GF works at Strip Club... Trusting her

drmeathead

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MacAvoy said:
Cut off the hor's cell phone bill and show her who's BOSS!
i agree. you pay her phone bill and it takes her hours to get back to you while she has time to text someone else. that is disrespectful. if she was working and didnt have time to text or take calls from anyone then that is one thing. this is a totally different animal. she had her phone in her hand while texting another dude and looks at your texts and didnt respond. ONE OF THE REASONS SHE DELETED THE TEXTS TO DJ THISISACOOLJOBWHILEIAM22 IS THAT SHE WAS MAKING FUN OF YOU IN SOME MANNER TO HER.

my opinion...cut her off the phone bill immediately. be prepared for her to break up with you over it. it will give her reason to go **** the dj which is what she is doing or wishing she was doing. he is the man with the social proof at her fantasy job. sorry brother but you are old news in her eyes. id probably break up with her. this whole situation reeks of AW and a woman looking to move on.
 

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^^ thats why its a good idea to read past the first post lol
 

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EPILOGUE:

I dumped her on Tuesday. At 6:30pm. She began her shift at work at 7:00pm. I get a call from her at 2:20am when her shift ended. She is crying, freaking out, incoherent. She begs me to come get her. I ask if she is drunk, and she says yes.

I drive down to get her and she gets out of her car to get in mine, and she has only a bra on and a skirt. Her skirt is hiked up and she has no panties on and her bald ****** is fully showing.

She collapses into my car. She looks like a total mess. She is crying, telling me she would never do anything to hurt me, that she loves me, that she is sorry. I asked if she was raped (she looked like it), and she says yes.

I call 911. The paramedics come, the cops come. She gets carted off to a hospital.

After the cops interview her, the bartender, the manager, the bouncer, and the DJ, I am told she changed her story back and forth as to whether she was raped like 5 times. ALL club employees tell the same story: The ex shows up at work, announces to everyone I dumped her, and begins drinking. Within 90 minutes, she sold her panties to a customer. She then parades around without panties, and takes off her shirt. She serves drinks like that for the next 5 hours.

She lets men grope her and feel her up. She wants to dance on stage, but management won't let her because she is waitressing. She wants to give a guy a lap dance in the back room, and they won't let her for the same reason.

She hangs out with a group of 3 guys for a while (when not serving drinks to others) and loudly keeps telling the one guy how cute he is and how bad she wants to **** him. The guys stick around until closing, and she tries to get in a cab with the 3 guys, but the management tells her she can't go because she needs to do her sidework. ALSO, I noticed she dropped something getting out of her car and into mine. Later, after she was gone and I was leaving, I walked over and picked it up-- another guy's name, phone number, and email written on a ****tail napkin. PS-- that guy called her that night and let a voicemail for her, so she also give her number to him, the slvt.

I leave and go home. The cops call me and ask me to come to the hospital. I go, and the cops are talking to me in the hallway and she knows that I know the rape story was fake. SHE MADE IT UP BECAUSE IT TURNS OUT THE BOUNCER, AFTER SHE GOT IN HER CAR, TOOK HER KEYS FROM HER SO SHE COULDN'T DRIVE DRUNK. Unable to drive, she called me (the CHUMP!) to give her a ride home. To explain the fact she had no fking clothes on, she makes up the rape story.

Anyhow, she sees the cops talking to me and realizes the gig is up, and begins screaming she is going to kill herself. The hospital staff then involuntarily commits her to the psycho ward for suicide evaluation (where she remained for 24 hrs).

The cops had given me her clothes (bra and skirt) and car keys. I wrote a nice, detailed letter to her parents explaining where their lovely daughter was, what led up to it, and the fact I wanted nothing to ever do with her again. I took the money out of her wallet (she owed me more than she had) and repossessed the SIM card from her phone. I put her phone, car keys, clothes, and note on the doorstep of her parents' house. Let THEM deal with the tramp.

BY THE WAY, the DJ she had texted repeatedly, called her at 3 am that morning (he wasnt working that night). I texted him the next day, pretending to be her, and asked why he called. To invite her to a party. At 3 AM!!

Well my friends, if it looks like a slvt, if it walks like a slvt, if it smells like a slvt, IT IS A SLVT!

I called her the next day in the psycho ward (I knew she would claim she didn't remember anything) merely to recite to her what she did, and to tell her it was OVER FOREVER.

She called me an a-hole, and said SHE DID NOT CHEAT! lol

Geez, that is one big time loser. People like that are like vampires who drag others down. Good for you for getting rid of her for good.
 

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Dam she aint gona forget that one!!
 

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what if she didn't cheat and you just overreacted? it's just a thought I guess.

but still, WHY would you let her work there!? what were you thinking?
 

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sorry about reading all the posts before i gave my advice. good for you for getting out of this. now you just have to stay out.
 

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Been there done that, same exact things with my ex. She was not at a strip club but I would call and leave a msg and she would not respond to me but would be talking to others on her phone, and of course me being the AFC I was paid for all her things and her cell phone. Now she is my ex and dateing some tard. Thing I learned from that, if they don't have the money they don't get it. They start to use you for all you have then just toss you away when they find someone else they want. This may be pretty harsh and hard to do but tell her you are cancleing her cellphone and she can get her own plan. Gotta show her you have balls.

Believe me they are mean to nice guys who take care of them.


Whops just read all the thread, nice job =) Well done. Sorry it did not work out for you but sometimes girls need to fall on their face a few times before the relize what is good.
 

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Lessons learned...

Jitterbug said:
She's not just a slvt. She was willing to make up false rape accusations to cover her fvckups. That sh!t can and has destroyed many men's lives. Cut all contact with this loony & dangerous cvnt.
Repeated studies have shown that probably 30% or 40% of rape charges are falsified. And typically fall within this scenario - a drunken sloot trying to cover-up her misdeeds. So this is not unusual, but quite typical indeed.

This is a wake-up call for men. Women are not the innocent victims that feminists love to portray. More often than not, they are manipulative snakes that avoid honesty and accountability at all costs. So, handle them like you would a slithery serpent.

Props to tomkat for trusting his instincts, gathering the evidence, dropping his nuts and taking swift, decisive action. I think he did the right thing - dropping the hammer and informing her and her parents exactly what happened. Letting them know, getting it all off his chest while the iron was still hot and making a clean break. That's called taking care of business. :rockon:
 
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Keep us updated tomkat if there is any interesting updates.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Requested Update

Well, she has called repeatedly and I refuse to answer. I listen to her cry on the voicemails then delete them.

I was chillin' at my parents' house last night, and the psycho, after going to my house and not finding me there, went to my parents' house and knocked on the door. My mom answered (I didn't tell my mom yet-- I'm so fricking embarrassed I am not sure what to tell her as to why I dumpted the tramp) and let her in.

I take her right outside and tell her to leave and never come back. She cries and says how sorry she is. I again recount all of her misdeeds. She says they didn't happen! She says she got drunk, but didn't do anything intentionally bad b/c she was drunk. Basically, it wasn't her fault b/c she was drunk. BS! Also, she knows in her heart that she didn't do some of that stuff (i.e., try to leave with 3 men, try to give lap dances, etc). BS!

So... I take out the SIM card and pop it in my phone. I play the voicemail for her of the guy who she tried to hook up with. I then go to my car and get out the ****tail napkin with some guy's name and number on it. I tell her to get lost. And I tell her never to come to my parents house, or mine, again or I'd call the police and that she's have to call her parents from jail to bail her a$$ out.

She leaves.

Last night she called again and said in the voicemail she's do anything, absolutely anything, to fix this. For a moment I thought of telling her I wanted a 3some, and then we could talk (but afterwards never get to the talking), but decided probably not a good idea.

So there's the update.
 

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Look, I wasn't there so I don't know the exact way things turned out, but have you never done anything while you were drunk that you regret? Why do you think this girl is going to all this trouble to try and get back with you? I'm not saying you should take her back, that's up to you, I just think you should think about what happened more rationally and without the emotion. It could be clouding your judgment. But if you really do think she cheated or actually was planning on cheating with that DJ then I wouldn't take her back. I just believe that you should give it some more thought without being so impulsive.
 

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Alcohol...

She blamed the alcohol. The alcohol made her tell guys at the club she couldn't wait to get off work to f*ck them, it made her give her number out, it made her try to leave with 3 guys, it made her take a guy's number out to her car with her, etc.

I told her this... you could fill me up with all the alcohol in the world, and I wouldn't give a dude head. I wouldn't take it in the rear from a dude. Why not? Because I'm not gay, and alcohol won't change that.

If she was truly in love with me, wouldn't she not try to cheat, alcohol or not??
 

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sucky situation but you were quite the man about it
 

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Ok heres the thing...

I think you have every right to dump this girl and should have, so bravo!

At the same time, I do think you are being a little harsh on her. After all this was your gf of 2 years so I am assuming you loved her, or still do. To me this girl sounds like someone with MAJOR self esteem issues and is more than likely suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. I urge you to look that up and see if she fits.

Any girl that works at a strip club is suffering from low self-esteem, and the way she reacted after you broke up with her shows that even more. She was depressed and thinking she is nothing, and was looking for some guy to try and boost her up. I dont think she was out to F some guy or cheat on you because she wanted to, i just think she was at a mentally low place in her mind and life.

As for her texting that DJ the other day, I think it could have been any guy that was showing interest in her and she would have been texting him. After all if she was just INTO THAT GUY, she would have gotten with him the night all this trouble went down. She didn't. But she was just out looking for any attention from any guy.

Were you two fighting a lot lately? Has there been some sort of traumatic experience in her life recently that could have made her depressed? Something just seems off here with her behavior. I mean you were with her for two years she must have been ok for at least some of the time right?

I'm not suggesting that you take her back. But I am suggesting that since you do have a history together and she isnt just some bimbo you dated a few times, that you at least try to be a little understanding in the problems she is going through and not treat her like total trash. I'm sure she feels bad enough, to throw dirt on her now is not necessary imo.

Best of luck.
 

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Dont listen to these guys telling you to give here a chance.

She has disrespected you on several occasions, no woman disrespects her man. Teach her that lesson.
 

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He has a chance to keep having sex with her, but that is all she is worth,

at least try to be a little understanding in the problems she is going through and not treat her like total trash.

Why not? Like trash is how she acted. Maybe she needs to be treated like that. Eventually, she will find a man to give her what she needs. Being nice, understanding, and mature will never get any guy anywhere with a woman like this. She's a ho with low self-esteem. Either the OP can enjoy her like the ho she is, hos can be plenty of fun, or he can go find a non-trashy woman for an ltr. Captain save-a-ho will always get walked on and disrespected.

The op's girl reminds me of a gf of mine - hot & crazy. She has a half dozen AFCs to do her bidding every day - buy her food, booze, and stuff for her kid, give her money, whatever she wants, yet she calls me for sex. Sometimes she will have one of the AFCs baby-sit for her while she is off having sex with me. afaik, I am the only one fvcking her, not that I worry about it, having other plates. Her true love is in jail anyway - I am just her source for sex until he gets out. But I am the guy getting sex from her because I am the one treating her like a wh0re. She knows the drill; if she is in my house, she is putting out. Half the time she is either crying or mad, telling me that I make her feel like a wh0re, the other half of the time we are fvcking. I read a myspace survey response she wrote to the question of her type of guy: 'bad boys who are mean.' I guess that's me, lol. You gotta treat a ho like a ho.
 

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Tomkat, cut the cord.

Be a man, enforce your boundaries.

And as for this "alcohol vs. low-self esteem" debate, I don't know how people can be members of SoSuave and post that sh1t. It appears to me as if the entire message and spirit of this website has gone for nothing if people honestly recommend that Tomkat spend ONE MINUTE MORE thinking about this girl and her many colorful problems. Guess who (probably) has less problems than this girl? Tomkat's NEXT girl. Thats all he needs to think about right now. Seriously...
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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