Wow, hey didn't know there'd be so much interest in this, but I guess it's something we can all relate to.
Anyways, guess I should answer a few questions.
No, we don't live together.
I'm pretty good at controlling things, I've been around and I know the games girls play (well, most of them
) I've got a lot more going for me in my life than my friend, not to say he's a deadbeat, but it's just the way it is.
Now I do love this girl, but I'm not the kind of guy that goes head over heels, wanting marriage etc. I usually play it cool, I've got a good future ahead of me and if this relationship ends, another will come along. It's not my first LTR, and may not be my last.
She doesn't talk to him on the phone. I have no reason to suspect they have eachother's phone numbers or email or anything.
We've only hung out, the three of us, maybe 3 or 4 times now, so it's not like they've spent a lot of time together.
It's not like this was a major thing, but I'm very perceptive and I like to figure things out way before they amount to anything substantial, which is why I'm trying to figure this out right now.
Basically, all that's happened is, she's started mentioning him more the last couple of weeks (maybe twice a week or something), and we've hung out (the 3 of us) I think 2 times in the past month.
Here's a more specific example of what happened. We're leaving the bar, and we're walking out, I walk a little more quickly, my buddy lags behind, and my girlfriend walks beside him almost the whole way to the car. I keep my distance to see if she catches up to me, but she keeps walking beside him. Whether this was because she was actually interested in a convo with him, or is trying to make me jealous, I don't know, maybe a bit of both.
I would expect a woman to want to stay glued to my side, not act like that. Maybe I'm irrational about that?
When we go to get burgers after, I almost feel like the 3rd wheel at this point, as she is engaging in convo with him pretty much non-stop. I don't appear to care as I'm cracking jokes and doing my own thing. But I notice that when I do say something, she's not really that attentive and turns back to continue conversing with my friend. She is asking him about different girls he has dated and whatnot.
Now to me, it almost seems like she's just purposely trying to get my jealous. She does have a jealous streak.
The other thing that bothered me was the next day she's saying how he's a pimp and whatnot because he talked to a few girls at the bar. Telling me jokingly how she doesn't want me going out with him. And mentioning that the girls were pretty. But then at the same time she says "oh maybe he's desperate". Arg those mixed signals!
So anyways, I'm pretty intuitive with women and usually know what's up, but this is confusing me. Either this is a bad sign and I should bail on this relationship soon, or she is just genuinely interested in my friends (platonically) and wants to get to know them (not their weiners).
