Haven't FAP for 6+ months.

cuzza

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I see this going only one way. You stop masturbating for a month. You eventually (probably not if masturbation is such a big issue for you) manage to get with a girl. You last all of 2 seconds.

To me this is stupid.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Day 27

**** masturbating/porn i'm not going back to it I really see no point to it
anymore, for me it really was just a 'coping method' or 'temporary stress reliever' it really helps get you in that mindset of always taking action. It's always been a way of getting instant satisfaction/gratification for me.

In these 27 days I have noticed several changes
my confidence has increased
my self esteem has improved
my conversation skills have gotten better
my anxiety is virtually non existent

I used to get depressed/feel ****ty on the regular but since quitting masturbating i either feel "ok" or "extremely happy" like a feeling of being on top of the world.

Once you ask yourself the question "How does porn/masturbation benefit me in any way?" and realize that there is really no benefit to it for yourself.
 

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Doesn't no-fapping at all for that long period (90 days) make you bust a nut too quickly when you're having sex? I think just as fapping too much can cause erectile dysfunction, so can no-fapping make you a minute man. Some even seconds.

So my theory is that masturbation is good in moderation. Once a week. That's my rule
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

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cuzza said:
I see this going only one way. You stop masturbating for a month. You eventually (probably not if masturbation is such a big issue for you) manage to get with a girl. You last all of 2 seconds.

To me this is stupid.
Exactly. It's dumb if you ask me. You waited that long to get laughed at by the girl you're with just because you bust a nut before even sticking it in
 

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Clench2465 said:
Exactly. It's dumb if you ask me. You waited that long to get laughed at by the girl you're with just because you bust a nut before even sticking it in
That isnt necessarily true...I didnt jerk it for a week and then I got head from my gf and I lasted over 20 min
 

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ediceneet12 said:
In these 27 days I have noticed several changes
my confidence has increased
my self esteem has improved
my conversation skills have gotten better
my anxiety is virtually non existent
Do all of these changes go away after you've had sex as well? Or is it only if you masturbate? If the latter, what do you guys figure is the chemical or psychological difference between an orgasm via a bang and an orgasm via masturbation?

I am also aware, while asking this, that most guys involved in this experiment don't seem to be getting laid... But if you're one of the few, very interested to hear your take.
 

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TheCWord said:
Do all of these changes go away after you've had sex as well? Or is it only if you masturbate? If the latter, what do you guys figure is the chemical or psychological difference between an orgasm via a bang and an orgasm via masturbation?

I am also aware, while asking this, that most guys involved in this experiment don't seem to be getting laid... But if you're one of the few, very interested to hear your take.
When you masterbate you dont experience the strong emotions you experience with another human witch helps stress and have other healthy benefits for health. It's a huge difference.

Yes I notice a difference. Read through that posts i mention it here.
 

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TheCWord said:
Do all of these changes go away after you've had sex as well? Or is it only if you masturbate? If the latter, what do you guys figure is the chemical or psychological difference between an orgasm via a bang and an orgasm via masturbation?

I am also aware, while asking this, that most guys involved in this experiment don't seem to be getting laid... But if you're one of the few, very interested to hear your take.
No I am not getting laid, for an AFC like myself it gives me a nice little placebo effect.. though I've heard tons of stories of other people who have quit masturbation entirely and saw improvement's in there everyday life.

Something i realized today was i feel almost equal to some of my more 'alpha' friends. I used to be timid/hesitant around one of my friends but now i'm not.

I've also been approached bye chicks for the first time in my life in these 27 days, and have had girls call out **** like "ooh he's hot". I'm not going to put all of that on Nofap though.

Just give it a try, though be warned it's not a magical cure. Along with nofap/lifting/running and reading sosuave articles I've made a tremendous change in my life along with an improvement of my self esteem.
 
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And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Oh **** and too answer your question TheCWord

the first time i relapsed I noticed many of the differences I supposedly thought I had gained
from Nofap did go away. I felt like **** after I masturbated I'm not sure if i'm giving up masturbation
totally but probably until I get a few girls in my life too fvck around with.

I do not see nofap as something i'll be doing for the rest of my life. But I think it's
a great thing for anyone who has been in a rut in there life too give a try.

EDIT: Plus after i fap i become really ****ing lazy and uninterested in alot of my hobbies, I guess
it's made my life a little bit more colorful to say the least. In the end it should just be FOR YOURSELF.
 

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Once a month is okay once you make it past 90 days. You learn to deal with kicking the habit in general once you reach that point. At once a month it's no longer a "routine". Of course a benefit of not being a regular fapper is that you SHOULD be getting laid more. But still fapping once a month helps, especially for us horny fuggers in our 20's. I could get laid several times a day and still want more. I hope the curse lifts when I reach my 30's..

I could never go back to being a regular fapper. You are basically castrating yourself if you do so. You don't have that strong drive to go out and meet women like you do when you abstain.

Trust me, it's worth abstaining right now...
 

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Look guys, I don't know if I'm one pill short of what you guys are taking but I've made the 20th day today and if anything, I've only seen the opposite of all the results you guys are seeing. I'm more jittery and nervous now, and my hormones is through the roof around women. I'm less confident and find it harder than ever before talking to a female. Before I started this ****, I was calm and natural with conversation with people, especially females. Now it's the complete opposite. I'm sweating under the arms now and sweat busting out on my forehead when talking to females. Just nervous as hell. Problems I didn't have before. Sorry but **** this ****.

I'm taking 17 credit hour courses anyways which means I'm busy with school ALL the time, which means I'm not getting laid as much as I should've. So, you guys can have the 90 days no fapping rule. I just don't see the point in fighting one of the most natural human act and feelings. Everything with balance and moderation of course. It's not like I'm fapping everyday. Once a week is cool with me. So if you don't mind, I'm going to go bust out my lotion and have me a one on one time.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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