GF works at Strip Club... Trusting her

[cordoncordon]

He has a chance to keep having sex with her, but that is all she is worth,

at least try to be a little understanding in the problems she is going through and not treat her like total trash.

Why not? Like trash is how she acted. Maybe she needs to be treated like that. Eventually, she will find a man to give her what she needs. Being nice, understanding, and mature will never get any guy anywhere with a woman like this. She's a ho with low self-esteem. Either the OP can enjoy her like the ho she is, hos can be plenty of fun, or he can go find a non-trashy woman for an ltr. Captain save-a-ho will always get walked on and disrespected.

The op's girl reminds me of a gf of mine - hot & crazy. She has a half dozen AFCs to do her bidding every day - buy her food, booze, and stuff for her kid, give her money, whatever she wants, yet she calls me for sex. Sometimes she will have one of the AFCs baby-sit for her while she is off having sex with me. afaik, I am the only one fvcking her, not that I worry about it, having other plates. Her true love is in jail anyway - I am just her source for sex until he gets out. But I am the guy getting sex from her because I am the one treating her like a wh0re. She knows the drill; if she is in my house, she is putting out. Half the time she is either crying or mad, telling me that I make her feel like a wh0re, the other half of the time we are fvcking. I read a myspace survey response she wrote to the question of her type of guy: 'bad boys who are mean.' I guess that's me, lol. You gotta treat a ho like a ho.

The reason I say don't treat her like trash is two fold. One, and most importantly, she is obviously mentally ill. I was with a girl who suffered from BPD and was bi polar, and she did some horrible things. But the thing is, when she was thinking clearly, she was a great person. When she wasnt thinking clearly, it was like a monster. I actually had pity on her and to this day am not bitter towards her. It's like being mad at a cripple because they cant play basketball with you. There isnt much she can do.

Secondly, he should just be better than her.

 

[ezily]

I'm not suggesting he keep her or anything. But even one of those articles on the front page of this site suggests to wait a few days before you make a big decision. It's mainly so that you have a level head when you make it. I do agree that since alcohol will lower your inhibitions that you will do things you wouldn't otherwise do when sober. But no one really knows if she would have actually cheated. Look if you really have lost trust in her then I wouldn't recommend ever taking her back. It would never work. Her best bet is to just move on. So yeah hopefully she doesn't kill herself. If you've given her some closure then just let her be and tell her to move on (but I'm sure you've already done this). She's just acting psycho and completely depressed. She'll eventually get over it I'm sure.

Does she still work at the strip club?

 

[tomkat]

As a result of the false rape allegations, she was fired.

 

[ezily]

Actually, you know what I think? She seems like a liar. So I would bet she was planning on going out with that new guy. I mean she did make a false rape charge. That's a pretty big lie and all to try and get her out of trouble with you. So if she knew you thought she was cheating she would of course LIE. So now I think you made a very good decision. Maybe you acted swiftly and in the moment but even after thinking it over a couple days later I bet you would have still come to the same conclusion. She's a liar and needs to go. She probably just "wants" you back because you paid for things and made her life easier.

 

[cordoncordon]

The BPD/bi polar girl I dated also filed a fake rape claim against a guy when I was with her. Afterwards she said she did it to get my attention and sympathies. lol


She was a looney, which is what your girl sounds like. Wow, lost her man and her job all in one week.

You HAVE to keep us updated with this one!

 

[young_gun]

Damn, this is a pretty spicy story. I'm really sorry this happened to you bro. Hate to remind you of this, but I bet you're probably feeling pretty hurt about this one.

If there's any advice I can give you (not like it hasn't been said 335 times already), it's to never let this girl into your life again. She has proven herself to be UNworthy of you, and if you two ever got back together, the trust you once share (if it ever WAS there) would never be there again. Alcohol is never an excuse. I had a girlfriend cheat on me a couple years back and idiot me let her back into my life. The next 11 months I spent with her were some of the worst of my life.

Be positive about this. You found out her true colors, and now you're free to find another woman who will treat you like a king, rather than blatantly disrespecting you like this last tramp did. I have no respect for women like that. At least you discovered her real self before you got really tied down with her - i.e. getting married to this slvt. This is probably pretty tough for you though. Don't be afraid to come here if you need some support.

 

[Infamous J]

Keep the ties severed man, anyone on here telling you otherwise is a bona fide IDIOT (or maybe your ex in disguise). From outright lying to you to rape allegations to suicide threats, to flirting and doing who knows what else with other guys even before you broke up, drunk or not, this chick is off her rocker.

People show their true colors during adversity and hers shined brightly. Don't let her into your life on any level ever again. Don't have her as a myspace friend, don't email, talk on the phone, NOTHING. Don't give a single inch because if you do she will take a mile.

 

[wayword]

The reason I say don't treat her like trash is two fold. One, and most importantly, she is obviously mentally ill.

BS - she is not "mentally ill," she is simply a typical woman.

And it is scientifically-proven that women lie like they breathe.

In fact, their classic 1-2 strategy is:
1) Lie for self-gain (always easier than actually DOING the right thing).
2) If busted, attempt to justify that lie (as if any lie can be justified).

You see this very same tactic used time and again. And I guess because it actually works on a majority of AFCs... :crackup:

 

[tomkat]

Looking back on it now, I am convinced she screwed one of the staff members in the 20 minutes between closing time and when she left. She normally took 20 minutes to do her sidework and get out of there, but the mgmt said they were going to fire her anyhow because she didn't do her sidework. I think the bouncer or manager or whoever took her in the office and screwed her. She wanted to get laid, and was flirting with customers and getting numbers and trying to go home with someone, so why not screw a coworker??

PLUS, it makes the rape allegations make sense. She said she was raped to sorta "confess" that she had sex with someone.

This sucks.

 

[Stéphane]

Obvious troll.

 

[Latinoman]

She's not just a slvt. She was willing to make up false rape accusations to cover her fvckups. That sh!t can and has destroyed many men's lives. Cut all contact with this loony & dangerous cvnt.

Exactly!

Men are put in prison for LIFE for this kind of false crap.

 

[Latinoman]

Don't go back to her. Cut communication too.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Potato was dead wrong. All the signs were there and HE'S a psycho? You're gut is the only feeling that hasn't evolved with doubt being a part of it. Kat's gut was right on.


Two year. I can imagine all the B.S. you had to put up with. Then again, what were you doing in those two years also?

 

[Andromax]

She said she was raped to sorta "confess" that she had sex with someone.

This sucks.

Wow dude, some women are beyond fvcked in the head.

In the past 2 years did you observe any behavior that might suggest this sort of thing?

Think hard about signs and red flags that you missed or overlooked intentionally along the way brother!!

You don't want women like this in your life.

Good job staying strong and keeping her out of your life.

She betrayed a good man to be a dirty *****, and won't accept the fact that she is the one that fvcked up. hors have no accountability.

I wonder what % of men would buy into her BS and take her back? 75%+??

ITS SCARY TO THINK ABOUT!!!!

 

[MacAvoy]

I think your overlooking a very important fact. But its irrelevant at this point as she's psycho and out of your life. She never actually cried rape, YOU did, she just followed along and agreed.

She looks like a total mess. She is crying, telling me she would never do anything to hurt me, that she loves me, that she is sorry. I asked if she was raped (she looked like it), and she says yes.

I call 911. The paramedics come, the cops come. She gets carted off to a hospital.

 

[Latinoman]

I think your overlooking a very important fact. But its irrelevant at this point as she's psycho and out of your life. She never actually cried rape, YOU did, she just followed along and agreed.

Good point. He actually put that idea in her mind by asking that question.

 

[DonGorgon]

Looking back on it now, I am convinced she screwed one of the staff members in the 20 minutes between closing time and when she left.

Yup and it wasnt the first or last time... cause she is a ho...