TM,
you have honorable intentions, man.
You have a good heart.
Now you know why the pursuit of high character runs high on the list for the man who wants Self Realization.
TM, the best thing you can do right now, is focus on exploring those areas where you feel a little 'immature'.
Focus on those places where youhave negative/self limiting beliefs.
That's the stuff that is holding you back.
That 'gunk' that lies deep in the subconscious.
Im not saying to hold on to the dream of reconnecting with the ex, but you must regain your perspective, and strength, and really face your demons and make a concerted effort to get your life on course.
You are really a strong example for men everywhere who can relate to you and your expereinces, and your current outlook.
That means that we should work on living a good life, with no regrets. And always looking for growth and new experiences to aid us in that endeavour.
But remember, not having a lot of money is not a moral failing.
It is not a lack of virtue.
But money is a tool. It helps create more opportunities.
And we as mature men, have to recognize that if we dont have that area well covered, I mean we are really paying attention to it, finding reosurces, opportunities, budgeting, spending wisely, investing and saving, and being shrewd in spending habits, we put a HUGE strain on a relationship with a woman.
I know that a mature healthy woman will still love her man even if he doesnt have a bright financial picture.
But it can definitely limit the experiences and sense of assurednes that we like to have.
Having money does not help 'game'. It does not give you extra special psychokinetic super powers to be a Master DJ, the artiste of Seduction....
If you are boring and dull, and have no passion...
it doesnt matter how much money you have.
Women arent going to feel your sexuality and your masculine power.
Which is what they want, and ultimately truly VALUE and remember...
Having money attracts a lot of women.
But not sexual attraction.
And not INTEREST from women who believe in romantic love, not just 'affection'.
Good marriages and relationships in general are successful when there's real love, not ONLY Affection.
So yes, having bank attracts the women who arent really interested in YOU as a person, it attracts those women who want your status, and provisioning.
Having a lot of money means you have to be even MORE discerning and truly skilled at qualifying the potential women.
But like I said, money does not inject you with "game" and raw sexual charm and charisma, or masculinity.
SO keep things in proper perspective.
Realize that perhaps this woman was not an ideal candidate as you thought she was. Maybe she has changed, maybe not.
You may want to really integrate the concept of Attracting a woman similar to her, but perhaps with a higher charcater and capacity to love.
I believe that ruight now you may be suffering form a little lack of emotional intimacy, and may start to 'idealize' her, and the relationship you HAD. Which is not really healthy.
Again, Im not saying DONT try to reconnect, BUT...
she did display some doubtful behavior. And I truly hope youre not justifying her behavior or rationalzing it for her.
You are not responsible for her perceptions of you or her behavior. This is imperative to understand and fully integrate into your overall Life Concept.
I think you should reamin open to the possibility, but be more focused on attracting a woman similar to her in the best light , with all the good qualities.
You must stay focused on your SELF, your Self Cultivation ALWAYS.
With or without a woman in your life.
And you are always supposed to be working on your Mission.
Again, with or without a woman in your life.
Improvement means GROWTH.
So work on growing, by asking questons, and exploring.
It doesnt hurt to expereince and ask questions, even if you dont like the answers...
What hurts is staying too DEEP inside one's comfort zone. and having fear intimidate one into inaction.
Men grow up not wanting to deal with their emotions. And their past negative expereinces and trauma.
This perspective only hurts one , in the short term and long term, and hinders growth...and yes...maturity.
We need to relearn how to live.
The mature masculine man works on these concepts every day.
In every interaction.
And does the best he can to not cast a 'negative' light on everything.
It is all an experiment. And one step closer to growth and accomplishing our goals towards our ultimate mission in life.
Anyway, I applaud your efforts, TM. And your good intentions and honorable intentions overall.
We need to become the Best men we can be.
SO that we can attract those things in life we truly wish to have...people, places, and things.
It always makes sense to think in becoming the masculine counterpart to the femenine partner we envision in our lives.
If we want a high class, high character woman who is kind, living and affectionate, thoughtful of us, and caring...then we have to be the masculine counterpart to her.
We must have those traits in our own Being as well.
You cant expect to be a slob with no life, and no values or opinions, no goals , dreams, or ambition and want some supermodel high class executive who is sweet, and caring etc..
You just wont 'match'.
Those type of women dont even notice men like that.
They dont even appear on their 'radar'.
Im a big beliver of the Law of Attraction.
And I believe this applies to partnering as well.
In addition to asserting your Personal Boundary, your basci character level will be the main 'attractor' of women to you.
Especially If what you want is something deeper, meaningful and long term.
having a strong personal boundary helps one deal with potential heartbreak much more decisively.
You may feel some pain. but when you realize she's no good for you, you can assert yourself with much more conviction, and walk away when you need to.
You can emotionally divest, and keep your masculinity and resources from being abused and 'leaking' out. You wont feel like someone is dominating you or making your decisions for you. And you cn take a step baqck and be more logical about things..
Good luck and stay strong, man
