There is more to a relationship then both parties 'liking' each other! You recently posted on another thread that 'communication' was the most important thing in a relationship - actually the most important thing is 'trust' and this is garnered partly through 'honest' communication.
You can never trust a liar and especially a liar that tells you she lies to others to get her way - when you fall out of flavor with her you'll be the next victim of her deceit! She obviously has a mental/psychological problem and don't blame her supposed hardened past for this shortcoming - only she is to blame!
Once you forgive a lie and a liar you reject what is real and start seeing her for someone/something else that you want her to be instead of seeing her for what she is - a deceiver - you blind yourself.
You even admitted that she was a 'player' and thus a deceiver to her men in the past - she led them on to believe in something (her love) that wasn't there - you call them AFC's.
You are falling in the dangerous trap of excusing yourself of such chump behavior by thinking that she can't deceive you and that you are 'different' and she won't 'play' you because she likes you too much to do that – that somehow you are someone ‘special’ and unique. It is very difficult for a liar to lie every time with everybody and solely be honest with just you – the lies become part of her character and human-makeup!
Remember, you are just the next pimp in line! Need I say that to a man who calls himself ‘Pimpsicle’?
It worries me when a guy wants to see a girl more than she wants or is capable to see him – doom is right around the corner! Working 45 hours a week is not such a demanding schedule as you make it out to be, although it can be hectic if you need to go to 3 different jobs. She seems to be the type that doesn’t have much energy or has bad sleeping patterns that affect her energy level.
Never, never, never ask a girl to see more of her (it is women who usually say this and not men). If she is into you as much as you say then you don’t have to coax her to make the initiative.
What also worries me is the statement “I don’t want to be in a relationship (your official g/f ?) until August when we go back to school” Sincere women who are into a guy DON’T think like this or say these things to a man for fear of losing him – a woman latches onto a man as soon as she determines that he is the one she wants. However, a girl ‘player’ will say something like this!
You are giving her way too much control and she knows that she has it over you. If she is not your official g/f, then I gather that you/her can date others otherwise why not be b/f- g/f!!
She doesn’t want you to date others but at the same she doesn’t want to commit to you – HUH???? Don’t let her dictate the agenda and don’t let her use the ‘busy working’ excuse!
Dictate the agenda and maintain control! Quit asking to see more of her – just set up an activity/ function and invite her along – after a few of her blatant rejections move on without her! Don’t pass up someone else more promising based on her words of commitment in August.
There is more to a relationship then both parties 'liking' each other! You recently posted on another thread that 'communication' was the most important thing in a relationship - actually the most important thing is 'trust' and this is garnered partly through 'honest' communication.
You can never trust a liar and especially a liar that tells you she lies to others to get her way - when you fall out of flavor with her you'll be the next victim of her deceit! She obviously has a mental/psychological problem and don't blame her supposed hardened past for this shortcoming - only she is to blame!
Once you forgive a lie and a liar you reject what is real and start seeing her for someone/something else that you want her to be instead of seeing her for what she is - a deceiver - you blind yourself.
You even admitted that she was a 'player' and thus a deceiver to her men in the past - she led them on to believe in something (her love) that wasn't there - you call them AFC's.
You are falling in the dangerous trap of excusing yourself of such chump behavior by thinking that she can't deceive you and that you are 'different' and she won't 'play' you because she likes you too much to do that – that somehow you are someone ‘special’ and unique. It is very difficult for a liar to lie every time with everybody and solely be honest with just you – the lies become part of her character and human-makeup!
Remember, you are just the next pimp in line! Need I say that to a man who calls himself ‘Pimpsicle’?
It worries me when a guy wants to see a girl more than she wants or is capable to see him – doom is right around the corner! Working 45 hours a week is not such a demanding schedule as you make it out to be, although it can be hectic if you need to go to 3 different jobs. She seems to be the type that doesn’t have much energy or has bad sleeping patterns that affect her energy level.
Never, never, never ask a girl to see more of her (it is women who usually say this and not men). If she is into you as much as you say then you don’t have to coax her to make the initiative.
What also worries me is the statement “I don’t want to be in a relationship (your official g/f ?) until August when we go back to school” Sincere women who are into a guy DON’T think like this or say these things to a man for fear of losing him – a woman latches onto a man as soon as she determines that he is the one she wants. However, a girl ‘player’ will say something like this!
You are giving her way too much control and she knows that she has it over you. If she is not your official g/f, then I gather that you/her can date others otherwise why not be b/f- g/f!!
She doesn’t want you to date others but at the same she doesn’t want to commit to you – HUH???? Don’t let her dictate the agenda and don’t let her use the ‘busy working’ excuse!
Dictate the agenda and maintain control! Quit asking to see more of her – just set up an activity/ function and invite her along – after a few of her blatant rejections move on without her! Don’t pass up someone else more promising based on her words of commitment in August.
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