So many mistakes in one single post that's crazy.
But the good thing is that you are humble enough to draft all this and post it at Sosuave.
Here is a few points that you should consider if you want to have success with women:
But after all of that, problems started. She mentioned feeling pressured, like I was too close, showing too much affection, and that she didn't like doing that in public and that she didn't know me well yet; it was just our first time. BUT, despite that, she still showed a lot of interest and joy talking to me the next day. Oh, and the next day was Saturday, the actual day we had planned for the date.
You started to over-invest, over-escalate and pushing hard. Most guys do this without even realizing.
Basically, with her, I was trying too hard to hold her hand, hug her, put my hand on her waist, and pull her close. She didn't say anything on Friday that she didn't like the contact; she didn't show any major discomfort. The problem was on Saturday, and I'll explain now.
Exactly, trying to hard. You were sending vibes of a relationship so hard that you basically lost the game. You need to conrol your temper and the way you behave.
One step forward, two steps back. Again as i always say you must adapt to the situation you are in with a woman like a chameleon, if she is touchy you become touchy, if she is distant you become distant, what ever she does you mirror her actions.
Why?
because this creates a balance of attraction.
She also said she didn't want a relationship and knew that was my interest, said she didn't want to go out with me anymore, didn't like behaving like a couple, etc.
Here is the ultimate result of you having no patience. You are acting like she is your girlfriend from the second day. Also you setting a date the next day which shows way too much availability, you need to push dates 3-4 days in advance. Be busy.
Today even, on the date of this post, I haven't sent a message in 2 days and so far nothing.
You are starting to act like a woman. Get it together, stop acting like a little kid.
A friend of mine commented that if she still talks to me and didn't just block me, it's because she still likes me, but she needs time. I invaded her personal space, and she probably doesn't feel safe.
Your friend has no clue, never ask people about any advice unless they have experience. This goes not just for dating, but also for health, wealth or what ever you want to achieve in life. Forget what your friend told you.
The point of all this is: I want to win her back, rekindle the interest, the love, everything that was there, and I ruined. It was something very, very clear before; she felt something, and I just managed to mess it up in the worst possible way.
I want to try again, want to have a relationship, because I liked her, and also because I would HATE to end everything because of a mistake of this level.
The point is that you don't need to do anything of the above. You need to completely disappear. She has friend-zoned you. There is nothing you can do. Any escalation, over-texting you do from now is her realizing that she made the right choice.
Never contact her again. Period.
At the moment, giving up is NOT an option, please consider that. I don't want to give up; I want to try something. I'm thinking on today or tomorow of inviting her to go bowling and talking better there, giving her a gift, and seeing if I can get something with that.
No, at this point giving up is an option and this is what you will do, because you are acting like a desperate woman and this is a big-turn off for women.
You don't understand how attraction works. You are setting ur-self for a roller coaster of events that will follow with women you will meet and you will have the same results if you don't get your sh1t together. Stop trying to force things your own way, without you having the experience to understand how attraction works.
No gifts, no contacting, nothing, Nada.
Let me explain to you why, and how you get out of a friend-zone:
In essence you have been place in a friend-zone because you showed that you are a guy that has no clue how to handle attraction, you are a turn off in general because just by the way you write in this post you already sound like a woman. You sound desperate and this creates the same vibe in person i'm sure with this woman.
If a woman has no attraction left for you, she prefers to friend-zone you instead of actually saying
"hey you are acting like a woman, f3uck off." This is so she doesn't hurt your feelings.
The only way to regain attraction, if there is any left is to completely disappear, that's the first step. The second step is to find another woman, and date. Preferably a hotter one than the one you have tried to date right now.
To conclude, if she reaches out at any point in the next two weeks, considering that you will not contact her anymore, if you have your own place you invite her directly there. For drinks. Nothing else, no going out, no expenses, nothing for this woman. She is a low priority now, she has friend-zoned you.
If you don't have your own place, find a place.
