I'm talking from experience, not just over thinking, but that's another issue. We all know it is convenient, raw, primal, meat, endless variety, options, etc.... You are involved into it so you'll justify what you are doing. However, if it was really like that, don't you think other people on here would be thinking the same way? You had someone else on here, I think rickthefrog who was banned, that bragged about how many hookers he saw. It was only him. People saw he had a problem. You remember that poster? He came up with the same arguments you have.You are over thinking it big time. You pay for the convenience. It is about you and your frame not the woman.
That is what rickthefrog would say. Again, I defer to other people on this board, like @BackInTheGame78 to talk about these things since that's not really my world. There are lots of people who are successful with ladies who won't see a pro on principle.zinc4 said:If i don't feel like going out with some silly sloot on a particular evening and talking for hours while trying to just get in her pants or going to a busy bar or club and clawing some girl away from her "girl's night out" grogfup than that is my preference. I am up for it sometimes but not always.
When you go on dates how much time, mental energy are you putting into it? Lets say it takes the average guy 2 to 3 dates to get the lay.
Well I have news for you. You will never give up this hobby. Never. You may take a break from it if you meet the right girl, or just enough to make a good impression with her, but to really give it up. I don't see that happening. My father had a similar problem like you and he carried it right into the marriage. The only time you'll be able to quit such a thing is when you get very old and lose your libido or you see the damage this causes to your future wife/kids/family, especially if you see your son / children start to look out for prostitutes because you are setting that example. Heck, I have a problem fapping to escort ads that even a marriage in the past could not eradicate. It looks like you'll deeply crave the convenience, variety, and power that you feel in these arrangements that it's impossible to quit.zinc4 said:Unless it is a girl i see fit for a future relationship i will never wait 2 dates for sex. I would rather hire a pro 10 out of 10 times unless it is a dime piece who has made it clear that sex will be on the table second date. Even then i have to think about it if i don't like her personality. Fortunately most of my 1st dates end in lays. They can be annoying asf though at times with boring small talk especially with the ones in their 20s.
Others can be great though. Dating and gaming is a mixed bag. Hiring a quick pro is not. And when you got a lot of money even 3 hours talking on a first date if it ends in a lay begins to feel like too much mental energy and time wasted. I am only dating girls right now who i view as future relationship candidates. Got a really nice religious beautiful girl im seeing right now as well as 2 active plates and one girl in a different city begging to see me everyday. Once my main target asks me to be exclusive ill drop the plates. But i still like my pros from time to time, ha. The convenience of it is just addicting and nice. And plates tend to get old fast.
Some guys here spend weeks trying to court a girl by texting marathons and slow paced dating. THAT is the only thing wrong principle wise and supplicating to me.
Does your religious girl aware of your lifestyle (ie that you are seeing 2 active plates and you are seeing pros)? Again, going by what @rjc149, you do have to be honest with the religious girl because after all, if you are right, it won't affect her opinion of you right?