djgirl said:
I would love more insight on how you got her to score him?! Yes he did tell me to hound him until he gets back to me but I don't know if that's because his always flat out. But I mean him asking me out for lunch I haven't read that much in to because he could just be being friendly business like
That was my original point. Just be a real person. It's not like I taught her game. When I meet a woman there's two things I look which let me figure out if she's worth my time within 20 minutes of meeting her. Do I find her attractive? That takes about 2 seconds. If I'm attracted to her, I'll ask her about what she does with her life and what she's interested in. If we have some commonalities, she's not an idiot and doesn't seem shallow then I'll ask for her number. At that point if she's a yes, I'll get a number and see what happens. There's really no need for trickery or techniques to get a guy. I think most guys now are sick of the way women act in the dating game, that's the biggest turn off for me. Especially arrogance or *****iness.
So back to my friend. I didn't coach her to act a certain way or say certain things. I told her to be confident and to ask him out. Then I told her not to do any of the cosmo bull****. That's literally it. I was basically just a motivator. She went up to him at work and said something like hey, we should have a drink sometime. He said yes (obviously she met the first criteria, the second depends on whether he is looking for LTR or just a lay), she got his phone number. I saw her the next day and I was so proud of her! Breaking the mould. That sort of confidence and forwardness is so attractive to a guy. If a woman I found attractive came up to me like that, I'd just be like, wow, who is this woman? The only women that have approached me have been drunk club slvts.
So she was freaking out about well do I text him, do I wait x days, I should wait a bit before responding etc. No, no, no. Text him, ask him when he's free, don't wait in between messages. If you're messaging a guy to organise something, there's no need to play games. The only reason guys do this, is because women do it and expect it. Contact him twice, if he doesn't get back to you then he was probably being polite in accepting your invite (due to the social circle you two are part of). It's that simple.