Do you think that ASMR is a form of p0rn?

[corrector]

In other words, you're hopeless.
I agree.

Hapless might be a better term, lol! But then again, how would I take care of my elderly mom like that if I were involved with someone?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Not porn, but you're definitely an outlier in terms of finding female voices more soothing than deep male ones

This reminds me about one of my lovers who missed my voice when she spent time abroad and called me to talk her to sleep.

 

[Mike32ct]

To answer the original Q, yes, it probably is soft core pron for all intents and purposes.

I get your point about being “touch starved.” Honestly, if a guy isn’t dating, I don’t know of a viable, sustainable solution to that.

 

[corrector]

To answer the original Q, yes, it probably is soft core pron for all intents and purposes.

I get your point about being “touch starved.” Honestly, if a guy isn’t dating, I don’t know of a viable, sustainable solution to that.

Actually the OP or anyone else did not make a point of being touch starved and just said the vids were soothing. I took it up a notch and made it about being love-starved, but that strongly implies being touch starved as well. However, love starved in context means you dont have any personal connection (ie a lady checking up on you to see if you are okay, etc....) with anyone. I mean to say it does not have to be physical. If you lack even that type of connection the ASMRs are helpful.

 

[corrector]

I just unintentially DHV big time with some real-life stories I shared with a younger girl. I have a 24 year co-worker saying she wants to keep in touch with me, I am like a great teacher and full of knowledge. She is aware I'm 48 years old. She has a bf though, but wow.

Two day hold on ASMR / youtube music videos -- I can't reopen them until June 1st. This is big to get a complement like this from a younger girl. It's a switch from impressing someone compared to operating out of just need.

Again, if there is enough real life interaction/stimulation, then you don't need the videos.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I get your point about being “touch starved.” Honestly, if a guy isn’t dating, I don’t know of a viable, sustainable solution to that.

Get a massage?

 

[BaronOfHair]

I just unintentially DHV big time with some real-life stories I shared with a younger girl

And I hope your idea of "displaying higher value" isn't regaling this chick with tales of your impeccable Buffalo Bill* impersonation + The many humps it's gotten you

*https://hannibal.fandom.com/wiki/Jame_Gumb

 

[corrector]

And I hope your idea of "displaying higher value" isn't regaling this chick with tales of your impeccable Buffalo Bill* impersonation + the many humps it's gotten you

*https://hannibal.fandom.com/wiki/Jame_Gumb

Nope. You are making these stupid comments because I am too ugly to attract women? These types of guys are charming and handsome. Idiot.

 

[BaronOfHair]

These types of guys are charming and handsome. Idiot.

There's an argument to be made that BB is "pretty", albeit in a highly unconventional sense

Can't say I detect the slightest hint of "charm" in his personality though

 

[BaronOfHair]

This reminds me about one of my lovers who missed my voice when she spent time abroad and called me to talk her to sleep.

Yep. This is also one of the many factors which have the ladies swooning over Tony Todd in Candyman

This many decades after the film's release

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Yep. This is also one of the many factors which have the ladies swooning over Tony Todd in Candyman
This many decades after the film's release

I know my mellifluous voice can be soothingly soporific and easily puts women to sleep. That course in guided meditation was useful after all.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Can't say I detect the slightest hint of "charm" in his personality though

He takes the charming Bundy approach though with how he snares Catherine.

 

[BaronOfHair]

He takes the charming Bundy approach though with how he snares Catherine.

I can't help but suspect that Bundy didn't sound like this much of a goober

Whenever he was plying his trade

 

[BaronOfHair]

I know my mellifluous voice can be soothingly soporific and easily puts women to sleep. That course in guided meditation was useful after all.

I infer that you also have what many North Americans would refer to as a "European Accent" also

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I infer that you also have what many North Americans would refer to as a "European Accent" also

Of course, a charming scratchy Dutch accent that would make Tom Waits' throat hurt.

 

[characternote]

One of my high school teachers told me I had a sexy voice lol.

In fact, looking back there was some funny stuff going on at my school.
One of my friends banged the hot spanish teacher

And another one (RIP. He was murdered by dealers a few years back) had the very hot maths teacher all over him! Crazy flirting from her. He didn't bang her, though. He was one of those kids who looked like a man at 14 lol.

 

[Epicenter]

very romantic scene from the movie Her

 

[corrector]

Some of the tricks used in the videos, to get a viewer more enthralled include as follows:

1) Telling the viewer that they understand these videos have to be sincere and how they are putting their whole heart into it to make it real...otherwise it's not the same, or it could sound hollow and empty, (while not intending to say anything about their competitor ASMR videos, lol!)

2) Telling a viewer that they can telepathically communicate with them if they are too shy to talk to the video.

3) Telling a viewer that they understand that things can be so bad that they do not believe what they are saying about them, but they want to say it anyway because you deserve to hear it.

4) If you say anything negative about yourself then you are attacking them because what does it say about their tastes?


The list goes on and on.....however, the ability to empathise with the viewer, when delivered right, makes it seem quite real. It's really could be a case of improv acting from some talented individuals, and giving you the "first-person" experience.

It seems some of these ASMR content creators have a deep empahtetic insights into the lonely male pyche that is rather wierd when you look at it. If a guy was able to do this with a gal then you'd say they are running game.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I was looking at some videos of chicks doing this - and I find it soothing.

As long as you don't invest emotionally into these imaginary girlfriends and think they really care about anything else than clicks, I think you'll be fine. And don't let this lead you into procrastination in the 'talking to real women' skills you should be working on.

 

[BaronOfHair]

If a guy was able to do this with a gal then you'd say they are running game.

"Game" is a necessity for both genders. If Sydney Sweeney had a mouth and demeanor like Melissa McCarthy, her looks alone wouldn't have jettisoned her to stardom