'The Glide' (wing) was meant to be out with me but I got a text Friday morning saying he had man-flu. I felt good about it because I now am happy to go aout alone, months ago I would have been crushed "oh no, i have no one to go out with" ha ha. This was a realisation.
I had been out Thursday night with friends in the big smoke so Friday I was shattered. I almost didn't go out. I find it interesting when you commit to something, you just do it anyway. I know that feeling of tiredness leaves once I energise through the evening. It's pushing through it.
Friday
Where: Bar Kohl, trendy Vodka bar & Club Revolution Max capacity 1500 Medium size
When: 27/06/14
With who: Alone
Strategy: Initial strategy: work on logistics and try to move the chick out the club or bounce somewhere else. The strategy i actually used was different because I was tired, i was just out to have fun and get a few kisses. A bit of game maintenance.
Pre-club bar: Groups of people after work seemed to be here. I was far more relaxed than what I thought I would be. I had good chat with the bouncers who settled my initial butterflies. I went in and started to mingle straight off the bat opening some chick at the bar, then chatting with bar staff. The mood was light, this was warm-up territory. It's not a big place and is the sort of place where people would know you are on your own so I didn't stay too long. I mainly hung around at the bar area where there were more people as this seemed less noticeable and easier to meet randoms.
Had a few interesting chats about the world cup etc and Glastonbury (since the festival is on) and not much else happening but my state was becoming more open, relaxed, aware. Drunk people have an energy that is contagious and easy to relate to.
I opened double-sets with relative ease since I wasn't going for the usual cave-man grab the chick and kiss routine. All warming up.
Rocked up, round the corner to Club Revolution. By this point I was feeling very confident. The bouncers seemed sketchy thinking I was in a big group but was coming in alone. I just said I was just out after work looking for a dance. Inside the club was pretty easy.
Observations: lots of slvtty looking girls, chicks 30+, this was going to be interesting
Approaches: 50+
Opens lots of relaxed openers. "what's your name?" not very original but worked well. "fvck me you are sexy" worked really well. " YOU get here " slightly cave-man. This at the moment seems to be my default gaming style. "Hey slvt, dance with me, show me what you got!" - this annoyed and challenged some, good banter though which increased my state. "You're too old to be doing this" crazy, but worked well. Chicks in their 30's seem to have a sense of humour, where younger chicks freak out.
Attraction - didn't try as hard tonight, coz i wasn't that bothered. Perhaps this worked better for me and my expectations. Girls seemed to dig my vibe and appeared to find me sexy.
Comfort - I was much more comfortable, which i think translated my in my vibe. Less need to practice or do anything and more about just letting go. I really enjoyed it which meant that i was emanating that vibe, so this made it easy to chat and be at ease.
Close - kissed 9 women, 3 numbers
Kisses: on the dancefloor, grab, smile, spin her, pull her in close, no chat, kiss.
Numbers: Pulled them off the dancefloor, " I cant hear you, lets go over here" bounced the chicks into a quiet spot. "what's your name" bit of chat still difficult to hear, more kiss, "give me your number, we can hook up where it's not so noisy" not the greatest thing to say but in the moment it seemed alright, kiss, part ways. No intention of the pull. Same thing for the others.
Nice ozzy chick I want to get fired into, 25, gorgeous. Will see what manifests.
How to do better: Great night. Find more places which are like this. Different types of people go to different clubs. People here seemed much more relaxed but maybe that was just me. Again, I couldn't really be bothered but ironically turned out better than what some other nights went. So this may indicate I'm trying too hard at certain aspects. I ned to focus on spending more time with the chicks, definitely. I'm going for quantity but i should be going for quality. If I get the chick, kiss her, then she is into me, I need to work on the next steps, building deep rapport, more attraction, bouncing her to another venue, perhaps going outside to get food and create 'shared experiences' and intimate one on one time instead of getting the kiss and number and leaving her. This may indicate lack of interest to her. Will reflect further.
Now listening to old skool tunes for meet-up with friends to play pool. They might be coming out but if not, I will follow the schedule and will work on my mistakes from last night