GF works at Strip Club... Trusting her

Andromax

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Zodiac said:
You looked up who she was texting and all that because she didn't text you back right away?

Control freak.
Okay you're right. Not exactly DJ thing to do.

Zodiac said:
I would have calmly after I found out ask to borrow her phone to find mine (Fake losing it) and then "accidentally" stumble across the texts. Ask about the number and why you haven't heard about his person. If this person a friend of your girlfriend say you want to meet this person.
Your scheme is 10x more AFC - it involves lying and lameness.

How is that good advice?

At least he knew something was up and called her out on it.

He should have spared the whining yes, but at least he is dumping her dumb ass for this foolishness.

Zodiac said:
This plan may have gone over a bit better and has in the past with my relationships
I just don't see how listening to her trying to explain that could be contributed to 'going over a bit better.'

Its over. If hes smart he's already told her its over.
 

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This girl is not being faithful to you or honest to you. your girl working at a strip joint shows bad character on her part and your part for allowing it. She is hanging around with a bunch of strippers and pimps. A good girl would not do those things.

If you hang around with thieves you many become one.
If you hang around with drug dealers you may become one.
If you hang around with strippers you may become one.
If you hang around with hors you may become one.


It sounds to me that your woman has become a hor.
 

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Stop paying her cell phone bill! It's obvious she's taking you for granted and you are enabling it. 51 texts in 3 hours is a sh*tload and the fact that she "deleted" them does not bode well for you either.

I feel your pain but unfortunately calling her out on the texts and giving her phone number out only made you look weak and insecure in her eyes. Yes, you were thinking with logic and sticking with the agreement you two had set up. Unfortunately she's a woman and therefore logic is out the window, hence she "did nothing wrong".

It might be hard to hear but it sounds like you're in a sinking ship. Get out now while you still have some pride, and next time don't pay their bills or make yourself so available to repeatedly text/call, even if it is an LTR.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Quit being a pervert
And who is being the pervert?
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Yes, and all the while sperm was emanating from her throat and veins, and very existence!!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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One of the easiest ways to break up a couple is to flirt with the girl until her boyfriend’s insecurities and jealousies kick in and the girl dumps him for it.

The more rules you set for another to follow only makes for more rules that the other will break. The more you try to enforce those rules the more asinine you look and become.

Too much, on this forum, the relationships between men and women are seen as power struggles and too many men get the idea that to be the man is to try to set up and enforce rules for his girlfriend to follow. This is the wrong way to look at it. Relationships work best when each is at harmony with the other. Without harmony the relationship soon falls apart.

In the whole of the initial post is a tale of tomkat trying to exercise control over his girlfriend and failing. Some times, to wage war, one loses not only what one sought to gain but also oneself.
 

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potato said:
And who is being the pervert?



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One of the easiest ways to break up a couple is to flirt with the girl until her boyfriend’s insecurities and jealousies kick in and the girl dumps him for it.

The more rules you set for another to follow only makes for more rules that the other will break. The more you try to enforce those rules the more asinine you look and become.

Too much, on this forum, the relationships between men and women are seen as power struggles and too many men get the idea that to be the man is to try to set up and enforce rules for his girlfriend to follow. This is the wrong way to look at it. Relationships work best when each is at harmony with the other. Without harmony the relationship soon falls apart.

In the whole of the initial post is a tale of tomkat trying to exercise control over his girlfriend and failing. Some times, to wage war, one loses not only what one sought to gain but also oneself.

agree totally..

but in this case there is much to question. too many red flags.

if we look beyond the fact that he searched her call logs, told her not to meet any other male friends, blah blah (which by the way probably played a part in this endevour)....

it still doesnt change the fact that she deletes this texts so her bf doesnt see them. it doesnt change the fact that she is sneaking around doing things that she knows her bf would not appreciate.

i mean comn' ..even if she was texting her gf from school 51 times without having the courteousness to atleast text him back and say ill talk to you later is in itself still questionable.

the only thing i can tell the OP is something im currently working on myself...

stop trying to maintain control over things you have no control over ..ie" her actions, what happens blah blah. keep control over yourself.

life is as simple as this....
10 percent is what happens to us.. 90 percent is how we react to it
 

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potato said:
One of the easiest ways to break up a couple is to flirt with the girl until her boyfriend’s insecurities and jealousies kick in and the girl dumps him for it.

The more rules you set for another to follow only makes for more rules that the other will break. The more you try to enforce those rules the more asinine you look and become.

Too much, on this forum, the relationships between men and women are seen as power struggles and too many men get the idea that to be the man is to try to set up and enforce rules for his girlfriend to follow. This is the wrong way to look at it. Relationships work best when each is at harmony with the other. Without harmony the relationship soon falls apart.

In the whole of the initial post is a tale of tomkat trying to exercise control over his girlfriend and failing. Some times, to wage war, one loses not only what one sought to gain but also oneself.
very well spoken.
 

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Checking her phone record wasn't the coolest move in the world.. so what?

The fundamental distrust was already there for Tomkat, so whether he checked the phone record or not, he still distrusts her enough to check the phone record- which believe me, is her fault as well as his.

Which is the more AFC move, to stay in a relationship and get cheated on, or check your girlfriends phone records and dump her before she cheats?
The point is that he didnt create or maintain enough attraction/tension to not have to need to check her phone records... but simply not checking isnt the cure!

Thats like advising these kids to push their shoulders back when they walk into clubs because its an "alpha" thing to do. He already built the relationship on a non-DJ dynamic or let it degenerate to that, so whether he shows neediness now is irrelevant, in fact, it could save him from being a REAL chump!

51 messages... AFAIC, this conversation is over!
 

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tomkat said:
She recently got a job as a bartender/****tail waitress at a strip club. It was my idea because she never seems to never have money for her bills
Are guys really this naively stupid?

Might as well send a lamb into a den of starving wolves...

Wow.
 

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Which is the more AFC move, to stay in a relationship and get cheated on, or check your girlfriends phone records and dump her before she cheats?


Women don't do either. They keep the LTR while they shop for a new man. That is what the OP's girl is doing. I say to fight fire with fire - keep the gf and fvck some new women at the same time.
 

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I didn't read everything but I read something about you paying her cell phone and ****.. man you lost your respect over her a long time ago. Let her go and let her screw other men.
 

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EPILOGUE:

I dumped her on Tuesday. At 6:30pm. She began her shift at work at 7:00pm. I get a call from her at 2:20am when her shift ended. She is crying, freaking out, incoherent. She begs me to come get her. I ask if she is drunk, and she says yes.

I drive down to get her and she gets out of her car to get in mine, and she has only a bra on and a skirt. Her skirt is hiked up and she has no panties on and her bald ****** is fully showing.

She collapses into my car. She looks like a total mess. She is crying, telling me she would never do anything to hurt me, that she loves me, that she is sorry. I asked if she was raped (she looked like it), and she says yes.

I call 911. The paramedics come, the cops come. She gets carted off to a hospital.

After the cops interview her, the bartender, the manager, the bouncer, and the DJ, I am told she changed her story back and forth as to whether she was raped like 5 times. ALL club employees tell the same story: The ex shows up at work, announces to everyone I dumped her, and begins drinking. Within 90 minutes, she sold her panties to a customer. She then parades around without panties, and takes off her shirt. She serves drinks like that for the next 5 hours.

She lets men grope her and feel her up. She wants to dance on stage, but management won't let her because she is waitressing. She wants to give a guy a lap dance in the back room, and they won't let her for the same reason.

She hangs out with a group of 3 guys for a while (when not serving drinks to others) and loudly keeps telling the one guy how cute he is and how bad she wants to **** him. The guys stick around until closing, and she tries to get in a cab with the 3 guys, but the management tells her she can't go because she needs to do her sidework. ALSO, I noticed she dropped something getting out of her car and into mine. Later, after she was gone and I was leaving, I walked over and picked it up-- another guy's name, phone number, and email written on a ****tail napkin. PS-- that guy called her that night and let a voicemail for her, so she also give her number to him, the slvt.

I leave and go home. The cops call me and ask me to come to the hospital. I go, and the cops are talking to me in the hallway and she knows that I know the rape story was fake. SHE MADE IT UP BECAUSE IT TURNS OUT THE BOUNCER, AFTER SHE GOT IN HER CAR, TOOK HER KEYS FROM HER SO SHE COULDN'T DRIVE DRUNK. Unable to drive, she called me (the CHUMP!) to give her a ride home. To explain the fact she had no fking clothes on, she makes up the rape story.

Anyhow, she sees the cops talking to me and realizes the gig is up, and begins screaming she is going to kill herself. The hospital staff then involuntarily commits her to the psycho ward for suicide evaluation (where she remained for 24 hrs).

The cops had given me her clothes (bra and skirt) and car keys. I wrote a nice, detailed letter to her parents explaining where their lovely daughter was, what led up to it, and the fact I wanted nothing to ever do with her again. I took the money out of her wallet (she owed me more than she had) and repossessed the SIM card from her phone. I put her phone, car keys, clothes, and note on the doorstep of her parents' house. Let THEM deal with the tramp.

BY THE WAY, the DJ she had texted repeatedly, called her at 3 am that morning (he wasnt working that night). I texted him the next day, pretending to be her, and asked why he called. To invite her to a party. At 3 AM!!

Well my friends, if it looks like a slvt, if it walks like a slvt, if it smells like a slvt, IT IS A SLVT!

I called her the next day in the psycho ward (I knew she would claim she didn't remember anything) merely to recite to her what she did, and to tell her it was OVER FOREVER.

She called me an a-hole, and said SHE DID NOT CHEAT! lol
 

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tomkat said:
EPILOGUE:
She called me an a-hole, and said SHE DID NOT CHEAT! lol
Haha yeah, circumstances prohibited it for some reason.

What a dumb ***** couldnt even get laid.
 

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tomkat said:
Well my friends, if it looks like a slvt, if it walks like a slvt, if it smells like a slvt, IT IS A SLVT!
Not according to potato, you're just not in "harmony" with your GF lol. Potato is really a female.
 

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She's not just a slvt. She was willing to make up false rape accusations to cover her fvckups. That sh!t can and has destroyed many men's lives. Cut all contact with this loony & dangerous cvnt.
 

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Technical1 said:
you should have said when you called her in the loony bin:

So darling, who's the psycho now?
ahahha yah he should have def done that.
 

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I read the first 3 paragraphs and thought to myself.."I gotta get rid of this b!tch"..which is what I would do...I kind of went through the same thing except my Ex Gf was a bartender...she would delete her texts so I couldnt see them...So I flipped the script on her and started blatently calling other girls so she COULD see...then I dumped her a few weeks later...the funny part is I think she was talking to other guys which means she was getting more familiar with them so she could eventually dump me...but mama didnt raise no fool...6 weeks after I broke it off she called me a few times to hook up...I refused and she cried over the phone...And I could really care less
 

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