WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
She's just turned 21, and goes out to bars. That's the fact.
She's a type of girl who's fun-loving and has drunk in the past and will drink if I'm not here. Period.
However, she's been partying for several years without me. She's been to Mexico with her friends and didn't engage in random sex or anything. She's been to Jamaica, Florida, etc.
But still, I was the one who took this girl's virginity. I trust that she's a genuinely good girl, one who wouldn't cheat on me.
But still, the idea of her going into a scene that I think we can all agree on--one full of drunk, horny, immature guys wanting to f*ck something--is not very attractive to me.
The question is..should I talk to her about this or not.
If I do, and I want to, how should I express myself WITHOUT seeming insecure, without making her think I don't trust her? What should I say, in other words, to simply express that I don't like her going out all that much to these kind of scenes?
The opinions are different on this board. Some suggest that it's totally disrespectful and shouldn't be allowed. Others say I should simply not worry about it and know that I could always move on if the time came.
To those who say I should not tolerate this kind of behaviour, as I said, it seems a little ridiculous that she would just stop going out w/ her friends because of me. I don't think it is going to happen, and I think I would seem like the bad guy in this case. Also, I can't stop her from meeting another person. I can't stopo her emotions from transferring to someone else. I can't control her in any way.
So what should I do? I'm still rather confused.
She's a type of girl who's fun-loving and has drunk in the past and will drink if I'm not here. Period.
However, she's been partying for several years without me. She's been to Mexico with her friends and didn't engage in random sex or anything. She's been to Jamaica, Florida, etc.
But still, I was the one who took this girl's virginity. I trust that she's a genuinely good girl, one who wouldn't cheat on me.
But still, the idea of her going into a scene that I think we can all agree on--one full of drunk, horny, immature guys wanting to f*ck something--is not very attractive to me.
The question is..should I talk to her about this or not.
If I do, and I want to, how should I express myself WITHOUT seeming insecure, without making her think I don't trust her? What should I say, in other words, to simply express that I don't like her going out all that much to these kind of scenes?
The opinions are different on this board. Some suggest that it's totally disrespectful and shouldn't be allowed. Others say I should simply not worry about it and know that I could always move on if the time came.
To those who say I should not tolerate this kind of behaviour, as I said, it seems a little ridiculous that she would just stop going out w/ her friends because of me. I don't think it is going to happen, and I think I would seem like the bad guy in this case. Also, I can't stop her from meeting another person. I can't stopo her emotions from transferring to someone else. I can't control her in any way.
So what should I do? I'm still rather confused.