blas12345
Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 19, 2017
- Messages
- 17
- Reaction score
- 5
- Age
- 35
TL;DR
Girl who's an absolute 10, shows constant interest by initiating contact, asking me out, an putting herself into my orbit, she does not resist any of my escalating, but it drives me nuts that unless I initiate everything, she will just treat me like a friend, won't flirt, won't touch, won't talk dirty, nothing. She acts as if she's shy (except she is very confident in many other ways) or just not interested (except it's been 3 months, we've seen each other more than 10 times and keeps asking me out to do things together). There is virtually no intimacy, just smalltalk and occasional sex without much connection really. A girl like this cannot be an attention *****, she can have any guy she wants yet she invests a lot of time in me. What's her deal ?
Full story
I've been dating this girl for about 3 months now. We've seen each other over 10 times now. She's a f**** 10, she's been a beauty contest winner and a model but she's also a very talented musician and vocalist. We have quite some stuff in common. I knew she'd be one of the tough ones and did pretty much everything right from the beginning pickup-wise.
But more into relationship-wise, it's been very contradictory since the beginning and almost every date left me scratching my head. Here's a bullet point lists to hopefully make it quick:
Positive:
Now the negative:
Sexually it has also been weird, it has only been a few times, and I had to lead 100% of the interaction and .. I am mostly ok with that but eventually feels like I'm banging a sex doll instead of a real human being. I know that in the long run, this will definitely piss me off.
For quite some time I thought she was just shy and would take some time to warm up, so that's why I decided to keep going. But she acts and speaks very confidently as well, so after 3 months I have trouble thinking she's "just shy".
The funny thing is, as I escalated more and more making my intentions obvious to her, we started seeing each other more often (per her own ideas, not mine), so the more contradictory it became because she never stopped acting and treating me just like a friend "who lets me touch her, kiss her and even **** her". What's her deal?
She shows constant interest, but no "desire", if that makes any sense. Which is driving me nuts.
I can't say she just wants the attention. A girl like this, can have pretty much any guy she wants. If I'd be just an average guy to her, why has she invested so much time in me to begin with ? What makes her gravitate towards me if after 3 months she's still inside this emotional fortress I have to break into (without much success anyway) ?
In the past, I dated "some" girls like this, except I wasn't that much interested myself, and ended up dumping them.
A part of me wants to do the same here, but I guess her massive beauty and talent for music is keeping me from doing it...
Any clues / ideas ?
Girl who's an absolute 10, shows constant interest by initiating contact, asking me out, an putting herself into my orbit, she does not resist any of my escalating, but it drives me nuts that unless I initiate everything, she will just treat me like a friend, won't flirt, won't touch, won't talk dirty, nothing. She acts as if she's shy (except she is very confident in many other ways) or just not interested (except it's been 3 months, we've seen each other more than 10 times and keeps asking me out to do things together). There is virtually no intimacy, just smalltalk and occasional sex without much connection really. A girl like this cannot be an attention *****, she can have any guy she wants yet she invests a lot of time in me. What's her deal ?
Full story
I've been dating this girl for about 3 months now. We've seen each other over 10 times now. She's a f**** 10, she's been a beauty contest winner and a model but she's also a very talented musician and vocalist. We have quite some stuff in common. I knew she'd be one of the tough ones and did pretty much everything right from the beginning pickup-wise.
But more into relationship-wise, it's been very contradictory since the beginning and almost every date left me scratching my head. Here's a bullet point lists to hopefully make it quick:
Positive:
- She initiates contact 80% of the time. Whether is for something silly or for inviting me to things (lunch, dinner, movie, concerts)
- She has never, ever stopped me from escalating (kissing, touching, holding hands, sexually)
- Frequency was irregular in the beginning, but the last 10 days we've seen each other 4 times already.
- She's pretty busy, but most of the times she will bring up rescheduling if we cannot make it.
Now the negative:
- She's completely passive. It's always me doing all the escalating, touching, kissing, etc. She shows no resistance, but won't initiate either.
- She never shows affection by her own will. It's always in response to something I do.
- She never compliments or flirts with me. Not that I need or expect it, I don't care, but I find it strange that she never had any sign of admiration towards me, and I'm a young successful, good looking guy. I don't mean to sound arrogant or self centered, I just find it strange that you want to spend time with someone you don't admire at least one bit.
Sexually it has also been weird, it has only been a few times, and I had to lead 100% of the interaction and .. I am mostly ok with that but eventually feels like I'm banging a sex doll instead of a real human being. I know that in the long run, this will definitely piss me off.
For quite some time I thought she was just shy and would take some time to warm up, so that's why I decided to keep going. But she acts and speaks very confidently as well, so after 3 months I have trouble thinking she's "just shy".
The funny thing is, as I escalated more and more making my intentions obvious to her, we started seeing each other more often (per her own ideas, not mine), so the more contradictory it became because she never stopped acting and treating me just like a friend "who lets me touch her, kiss her and even **** her". What's her deal?
She shows constant interest, but no "desire", if that makes any sense. Which is driving me nuts.
I can't say she just wants the attention. A girl like this, can have pretty much any guy she wants. If I'd be just an average guy to her, why has she invested so much time in me to begin with ? What makes her gravitate towards me if after 3 months she's still inside this emotional fortress I have to break into (without much success anyway) ?
In the past, I dated "some" girls like this, except I wasn't that much interested myself, and ended up dumping them.
A part of me wants to do the same here, but I guess her massive beauty and talent for music is keeping me from doing it...
Any clues / ideas ?