How to accept your girlfriends past relationships

[TheFool]

Hi Guys,

I've recently fallen in love and I'm having problems accepting my partners past relationships. Before we were an 'item' we had a talk about our pasts and who we have had experience with, my last relationship was over a year ago and I was the same - angry and upset about her past, I thought I had learned from that experience and would be alright with accepting someone elses past, but it's happening again. I try to reason and tell myself that I have a past aswell so I shouldn't be annoyed at my partner but I just can't get over these feelings of anger. what can I do to stop myself feeling angry about something that happened before she knew me.

any ideas?

 

[JohnJones]

I think there are many discussions of this in past threads, so you might want to do a search. Also, it might be good to clarify what kind of past is bothering you.

To me there's a difference between sexual past (which I try not to know or care about), emotional past (same answer) and what you might call shady past (cheating, attention who--ing).

 

[christz]

this isn't a problem.. i don't see why this is even being posted on this forum.

the past is the past and that's all there is to it. you don't live in the past you push foward to the future.

everybody has a path they walk, and if you only seem to walk backwards do yourself a favor and becom a hermit or something that involves being by yourself.

cuz that's where you'll end up if you can never let go of the past..

 

[Sart]

the FOOL

Good name you gave yourself. Just imagine you are from nearly any other country on earth rather than the USA. That should fix it. What is it with this hipocritical puritanical bullshyte you suffer from? Man, who cares how many men she banged, so long as she only bangs you now.

You aren't here to be a DJ are you, I mean, not even in the slightest. Get all that Church service crap out of your head and try to think what it must be like to be her.

Look, I have no problem with religion and Church, but way TOOO many blokes in here talk about the "good" girl, versus "the bad girl". Seriously, I know a really good Catholic girl who doesnt eat meat for lent and doesnt swear and WOULD NEVER cheat on a boyfriend. She has had probably 50 sexual partners in the last year, she had a bit of a crash in self esteem. My concern for her wouldn't be the 50 blokes, but whether she has addressed the underlying issue. She now has a steady boyfriend and would never cheat on him. Do you think he knows about the 50?

My point?If you want to discuss this stuff with your chick like a man, then take it like a man.

 

[jbbrain]

hmmmm..what kind of past are we talking about?

gang bangs, beastiality, squash rackets?

Let a brotha know...

ps-numerous topics on the issue. Check out:

Girlfriend sexual past
Sexual history


PS-You should have never had this discussion in the 1st plce...but you know that already..right?

 

[torqueboxer]

Whats a squash racket? Is that like a Cleveland Steamer? LOL

 

[SamePendo]

Originally posted by torqueboxer
Whats a squash racket?

 

[biker_gixxer]

this isn't a problem.. i don't see why this is even being posted on this forum.

It may not be a problem for you, but it is to other people.


I think there are many discussions of this in past threads, so you might want to do a search. Also, it might be good to clarify what kind of past is bothering you.

Good post John. Glad to see some people post reply's worth reading.

 

[Sardaukar]

The idea that The Past is not a real problem is another falsehood promoted unto men.

The situation is very simple. Men have always had all aspects of their worth defined by achievement, status, wealth and power. Even today. A man without these things is conventionally thought of as without sexual desirability. When faced with a woman who is sexually desirable just because of who she is, he becomes intimidated and jealous. More so if in terms of the above list he is only average or below average.

Even though he can't really say why, he knows that something is deeply wrong and not right, and it offends his nature.

The solution is to make men the sexual equals of women, and individual men the sexual equals of individual women.

 

[00Kevin]

I can honestly say that a womans sexual past is important to me.

Ever hear of the saying, "Once a slut always a slut."

As a man I prefer a car that is new ( or only a few years old) to one that was driven to the ground. The same is true about women. Why would you want a snatch that is over used and stinky?

Did you know that when you sleep with a girl you come into contact with all the other men who f-ucked her for the last 9 years?

Our basic instincts as males tells us that we should prefer clean young snatch because it is a conquest for us. In cave man days the alphas got their pick of the women first. This is why men today like their women young. We don't really care about how experienced a girl is. We do all the work f-ucking them in anyway. What really maters is what she looks like and how good her snatchfeel

Women don't think that way and they don't instinctively act that way. They want the alpha who knows how to **** them. It isn't a conquest for them unless they get f-ucked by an alpha.

 

[alphawolfx]

kind of blunt, but makes sense

 

[TheFool]

Quote from 00Kevin;

Did you know that when you sleep with a girl you come into contact with all the other men who f-ucked her for the last 9 years?

What does that mean? surely if she's washed and had periods in between screwing them and screwing you, you aren't gonna come into contact with any 'trace' of the previous partners? I thought the female system kills ALL trace of the male because the male is 'foreign' to the female body so will be destroyed?

can anyone else confirm this?

 

[Dingus]

"Did you know that when you sleep with a girl you come into contact with all the other men who f-ucked her for the last 9 years? "

ROFL.

That ia about the dumbest comment I have heard in long time and a complete fallacy. I pray it was meant to be joke. If not, pick up a book on female anatomy and stop acting like a juvenile.

From my experience it will just take time. You're going through the hardest part right now. It's important not to get worked up over her past and always remember what you're upset over, her PAST! What helped me with a past girlfriend was doing as many different sexuall things as we could. And there's always something new she hasn't experienced. I hear this all the time from guys that are dating a girl who has had more partners in the past, maybe even done a 3-some with a boyfriend and a girl. You're just going to have to work through this anger and don't bottle it up. You're most likely angry because you envy some of the experiences she had. It can be hard but in time the anger/frustration will lesson.

 

[The Rake]

For me, whether she's had 3 co*ks or 100 co*ks impaled her moist pus*y in her lifetime, it doesn't bother me as long as she doesn't bring up her past lovers and rate them on a scale of 1 to 10 for sexual performance.

 

[Andromax]

You just gotta come to the realization that she has had other important men in her life other than you, bro.

Just the same as you have had other important women in yours.

Its called jealousy and its an ugly disease...

 

[GaryNas]

Originally posted by TheFool
Hi Guys,

I've recently fallen in love and I'm having problems accepting my partners past relationships. Before we were an 'item' we had a talk about our pasts and who we have had experience with, my last relationship was over a year ago and I was the same - angry and upset about her past, I thought I had learned from that experience and would be alright with accepting someone elses past, but it's happening again. I try to reason and tell myself that I have a past aswell so I shouldn't be annoyed at my partner but I just can't get over these feelings of anger. what can I do to stop myself feeling angry about something that happened before she knew me.

any ideas?

I've felt exactly as you have in the past. I used to get angry at her about her sexual past, which is one of the reasons we're not together anymore. My big thing was always duplicating what she did with other guys, just to make myself feel special. Trust me, if you want to screw up your relationship with this girl then get angry with her and tell her that her sexual past pisses you off.

This isn't the best advice for you, but I did A LOT of crazy sexual stuff with my ex which helped me get over this angry feeling. Now when I date someone new I never talk about the crazy stuff I've done because I know they may feel the same as I did. Even more, I don't have any of those "angry" feelings towards another womans sexual past as I once did.

The real deal is, don't worry about it... Have a ton of fun with her and love her. It's not like she's sleeping with those guys anymore.

 

[bfl]

Originally posted by The Rake
For me, whether she's had 3 co*ks or 100 co*ks impaled her moist pus*y in her lifetime, it doesn't bother me as long as she doesn't bring up her past lovers and rate them on a scale of 1 to 10 for sexual performance.

lol jesus christ then im really screwd.

My girl rated me and im not her best as she says, im in 2nd place her best was one of her ex's, she says that its cause they never use to argue, never ever, and everything went smoothly and as perfect as it can be for the whole 9 months they were together.

Now think about it if it went so perfect do you really think that the bf gave a damn about her, he probably was fukin all kind of different women apart from her, thats why he aint find the need to argue about nothing with her cause anything she aint do or wanted to do with him, he was gonna do with some other girl.

Thats my only explanation that i find to that matter, either that or he had a perfect , "good boy" brain, lol

to reply to the post, i use to worry about it too, not too long ago as a matterfact i just now started to not give a dam about her past, now i just think to myself(and know) that im the best that she can ever have.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

No DJ TheFool, you are not insane or outside of the ordinary - those who believe that a woman's sexual past is irrelevant are a doomed group, if not already then one day soon! Of course, if you are just pimping this hor then what does it matter - besides being a disease-ridden ho who may transfer her sickly state to you.

Read this thread for further guidance... "Women's sexual past" by DJ KCGuy

Women's sexual past

 

[SamePendo]

Originally posted by torqueboxer
Whats a squash racket?

 

[AverageFC]

Man, who cares how many men she banged, so long as she only bangs you now.

That's where I gotta disagree.

A lot matter. If you meet a girl who's 20, and she's banged minimum 10 guys,that says she has A LOT of psychological and emotional baggage and problems, ones you dont need. That's saying she definitely can't hold a relationship. Maybe shes a cheater.

Additionally, who wants a loose pu$sy?


Finally, STDS STDS STDS