OK, as a guy who has struggled with this concept, I feel no one has gotten quite to the heart of the matter. Let's take a few of the points discussed so far: shaven head: check; red meat eater: check; Metallica fan: check; keep fit: check; guy mates: check; smile a lot: check; eye contact: check; clean/not smelly: check; man interests: check. I am slim by nature and not very hairy at all, but I guess you can't have everything.
I STILL feel awkward inside about a girl wanting to be with me. I think it might have a thing to do with never being kissed at school, never having a date at college and not being active sexually throughout in general. I never "go for it" as I think about the poor girl and feel it might be best for everyone if I didn't even try. So I don't. For all the external factors, none has hit upon the internal point a lot of guys who are trying to "improve their chances" really are looking for and that is sexual self worth. The only fix is females, which is the big problem in the first place. Any advice guys?
For what it's worth, one thing that makes me feel better and one piece of advice:
- Go to a big event. You'll be amazed how many ugly, unkempt and out of shape guys are out there. And they mostly seem to have girls on their arms. This makes me feel better.
- Instead of glossy porn with stunning girls with perfect bodies, have some fun with amateur stuff with girls of different shapes, sizes and looks - in a word, more "real" girls so you no longer have ideas above your station, so to speak.
