Does "No Contact" really work?

[Metro3pilot]

Hey man,

I have been down the I had a good woman and I fukced it up road ...too many times and you don't want to go there.

Latinoman is right ...you are rationalizing her crappy behavior and disrespect and to save your ego ...you blame it on yourself ....

we got another Captain Save a Ho in the house ! ! ! !

:rockon:

 

[My Name is Nobody]

LOL come on man face reality. I FUKKED UP. You guys ego is too big to accept that fact and that is pretty sad. I disrespected her hardcore before she disrespected me. I fukked her all night while another woman was expecting to be with me. Right after she had been dumped by her jerk husband who slaughtered her heart and cheated on her.

Whats the deal?


Grow up. That's what I am trying to do.

 

[Latinoman]

Yeah because I f/kked up. What am I supposed to do not recognize I messed up? I had a good thing and it's gone. In her eyes I am another cheating lying jerk. Even though I want to be with her now, I would probably cheat and lie to her in the future. She is making the right decision man. It's the truth. She doesn't want a DJ, she wants someone who will always be there for her.

I am recognizing my mistake and learning from it. That's why I posted this thread. I will think about this until I meet someone better and I am on track to do that.

A TRUE DJ does what he wants. If he wants to have ONE woman and treat her with respect and not cheat on her...he will do that.

Make no mistake...DJ is not translation to "womanizing" (which on itself could be a sign of insecurity in the vast majority of cases). DJ is a man that has control of his life.

Some of the biggest DJs are married...and with children. As it takes true DJ skills to keep a LTR rolling and raise children with integrity.

 

[Metro3pilot]

its easier to take a rejection when " we think we had control over the outcome " .....

so now you're gonna sit around and fantasize about a chick turn her into something she's not and blame it on yourself ....

here's a fact Jack

a " quality " person will react in a respectful manner no matter how you act, they don't resort to psycho behavior just because we acted like an ass ...

The whole I cheated because they cheated ....Bullshyt

so saying she is really a good person is bullshyt ... face it man ..... you have a S on your chest

:rockon:

 

[Latinoman]

LOL come on man face reality. I FUKKED UP. You guys ego is too big to accept that fact and that is pretty sad. I disrespected her hardcore before she disrespected me. I fukked her all night while another woman was expecting to be with me. Right after she had been dumped by her jerk husband who slaughtered her heart and cheated on her.

Whats the deal?


Grow up. That's what I am trying to do.

The deal is that you are an AFC. Sorry dude...but you are. And you are puzzy whipped too.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

its easier to take a rejection when " we think we had control over the outcome " .....

so now you're gonna sit around and fantasize about a chick turn her into something she's not and blame it on yourself ....

here's a fact Jack

a " quality " person will react in a respectful manner no matter how you act, they don't resort to psycho behavior just because we acted like an ass ...

The whole I cheated because they cheated ....Bullshyt

so saying she is really a good person is bullshyt ... face it man ..... you have a S on your chest

:rockon:

You don't understand.

This woman was fresh off a horrible divorce 3 months ago. She meets me who she thinks is a nice guy. I am actually not a nice guy.

My ex is expecting me to pick her up. I don't show up because I am fukking this woman all night.

This woman is leaving my house and the ex gets in her face and wants to fight.

Yeah... I blame her for leaving me.. give me a fukking break man.

Like I said grow up grab your balls and take the blame when it's due.

 

[Metro3pilot]

So she dumped me but strung me along for a couple months making me think I still have a chance. But now she says she never wants to see me again.

she sounds like a nice girl ......... something else that I have missed ?

blame it all on yourself if you want ...I would venture to guess you have the same problem with all the women you date ....

I know I don't actually change women I date ..it's the same woman only her hair and name may be different .... but it's the same woman ...

:rockon:

 

[Metro3pilot]

Keep in mind the new woman I was with JUST got divorced and was DUMPED by a husband who cheated on her and abused her.

So I don't blame her for not wanting to get involved with another a$$hole.

Do you?

if you don't see a red flag here .....well junior looks like you got some schooling ahead of ya ! !

:rockon:

 

[My Name is Nobody]

if you don't see a red flag here .....well junior looks like you got some schooling ahead of ya ! !

:rockon:

So what?

Yes, she is somewhat damaged.

But that doesn't change the fact I acted like a prick and it wasn't right.

Why can't you guys admit I was in the wrong here?

 

[Latinoman]

So what?

Yes, she is somewhat damaged.

But that doesn't change the fact I acted like a prick and it wasn't right.

Why can't you guys admit I was in the wrong here?

Because you are trying to rationalize things by blaming your "bad behavior" as the reason she "dumped" you. When in reallity it was the fact that you choose the wrong type of woman...combined with the fact that you are an AFC...the REAL reason you were dumped and humilliated.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Because you are trying to rationalize things by blaming your "bad behavior" as the reason she "dumped" you. When in reallity it was the fact that you choose the wrong type of woman...combined with the fact that you are an AFC...the REAL reason you were dumped and humilliated.

What could I have done differently to make her still want me after this incident? We went on 2 dates and I shagged her on the 2nd. I could have done it on the first date but I turned her down.

Not much else I could have done my friend.

 

[Latinoman]

Bitter? I have a woman and plenty of sex. You are the one here trying to HIDE the fact that you are an AFC by trying to imply you acted like a "jerk". Dude...you are not a jerk. You are as AFC as I have seen. A woman screams at you...kicks you out her house late at night...and sent you packing when you are drunk and cold and vulnerable. And you are here crying like a baby. Get hold of yourself dude.

To make matters worst...this woman WORKS with YOU! Are you looking for a sexual harrasment stamp?

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Bitter? I have a woman and plenty of sex. You are the one here trying to HIDE the fact that you are an AFC by trying to imply you acted like a "jerk". Dude...you are not a jerk. You are as AFC as I have seen. A woman screams at you...kicks you out her house late at night...and sent you packing when you are drunk and cold and vulnerable. And you are here crying like a baby. Get hold of yourself dude.

To make matters worst...this woman WORKS with YOU! Are you looking for a sexual harrasment stamp?

I don't pay attention to her at work. I don't email her or look at her I'm not worried about that. I haven't even called her in over 2 weeks.

What could I have done differently to make her still want me after the incident at my house with my ex? Do you have an answer for that or you are just here to criticize to make yourself feel better?

 

[Metro3pilot]

A woman screams at you...kicks you out her house late at night...and sent you packing when you are drunk and cold and vulnerable

Throw in a slap or two to the face and that's the kind of chick I usually date.

I had a girl call me a wierdo the other day ...so I said " you keep taking my calls so what does that make you ? "


:rockon:

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Throw in a slap or two to the face and that's the kind of chick I usually date.

I had a girl call me a wierdo the other day ...so I said " you keep taking my calls so what does that make you ? "


:rockon:

I am moving on like lightning I am just curious do you think this chick will ever contact me again or does she really mean it when she says she never wants to talk to me again?

I admit this is a new road for me. I am just curious who has been in this situation before where the chic hates you but contacts you again later? I just want to hear experiences.

 

[Metro3pilot]

She may or may not call you again,

but if you're really sadistic and head games and drama bring you joy or make you feel normal whatever the case may be

if she has not called you in 3 weeks to a month, call her and she will answer and act like it never happened.

if she changes her number or you're served with a restraining order ...she meant it

:rockon:

 

[Augie]

While its sad when a relationship ends, but this goes to show why you shouldn't date work colleagues

 

[scottfall]

I admit this is a new road for me. I am just curious who has been in this situation before where the chic hates you but contacts you again later? I just want to hear experiences.

If your moving on, why do you care if she calls you? Im in the same spot you are, and you can deny it all you want.. but you have feelings for someone who dosent have feelings for you (and even if she does have feelings for you shes too fvcked up to show them (now or maybe ever), so why bother). Its not the end of the world, you just have to move on.. its not worth the drama. You are never going to be able to make someone have feelings for you, and if somehow you do they wont be real because you are trying to be the person she wants you to be, not you. The true DJ is a man that defines himself. A true AFC is a boy who lets women define him.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

The Breakup: A Portrait of Dignity

 

[FM 3321]

The Breakup: A Portrait of Dignity

Haha, that's awesome. Very funny but sad and embarrassing to watch because I've felt and acted that way in the past. What a shame. It's better to just walk away and focus on yourself.