Smartone84
Senior Don Juan
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- Dec 24, 2006
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For the last 6 months or so at work, I've been getting to know this one woman at work little by little. HB7 in my opinion. We do not see each other every day or even every week though. It has been more like every 3 weeks on average, so the progression has been super slow. Eventually, probably about 2 months ago (and more like only four conversations ago), we reached what I feel was a turning point of where now there is a different vibe in the sense that if we see each other, we know we are definitely talking and catching up, even if just for a short period of time. The conversations between us flow extremely well, and there is definitely good general chemistry. We talk about our families, our hobbies, work stuff, etc, sometimes in detail and I make her laugh constantly. While she has never been flirty, she has sparked conversations with me and on one occasion recently specifically walked out of her way in the office to stand next to me and chat when I was finishing up fixing a machine (I do repair work). I feel that attractive women at work who have no romantic interest at all in men will always find a way to keep a good distance from you. I have seen this many times over the years at work.
So I'm right at the point now of wanting to finally strike while the iron is hot where I plan to casually and somewhat indirectly (I like to be very careful at work, even though I trust her to an extent) ask her to grab a drink after work one day. The problem is, even though we have progressed very well and I am 100% certain she thinks I'm a very nice guy who she clearly enjoys talking to, for the life of me I still can't get a read on her at all as to whether she actually has any form of romantic interest in me. While I've thrown very few subtle flirty remarks her way, like I said earlier she has never done so herself. Even though I'm not afraid of rejection and would move on fine, I do want to make sure I'm putting myself in the best position possible to not have that happen. So my question is simple.... Whether its at work or not, do you think the same rules always apply? By this I mean, I feel like whenever I've met a woman at a bar or a party or wherever else, 9 times out of 10 if there is interest, I'll get the IOI's and/or some flirtation. These are the signals we all use as men to go in for the close, whether it be the # or even setting a date. With this chick, I've basically gotten nothing other than very nice and playful banter/conversation. Do you guys think its still all good to go in for asking her out? Or should I do some more leg work to see how she really feels, and if so, what could that be? Thank you in advance.
So I'm right at the point now of wanting to finally strike while the iron is hot where I plan to casually and somewhat indirectly (I like to be very careful at work, even though I trust her to an extent) ask her to grab a drink after work one day. The problem is, even though we have progressed very well and I am 100% certain she thinks I'm a very nice guy who she clearly enjoys talking to, for the life of me I still can't get a read on her at all as to whether she actually has any form of romantic interest in me. While I've thrown very few subtle flirty remarks her way, like I said earlier she has never done so herself. Even though I'm not afraid of rejection and would move on fine, I do want to make sure I'm putting myself in the best position possible to not have that happen. So my question is simple.... Whether its at work or not, do you think the same rules always apply? By this I mean, I feel like whenever I've met a woman at a bar or a party or wherever else, 9 times out of 10 if there is interest, I'll get the IOI's and/or some flirtation. These are the signals we all use as men to go in for the close, whether it be the # or even setting a date. With this chick, I've basically gotten nothing other than very nice and playful banter/conversation. Do you guys think its still all good to go in for asking her out? Or should I do some more leg work to see how she really feels, and if so, what could that be? Thank you in advance.
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