Girlfriend still talks with ex who has strong feelings for her:

[pipe007]

caring, emotional, having talks about the relationship, about how her slutty behavior affects you and the relationship

so FEMININE!!!!!

heart to heart talk!!!!!! this is pure woman speak... I hope you can understand from this tough love we are giving you.

two months ago, A good friend of mine who is a student psychologist had a GF, she was falling out of love for him and he felt they should have a "heart to heart" talk and talk things out to fix the relationship and he was trying to be empathic and genuine with her..


lol I told him BullSh1t............... its over I give you two weeks and you two wont see each other again...

its been two months and they are separated now.... VERY PREDICTABLE

and your situation is VERY predictable, why??? because you are all exited about this girl and cooking meals for her and having heart to heart honest communications... with a girl who couldnt stop talking to her ex...

well at least she agreed to stop talking to him

this is waht you do now:

1) DO NOT bring the topic of the ex again, let it go now.
2) you DO NOT bring the ex situation again.
3) read 1 and 2
4) wait for around 3 or 4 weeks or even two months if you can, and if everything seems to be fine, try only ONCE when she doesnt notice to check whats going on... try to catch her and keep an eye on the EX, be smart about it dont communicate what you are doing in any way...

if after 2 months there is proof she hasnt contacted him, then you should feel ok for the following week, and then repeat the cycle lol

I would just stick with her and have a normal relationship and trust her until she proves you wrong again... but OPEN YOUR EYES all the time...
you never trust a woman 100%... sure tell her you trust her, but do your own thing, do what you need to do to make sure she is good to you, but do not ever let her know you are doiing it .. OR YOU ARE DEATH MEATT

 

[jonwon]

She's not going to stop talking to the ex.

I'd bet the OP my next wage that is true.

I predict she has already spoke the ex in secret.

OP wont find out till two months in or some shi* like that, probably after he's moved her in, than BAM one day he goes on the PC and see's the history of MSN and its full of interactions almost 3 x per week with her and the EX.

I'd love to project my knowledge into this guys head, but sadly we cant' we can only observe and watch how it inevitably crumbles.

I wont laugh at the guy, nope i wont do that, i'd slap him on the back and say "hey brother, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, your a little wiser now, you've learned a lesson and thats what's important" - Till then the train will continue to rumble to its inevitable conclusion.

 

[Jair213]

Omg this was really painful to read so how did this turn out after 3 years ? Lol

 

[xdreamz]

this is what i like to call girl's being demons. every girl is a bit of a demon. they create their own subworlds with their master for unknown reasons of just causes. this would bother the **** out of me, so what would i do? I would go head n become a demon myself creating bigger subworlds, stretching the truth out so far that it would be brutally lying to myself. that came to the conclusion considering the abandon of all hope, at least temporarily. love yourself if you have to, cuz whatever we do we only have one life and it better not be spent trying to gain the approval or affection of someone else.

 

[GotED?]

One person should not HAVE to tell another whom they can or cannot talk to. Listen. If she's your girfriend, she should KNOW she should not be talking to her old BF. Especially if he's still interested in her. She's not only stringing him along, but showing a lack of respect for YOU. This is a bad mixture. She knows this guy still has feelings and yet still stokes the flames by talking to him.

5string has made a very good point here for ALL who wants a healthy LTR.

My current girlfriend did the same thing to me, was still in contact and just 'friends' with her -ex. I shoved her an ultimatum and made her hamster brain think about how she would feel if I was still in contact with my ex. I told her she wouldn't want that because she would become so insecure if she knew how hot my ex was and popular (stage performer).

Sometimes women are ignorant - VERY ignorant. They don't believe they can behave irrationally, and apply double-standards and think they can get away with it themselves.

In the end, they are very much like an immature little girl - this is why men have been leaders and dominated the world since the beginning of time. We are just now evolving in the past 40-50 years of havoc with women trying to be men. It is a lost cause and effort.

So be Alpha and tell your woman where she stands. If she behaves badly, then reward her with a kick in the arse and a possible goodbye. It is not manipulation - it is being the man and putting rules up in the relationship. If you don't establish them early on, you are fooked and don't come crying here later why you become an AFC.

With respect,

Exodus

 

[zinc4]

I am a one woman kinda guy, call me old fashioned, but that's how I am I have never cheated on a girl before and never want to. I am 28 years old, and she is 25, we're both thinking of settling down, but this issue worries me a bit with her ex, so while your suggestion might help someone of a different nature, its not for me, but I appreciate your input none the less.

That would be the green light to bang other girls on the side for me....she is emotionally cheating on you with someone she obviously cares about so you can do the same physically...what's the difference?

But if you insist on your ways then i would tell her to stop or i am leaving you.

 

[Kbomb]

heaven or hell needs to come tell us what happened

 

[Jair213]

heaven or hell needs to come tell us what happened

i doubt he will tell us if he got crewed over

 

[channingtatum]

Not sure if he's still checking this thread, but I just got out of the same exact situation. I ended it because 1) A girl who needs that type of attention has issues 2) It's disrespectful 3) Think about it logically, if you're head over heels for a girl, you have 0 desire to talk to an ex who still has feelings for you. I talk to a few of my exs (who are now friends) who have 0 feelings for me, but would never jeopardize a relationship with "the one" for them. Sorry man, but talking to her about it probably won't help much. You can bring it up, but will probably only make matters worse. Talking to women only works for miscommunications, not matters of the heart like this. She's never going to give you a straight answer. It sucks but it's reality.