Do men even care anymore?

[Hamurabimbi]

Something has changed. Used to be, at work. guys would talk about women. I remember almost all our conversations were about women. Not any more.

 

[Ricky]

I have been in my current type of employment since 2005. I've noticed more so in the last 10 years that co-workers struggle with dating and a lot of them date within the workplace due to challenges dating outside of it. So there has been a lot of workplace dating and a lot of people have went back to dating people they knew in high school.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Great point by the way: online you can pretend,in real you can't.

Not so easy. I’ve had women demand Facetime before they’ll meet up with me on Tinder.

 

[Chow Mein]

Not so easy. I’ve had women demand Facetime before they’ll meet up with me on Tinder.

Those are the worst, it’s like an awkward interview.

Either way, it will never be in your favor. I counter-propose for in-person, if she doesn’t accept…Bye Felicia

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Those are the worst, it’s like an awkward interview.

Either way, it will never be in your favor. I counter-propose for in-person, if she doesn’t accept…Bye Felicia

Well. I get to FT her as well. So I don’t mind.

 

[SW15]

there has been a lot of workplace dating

There's data out there that has shown workplace dating has been falling since the 1990s.

a lot of people have went back to dating people they knew in high school.

Heather Locklear did that but I haven't heard of other cases of that.

A lot of people don't live in the same geographic area as high school 15-30 years after high school graduation.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Well. I get to FT her as well. So I don’t mind.

I never meet women from online without FaceTiming them. I can read micro expressions very well and can tell from 5 minutes of FaceTiming whether it's in my interest to continue.

I also vet new PTSD clients through FaceTiming first, before I allow them to visit my home. Since I was stalked twice, I consider these reasonable considerations.

As I rejected several women who looked fine from photos, I wouldn't meet a strange woman who approaches me through social media (I don't use dating apps) without FaceTiming first.

 

[Chow Mein]

I never meet women from online without FaceTiming them. I can read micro expressions very well and can tell from 5 minutes of FaceTiming whether it's in my interest to continue.

I also vet new PTSD clients through FaceTiming first, before I allow them to visit my home. Since I was stalked twice, I consider these reasonable considerations.

As I rejected several women who looked fine from photos, I wouldn't meet a strange woman who approaches me through social media (I don't use dating apps) without FaceTiming first.

You’ve piqued my suspicion

 

[jhonny9546]

Without that natural chemistry, it’s not going to work

You guys might want to learn more about this.
Me too

 

[Solomon]

I just wanted to say I don't have any complaints. Its all good times. I'm getting older, but they aren't! I put in the work and did the time to be where I'm at. Its never been easier. I hope you guys are blessed with pu$$y next year and pipeman gets all those virgins he dreams of.

Congrats brother we need more posts like this instead of the whining, complaining, and geofencing. loooksmaxxing woe is me posts
2024 was a dencet year dating wise 2025 though the focus will be moreso on quality than quantity fort me

 

[Gamisch]

Everyone seems to be looking for a new angle on how to meet women. But the old ways are still working just fine though. The only setback that I have encountered with a famine of pvssy is that I get in my own way. I sabotage my own inner game. I stop going out less, stop forging friendships, take life to seriously etc.
To slay and find a potential girlfriend you gotta be out there like someone owes you money, man.

Game has changed a bit but there’s a core element that will never change. Women like an attractive guy who leads the charge. Throw in a light bad boy vibe, maybe project a lifestyle with substance and you got a winning strategy.

This 1000% .

To slay and find a potential girlfriend you gotta be out there like someone owes you money, man.


Period. Most dudes don't wanna put in the effort it takes to be at least ready when opportunities present themselves. They wanna hit the gym for 4 months and expect that hb9 falls out of the sky . Or they "only" hit the gym but never work on overcoming the " innerbytch "inside. nlw you kist a muscular biatch.

I started to notice this with some homies overtime. They just don't wanna put in ANY effort, style wise, no gym , ofcourse never study game . Just being angry that you can't go the girlfriend store and pick a " traditional woman " from the shelf.

No fugging urgency. Untill they decide to passport bro and think that will solve all their problems ..

 

[jhonny9546]

Most dudes don't wanna lut inthe effort it takes

I confirm that I struggle with GAME.
And I told myself that now that I've "fixed" appeareance, I must delve into it.

 

[Gamisch]

I confirm that I struggle with GAME.
And I told myself that now that I've "fixed" appeareance, I must delve into it.

Repost with my typos corrected please

Read the bolded part ten times a day. Most of us ( myself included) believe that "tomorrow " everything will be fine. And boom suddenly years pass you by.

 

[jhonny9546]

Repost with my typos corrected please

Read the bolded part ten times a day. Most of us ( myself included) believe that "tomorrow " everything will be fine. And boom suddenly years pass you by.

Correct, but what out there means, since everyone have different goals and opportunities, like mine is not to slay party woman, but instead find good "keepers".
Is getting the experience with party woman the only way to not ruin your identity in your local community?

 

[Gamisch]

Correct, but what out there means, since everyone have different goals and opportunities, like mine is not to slay party woman, but instead find good "keepers".
Is getting the experience with party woman the only way to not ruin your identity in your local community?

Here's the thing; when a woman _wants to get married_ she has to invest in herself while becoming a desirable woman to the (type of ) man she wants. Desirable man is NOT gonna accept an obese woman with all kinds of issues who does only wants to start working on herself after he put a ring on that. That's like wanting to get paid before doing the job.

Simultaneously she gotta be where he will/ might be. That can range from a festival to an event in town to a concert to a ..social circle event to just a walk in the park ect.

Same goes for men looking for women. You get no script. You never know where and when "she" will appear , you just gotta be ready. Do you put everything on everything to find that type? Physically, spiritually, financially and emotionally? Or do you think you will just swipe right on a cutie and that's it?

One more thing: there is no such thing as party girl, or house wife or ho3 and such. Every woman goes through phases. Today she can be a party girl but next year she can be a devoted mother and vice versa. YOUR JOB is to work on yourself so you increase your chances of meeting multiple "hers". Might take 1 week or 10 years , who knows? You might be surprised how rapid things can move once you " search for it like someone owns you money ".

(I requested if you could repost with my typos corrected. I take time to answer your questions, so honour my request as well. Something to consider in future communications )

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

(I requested if you could repost with my typos corrected. I take time to answer your questions, so honour my request as well. Something to consider in future communications )

I don't think he can still edit his post, too much time has passed.

In case @jhonny9546 doesn't understand: After you post a comment, for a limited time, you can edit your post by clicking the edit button under your post. If there is no edit button under your post, the time to edit is gone and the edits have to be done by a moderator.

 

[pipeman84]

Back in reality though I kind of like it , the competition isn't that strong and on a night out women will 9/10 fvck the guy that can hold conversation the longest and executes the kill

I picked a chick up in a concert Friday night , she stuck to me like glue ....... 3 of my mates fvcked it up with her friend (who was also looking for get laid ) all of them just being too passive

at 3am I tell my chick we are going home ,

A bit of last min resistance but sure enough we are on the way back to my place

my mates stay out with her mate until 7am and still nobody could close

Guys are fvcking useless these days

Ain't nobody got time for this shyt man. Between porn and hookers, who wants to waste a night to maybe get a chance to fvck some half drunk bimbo? Don't you have work or stuff to do the next day? Moreover, the mix of alcohol and lost night sleep isn't good for your health, particularly when you're over 30. You may or may not fvck the bimbo, but you definitely fvck your neurons and general health.

I hope you guys are blessed with pu$$y next year and pipeman gets all those virgins he dreams of.

One is enough.

 

[Gamisch]

Ain't nobody got time for this shyt man. Between porn and hookers, who wants to waste a night to maybe get a chance to fvck some half drunk bimbo? Don't you have work or stuff to do the next day? Moreover, the mix of alcohol and lost night sleep isn't good for your health, particularly when you're over 30. You may or may not fvck the bimbo, but you definitely fvck your neurons and general health.

One is enough.

Although bar and club numbers are going down, it's still in the top3 of meeting women.

I agree that it's not always a great option. Personally I also don't like to drink, but the "Friends series type of cafés " are also hard to find.

This is why men are severly struggling with dating. The club is no option, OLD is jot an option and neither is spam approach. What's left?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I agree that it's not always a great option. Personally I also don't like to drink, but the "Friends series type of cafés " are also hard to find.

Not in Amsterdam... you practically trip over them.