Girl Says She's Not Into FWBs/Casual On First Meet

[sosuave213]

Isn't this just a woman in epiphany phase? I would next her and move on. You could stick around for the thrill of the pursuit, but I wouldn't find it worth my time when there are other women out there that don't need to utter such jaded remarks.

It's the same as a woman saying "no hookups!" On dating apps. We all know what that means...

 

[SW15]

In all my dating experience, I've never heard a woman say that she's" not into friend with benefits or casual hook-ups on first encounter."

If what you are saying is... a woman saying that she "will not sleep with you on the first date" I've heard it plenty of times. Sometimes it's true and sometimes it's not. Because I don't have a crystal ball, I don't know the outcome. If it's said in a non-passionate situation (like if I invite her over and she accepts) i usually respond with something playful like... "here it is and only the first date and you are already talking about sex... sigh... doesn't anybody respect me for my mind?" Or... 'Easy now. If I move too fast, then you'll tell all the other girls and they'll ask me out for all the wrong reasons." In other words, I just laugh and play it off

When thinking back, I honestly can't recall the percentages, but I'm thinking that about 50% meant it and the other 50% didn't. I'm not really sure if it's considered a sh1t test though. I think it's more of an excuse for those that will... to appear as though we were the exception and seduced them. This way, they can think that we don't view them as a slvt or anything.

This is similar to my experience as well. I've never heard "not into friend with benefits or casual hook-ups on first encounter" on a first date or an initial in-person approach. Some women might put no FWB or casual hook ups on a dating app profile though.

In-person, women will say that she "will not sleep with you on the first date" at times.

I feel that we men have the shorter end of the stick. Girls are always so indirect and expect so much from us. Society expects us to live up to their standard. But most of the time, they contribute so much less to the dating and relationship table.

Agree with this, especially in the early stages of dating. Women don't plan the early stage dates or even carry the conversations much in the early stages. As a relationship goes on, they'll likely plan a get together or contribute more to a conversation.

In my experience, whenever I have had a woman say this it is just a challenge. She is looking to see if you are going to press the envelope on things and still try to get something (which as a DJ you should always be escalating). I think it is even higher than 50% that she will eventually put out on Date 1 - because usually if the woman is immediately bringing up sex like this it means she is imagining having sex with you. True, some women really mean it -- but I would say they are in a minority.

Remember, judge the woman by her actions.

Agree completely.