Im experiencing this from the start nowadays, too many simps giving them entitlementWhen women become bored in any relationship it becomes all about them.
Im experiencing this from the start nowadays, too many simps giving them entitlementWhen women become bored in any relationship it becomes all about them.
It can certainly get boring/frustrating -- especially if you are getting nagged every night and the sex has dried up.it’s ultimately boring. You begin to feel like a dancing monkey, constantly having to spike feelz. It’s a very conscious thing.
After a while, after I’ve banged her every which way, I begin to lose interest in “keeping her in a state of feelz”. The focus abruptly shifts to my own waning interest.
One other important thing I forgot to mention - A man does not have these kinds of conversations. "Who hurt you the most? Now let me share who hurt me the most....." That conversation belongs exclusively in the ladies room. Never discuss "who hurt you" with a woman or even go into details about exes at all (not hers, and especially not yours) - from who they were to why you broke up to who's decision it was. All that serves to do is lower your value in her eyes and it isn't masculine. If you are doing all the right things, her imagination will paint the best-possible case of your romantic history - one that will turn her on the most - whatever that may be, and the best part is you don't have to guess at what it is and provide it to her because she does that all on her own. Don't F that up by opening your mouth. Never kiss and tell.My concern is the other day we were talking about who broke our hearts the most.
Less really is more. Concur 100% with the post above.One other important thing I forgot to mention - A man does not have these kinds of conversations. "Who hurt you the most? Now let me share who hurt me the most....." That conversation belongs exclusively in the ladies room. Never discuss "who hurt you" with a woman or even go into details about exes at all (not hers, and especially not yours) - from who they were to why you broke up to who's decision it was. All that serves to do is lower your value in her eyes and it isn't masculine. If you are doing all the right things, her imagination will paint the best-possible case of your romantic history - one that will turn her on the most - whatever that may be, and the best part is you don't have to guess at what it is and provide it to her because she does that all on her own. Don't F that up by opening your mouth. Never kiss and tell.
At BEST you can say "I was married but it didn't work out. It was a good learning experience though." and "I've been dating here and there as my busy schedule allows." That's it.
I don't like it when she talks about her ex......who ever the fck he was or is and how good she believes he is and she felt....Hi. I am 51 and my girlfriend (45) has just moved in with me. Anyone this age knows that the dating market isn't good at all (in most cities) - many fat women, women with kids, women with issues.
My girlfriend is a 9/10 physically, a strong Christian, a counsellor for her job (with two Masters degrees), and interesting - and she has no kids (miscarriages in prior marriage - where he cheated on her). I really feel like I have found a needle in a haystack. I kid you not.
She dated a LOT in the 7 years since her marriage ended (age 38 to 45), and was living in a city of 5 million people so many opportunities. She says she was selective though (Christian background so I kind of believe it) but I count about 5 - 6 in bed from what she told me - who knows.
My concern is the other day we were talking about who broke our hearts the most. She said the first boyfriend AFTER her marriage (10 month relationship). This is despite her husband cheating on her. I said "Why did he break your heart more than your husband?".
She: "I was more physically attracted to him"
Me: "Why"
She: "Oooh, he had a body like a model, like....a statue...those statues you see". Her face lit up and her eyes looked up to the left as she imagined.
She had already told me a week earlier that he gave her her first penis in vagina orgasm, and he has a bigger **** than me. She also implied they slept together first or second date.
He left the town where she was living with two weeks notice so she felt abandoned by him.
So...now of course I am extremely insecure. My heart was racing all night - I got 2 hours sleep. How can I compete with model/statuesque man with a bigger ****? I work out a lot and eat well, and I am good looking, but I am 51 and can't measure up to his description.
She said the next day that she likes sex with me and doesn't compare me to him, but I can't help but imagine I can never compare to her big **** sex with a model who broke her heart.
What to do? I certainly don't want to break up with her, as I say a woman like her at my age is like a needle in a haystack. Any thoughts please?
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Bang her and ignore her comments about other dude. Do not get personal with this woman. Look what she has already done, she has created insecurities in your mind. Don't listen to her BS anymore.Hi. I am 51 and my girlfriend (45) has just moved in with me. Anyone this age knows that the dating market isn't good at all (in most cities) - many fat women, women with kids, women with issues.
My girlfriend is a 9/10 physically, a strong Christian, a counsellor for her job (with two Masters degrees), and interesting - and she has no kids (miscarriages in prior marriage - where he cheated on her). I really feel like I have found a needle in a haystack. I kid you not.
She dated a LOT in the 7 years since her marriage ended (age 38 to 45), and was living in a city of 5 million people so many opportunities. She says she was selective though (Christian background so I kind of believe it) but I count about 5 - 6 in bed from what she told me - who knows.
My concern is the other day we were talking about who broke our hearts the most. She said the first boyfriend AFTER her marriage (10 month relationship). This is despite her husband cheating on her. I said "Why did he break your heart more than your husband?".
She: "I was more physically attracted to him"
Me: "Why"
She: "Oooh, he had a body like a model, like....a statue...those statues you see". Her face lit up and her eyes looked up to the left as she imagined.
She had already told me a week earlier that he gave her her first penis in vagina orgasm, and he has a bigger **** than me. She also implied they slept together first or second date.
He left the town where she was living with two weeks notice so she felt abandoned by him.
So...now of course I am extremely insecure. My heart was racing all night - I got 2 hours sleep. How can I compete with model/statuesque man with a bigger ****? I work out a lot and eat well, and I am good looking, but I am 51 and can't measure up to his description.
She said the next day that she likes sex with me and doesn't compare me to him, but I can't help but imagine I can never compare to her big **** sex with a model who broke her heart.
What to do? I certainly don't want to break up with her, as I say a woman like her at my age is like a needle in a haystack. Any thoughts please?
The fact that she still talks about some dude in some relationship tells me that she is a woman to bang, just to bang. This is what she wants and you must do the same. She is a masochist why to talk so well about a dude in a bad relationship????? As I said before, bag her, use her for fun, don't pay attention to her comments dont say anything abouy it. Just bang her and try to make her feel good with you at sex, but dont get personal with her. Ignore all of her comments about her past relationships even if it was flash Gordon who she was banging. I dont like it.Hi. I am 51 and my girlfriend (45) has just moved in with me. Anyone this age knows that the dating market isn't good at all (in most cities) - many fat women, women with kids, women with issues.
My girlfriend is a 9/10 physically, a strong Christian, a counsellor for her job (with two Masters degrees), and interesting - and she has no kids (miscarriages in prior marriage - where he cheated on her). I really feel like I have found a needle in a haystack. I kid you not.
She dated a LOT in the 7 years since her marriage ended (age 38 to 45), and was living in a city of 5 million people so many opportunities. She says she was selective though (Christian background so I kind of believe it) but I count about 5 - 6 in bed from what she told me - who knows.
My concern is the other day we were talking about who broke our hearts the most. She said the first boyfriend AFTER her marriage (10 month relationship). This is despite her husband cheating on her. I said "Why did he break your heart more than your husband?".
She: "I was more physically attracted to him"
Me: "Why"
She: "Oooh, he had a body like a model, like....a statue...those statues you see". Her face lit up and her eyes looked up to the left as she imagined.
She had already told me a week earlier that he gave her her first penis in vagina orgasm, and he has a bigger **** than me. She also implied they slept together first or second date.
He left the town where she was living with two weeks notice so she felt abandoned by him.
So...now of course I am extremely insecure. My heart was racing all night - I got 2 hours sleep. How can I compete with model/statuesque man with a bigger ****? I work out a lot and eat well, and I am good looking, but I am 51 and can't measure up to his description.
She said the next day that she likes sex with me and doesn't compare me to him, but I can't help but imagine I can never compare to her big **** sex with a model who broke her heart.
What to do? I certainly don't want to break up with her, as I say a woman like her at my age is like a needle in a haystack. Any thoughts please?
That is difficult to do when you live with a woman.As I said before, bag her, use her for fun, don't pay attention to her comments dont say anything abouy it. Just bang her and try to make her feel good with you at sex, but dont get personal with her.
OP has a frame problem. You see that and it is the general consensus. If his frame was stronger, the woman would not be mentioning her ex's big penis.I find her comments about relative member size pretty disrespectful
OP does not have that rock solid self worth. He is insecure & weirded out. That’s all on him. That insecurity will rot the relationship faster than anything else.
Not that it matters anyways.... She SAYS she got her first PIV orgasm with him.Then mentions his djck. That probably isn't the reason for the orgasm, but rather how she felt about the guy. She probably would've had the orgasm if he was slightly below average in size, if everything else was the same. My former fling talked about how the bf she broke up with before we starting fooling around, was huge. Though she admitted that I was better than him due to not being "vanilla" and boring. Dude was hung like a horse, but only interested in missionary, and was feeble while fvcking her. In contrast to how I was. That's not to say she could have been ego stroking me, but I believe it by the way her female relative treated me and little comments she made.If his frame was stronger, the woman would not be mentioning her ex's big penis.
I don’t know what type of women some of y’all are attracting but if these women need to be in a constant state of “feelz” in order to remain interested and attracted to you, there is something wrong with her.
The typical Millennial or Gen Z White women needs to have "all the feelz" to continue.Or....the market of single women is flooded with women like this.
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
What I don't think is getting enough attention is that Millennials are starting to get old. The oldest Millennials are starting to turn 40. Yes, 40. Middle age.I am a Millennial
This is a really good point and accurate. I have never thought to ask a woman about "Who hurt her the most?". She needs to discuss this with her female friends. Almost all women have a surplus of female friends.One other important thing I forgot to mention - A man does not have these kinds of conversations. "Who hurt you the most? Now let me share who hurt me the most....." That conversation belongs exclusively in the ladies room. Never discuss "who hurt you" with a woman or even go into details about exes at all (not hers, and especially not yours) - from who they were to why you broke up to who's decision it was. All that serves to do is lower your value in her eyes and it isn't masculine. If you are doing all the right things, her imagination will paint the best-possible case of your romantic history - one that will turn her on the most - whatever that may be, and the best part is you don't have to guess at what it is and provide it to her because she does that all on her own. Don't F that up by opening your mouth. Never kiss and tell.
At BEST you can say "I was married but it didn't work out. It was a good learning experience though." and "I've been dating here and there as my busy schedule allows." That's it.
1. I understand that dissecting why she was attracted to one man vis-a-vis another might be tempting when it comes to sex, but even simply asking what this other guy did that was so wonderful for her comes off like you don't know what the hell you are doing in the bedroom. I also won't harp on it but you actually asking if he was bigger than you was pretty cringe and makes you look insecure even if you say nothing else. Clearly, you know this to be true so I won't continue to harp on it. But you have to start seeing yourself as the valuable one between you and her and stop putting yourself in such a supplicating position towards her.Hi - OP here. Thank you all for the wise and thoughtful replies. All of you were considerate and I thank you all. A couple of clarifications:
1. About a week before the Greek God comments in my original post, we were discussing how best to get her to orgasm. She mentioned her first penis in vagina orgasm (i.e. as opposed to masturbation) was with this guy, and she didnt with her ex husband (who was before him). I said what did he do differently? She said she doesnt know, but he used his hand also, and was bigger (yes I did ask). I also said "Bigger than me?". And she nodded.
2. She brought up the question about "Who broke your heart most?" - asking me the question. I answered, then asked her. I must say these two parts of her response hurt (I am expanding on my original post):
a. The FOUR years with her ex husband (relationship equity) meant LESS to her, than 10 months with a physical stud. What does that tell you about the red pill truth of relationship equity? i.e. it is true. While I have read all of Tomassi's books, the idea that a woman can be more heartbroken after 10 months getting f_d by a stud than from four years with her ex husband who took her to many countries on lovely holidays and gave her a big house to live in tells you how powerful sexual feelings are for a woman - and that being a good provider can not be the main goal in life.
b. The WAY her face looked when she said how his body was like a model's, and like a statues - it was a look of arousal. That hurts as she will always feel that way about him. Then my mind of course added that a week earlier she told me his d**k was bigger. Yes it is in the past, I know.
Your comments about me being insecure - yeah - I said it myself - I agree. I find it hard not to be when she has such memories and prior experience to compare against. But I also agree with you that I need to accept it and let go else it will hurt the relationship. Thank you. I also take on board the advice about learning more about sex. Regarding being dominant in the bedroom - no worries there - I am a beast.
Gray DivorceHate to be the bearer of bad news..
We aren’t supposed to be “finding” people at 51. In the jungle we would be dead or dying by then. We’re supposed to have the significant other thing figured out long before then. Men decline quickly after 40. Women after 30. That’s the reality…
For you, because for me, in the case of a relationship with a woman, I care nothing about respect. I dont listen to her BS, I ignore her comments, I play hypocritical. My goal is to bang her. When she offends and is disrespectful or play games, I distance myself and only return when she wants sex. Also, I have noticed most members use the word disrespect, but this is incorrect. The proper word is annoying.I think people forget that respect is more important than sex
I'm going to say after 50.Men decline quickly after 40.
I read the 'Sex God Method' by Daniel Rose which has been recommended on these boards. The main idea in that book is to maximize DEVI (Dominance, Emotion, Variety, Immersion). So after reading your posts my conclusion is that the 'Greek God' gave this woman her first vaginal orgasm because he really connected with her psycologically and emotionally. Having a bigger **** and using his hand played maybe 5% in that.1. About a week before the Greek God comments in my original post, we were discussing how best to get her to orgasm. She mentioned her first penis in vagina orgasm (i.e. as opposed to masturbation) was with this guy, and she didnt with her ex husband (who was before him). I said what did he do differently? She said she doesnt know, but he used his hand also, and was bigger (yes I did ask). I also said "Bigger than me?". And she nodded.