Her sudden, abrupt change in communication. What happened?

[JST8828]

Well I think everyone has gathered that , But this sort of random unpredictable behaviour from a grown woman approaching 40 isn't exactly normal

Its nice to know that not everyone here has decided to play the "She faded, so you clearly did something wrong" card.

Contrary to my behavior and tone on here, I will admit that I may not have played things perfectly with this woman, and sure, maybe in her 40 year old mind and way of seeing things based on all her dating and life experience, she did lose interest, but by no means do I think I flat out "f-cked up" as SO many here have said or implied while also acting like they know every detail that occured or think that just bc I wrote in one post that I wanted to "progress more" that means I actually acted completely desperate and texted her 5x a day, etc. Please. I'm 39 years old. This isn't my first rodeo. Would I like a relationship with a great woman? Of course. Am I desperate AFC? No.

Look, we went out a good few times. I put in effort. Everything was smooth. I spent the night. I told her in writing the next day that I had a very nice time with you last night. Four days later, not four weeks later, I asked her out for a drink. Could I have asked her out the next day or two days later instead? Sure. Was asking to just get a drink the day of a little "weak" as opposed to something slightly bigger considering she just gave me sex? Yes, in retrospect it definitely could have been and probably should have been. BUT, for this woman to think that what I "did" (and this is all theoretical of course) was so wrong that she was turned off and decided at 40 years old to start slow fading without even the slightest bit of honesty over how she was feeling? To think that when I reached back out the following week and tried getting bigger plans going that she started responding with super brief answers and then didn't get back to me when she said she would? Sorry, but I have to agree that an interpersonal game like is quite immature for someone her age.

For the record, I can tell you from my own experience, when I have a change in feelings towards a woman, if she's still reaching out and doesn't get the hint, I will almost always throw some form of honesty her way in a text to let her know whats going on. To me, its just easier and saves me the time and potential anxiety of seeing her continuing to reach out.

 

[Ricky]

I just posted about this^, that sudden switch/turn off.

And it can happen suddenly, just like a lightswitch!

As I've matured and become more self-aware and enlightened, it happens less often but it's still true on some level.

For myself anyway, I'm not sure if all women experience it.

I was light switched by my wife and i never had experienced anything like that before from a woman.