Ok so, both 20 years old.
This is from the start of our relationship, and I'm not sure what this means, if I should still care, or if I should give her the boot.
Anyway; meet girl, we start hooking up and start going on dates.
At this point we've been going out for about 2-3 weeks
At a college party one night, this kid out of no wheres says hi to her, asks me where I am from, tells me to go find a girl that lives where I am from... almost start a fight with him.
Next morning, ask her who he is and why is he is so jealous etc.
She says that they are just friends.
I ask if they ever hooked up - she says yes.
I ask if they did anything more than hooking up that is causing him to be jealous... she said NO...At this point I realize it is the same kid who, when me and her had been at a bus stop turns around and asked her what she was doing that night...I told her that this kid is trouble, and that she needs to get him out of her life because it is going to ruin our relationship. Asked her if they were friends on facebook, and told her that I'm not going to tell her to delete him, but that she needs to get him out of her life because it's causing problems and almost fist fights... Asked her about it the next two days, she said she hadn't. I drop it. Then two days later out of nowhere she said she did. Great...
Fast forward to when we have been dating for about 3-4 months, one night we are drunkingly talking and she says that she got fingered by this kid (this is before I knew her.)...
I told her soberly that this made me uncomfortable and that it is disrespectful to talk to someone she used to hook up with/did stuff with. She agreed, and I asked her why.. she said she didn't know except she liked the attention, but that they weren't texting
What annoyed me the most was, she would always talk about how much she DIDNT want to hook up with this kid, etc... and even when I told her that is b.s. she would get defensive, and after I learned what I did when we were both really drunk (she didn't remember telling me), I asked her again sober if she ever did more than make out, and she said No, at which point I told her what she said drunk to me. She admitted it then that they had hooked up twice, and the second time he fingered her but pressured her to touch his dic, she says she didn't. (whether I believe this or not, it doesn't really matter, that's NOT the point of the thread.)
This still bothers me to this day, even though we had only been going out for 2-3 weeks. I wonder what if I hadn't told her she needs to get this kid out of her life because of the problems it was causing? Would she still have talked to him?
/rant
inb4 OP is controlling, insecure, jealous.
Yes telling her that she needs to get him out of her life may not have been the best move, but at the time, it was better than fighting some kid.
This is from the start of our relationship, and I'm not sure what this means, if I should still care, or if I should give her the boot.
Anyway; meet girl, we start hooking up and start going on dates.
At this point we've been going out for about 2-3 weeks
At a college party one night, this kid out of no wheres says hi to her, asks me where I am from, tells me to go find a girl that lives where I am from... almost start a fight with him.
Next morning, ask her who he is and why is he is so jealous etc.
She says that they are just friends.
I ask if they ever hooked up - she says yes.
I ask if they did anything more than hooking up that is causing him to be jealous... she said NO...At this point I realize it is the same kid who, when me and her had been at a bus stop turns around and asked her what she was doing that night...I told her that this kid is trouble, and that she needs to get him out of her life because it is going to ruin our relationship. Asked her if they were friends on facebook, and told her that I'm not going to tell her to delete him, but that she needs to get him out of her life because it's causing problems and almost fist fights... Asked her about it the next two days, she said she hadn't. I drop it. Then two days later out of nowhere she said she did. Great...
Fast forward to when we have been dating for about 3-4 months, one night we are drunkingly talking and she says that she got fingered by this kid (this is before I knew her.)...
I told her soberly that this made me uncomfortable and that it is disrespectful to talk to someone she used to hook up with/did stuff with. She agreed, and I asked her why.. she said she didn't know except she liked the attention, but that they weren't texting
What annoyed me the most was, she would always talk about how much she DIDNT want to hook up with this kid, etc... and even when I told her that is b.s. she would get defensive, and after I learned what I did when we were both really drunk (she didn't remember telling me), I asked her again sober if she ever did more than make out, and she said No, at which point I told her what she said drunk to me. She admitted it then that they had hooked up twice, and the second time he fingered her but pressured her to touch his dic, she says she didn't. (whether I believe this or not, it doesn't really matter, that's NOT the point of the thread.)
This still bothers me to this day, even though we had only been going out for 2-3 weeks. I wonder what if I hadn't told her she needs to get this kid out of her life because of the problems it was causing? Would she still have talked to him?
/rant
inb4 OP is controlling, insecure, jealous.
Yes telling her that she needs to get him out of her life may not have been the best move, but at the time, it was better than fighting some kid.
