Nighthawk said:
The pro-muscles guys are largely arguing from an 'of course it's true, it must be, it makes sense' perspective. They have failed to address the point that outside of the media, in the real world, all the hot girls are with guys who don't look like they've set foot in a gym in their lives. Good-looking, tall, nice (lean) bodies, cool haircuts, good dress sense, sure. But not 'muscley.'
You have to have the shoulders and defined pecs without beer belly, thats the bottom line. Like I was trying to explain, there is a HUGE RANGE between 'normal build' and meat head. Stop acting like its easy (or even possible! for most) to reach the point where they become repellent from too many muscles. Thats a skinny guy belief. "Better not hit the gym 3x a week or I wont have this nice swimmer's build anymore!" Most of the guys on here dont have the dedication to get to that point even if they tried.
You guys can say what you want about this, I've definitely lived it. Two years bulking up, then 3 years as an absolute no-muscles wimp, now six months half-and-half, and the last 4-5 weeks I've been hitting the weights hard. The increase in female attention is obvious. I swear to god its not because I feel different, I am only slightly impacted by the confidence boost that comes from looking good. I'm not even that built yet and the attention has already increased.
If you really want to prove this to yourself, the only way is to actually build up muscles for six months and see how women react to you, then report back to this thread. I've done this so I gave my opinion.
Even girls approach you or flirt with you where there is no comptability. Pook wrote about, once he reached a certain weight, girls were trying to use him for sex. You'll get approached by girls who just like the muscles, who wouldnt be as interested if you were skinny. Women who really aren't "compatible" with you in any major way will become interested and flirty.
You become a guy many women can imagine themselves having sex with.
I'm going to sum up in one sentence the difference between the slim smooth-talking PUA and the muscular guy: the slim PUA builds rapport, gets a woman interested, and maybe through kino and sweet-talking can make her think of sex. A muscular guy makes her think of sex immediately. A muscular man makes a woman think of sex.
Women say, "I dont really like a guy with too many muscles."
This could mean:
1. they really prefer slim build guys. (But how can you know? non-lifters just assume the truth of this because its congruent to their worldview).
2. they have never had the opportunity to be with a well-built guy. Hardly surprising given that muscular guys are about 5-10% of the population max.
3. they are imagining some horrible roid-pumped bodybuilder. So they don't want to be together with a deformed hulk-like muscle man. You never had the option of reaching that level anyway.
4. they are trying to tell you, "You dont have to be a body-builder to be with me, baby!" they are trying to covertly telegraph acceptance and realistic standards. Nevertheless, they might prefer you with a bit of muscle!
5. Some women are intimidated by muscular men and have low-self esteem, non-built guys are less threatening for them. They dont think they are worth it.
6. Are afraid they couldnt attract/keep a well built guy, because he is known to have options.
These are really the exact same reasons why some guys say they prefer HB8s to HB10s. They say they dont want mind games, or its hard to keep an HB10. Well guess what, who do you actually want to fvck? An HB10.
I don't have the answer, the only reason I'm arguing the point is because big shoulders have opened doors for me. They get me eye contact, they get me lingering, "approach me please" reactions. Big shoulders get me MILFs fussing over me and smiling at me where they didnt before. They get me more girls trying to look deep into my eyes when I interact with them at my job.
The level of female attention simply goes up. I know you can PUA and get girls with a slim build and maybe have a fantastic love life. But I know you would get more female attention if you had a bit of bulk.