You better listen to this guy, he can predict the future. I wish I listened! lol
That's right. I predicted Vlad would become an Impaler back when he was just a little pecker.
Permission to speak frankly, sir. LoneRanger, women can feign high interest, nothing really counts until they meet you face-to-face. My take on your whole sitch is that, regardless of giving her over-exposure of yourself via phone calls about every day before you met, she was still desirous to meet you, which makes me suspect that her interest was more about her need to find someone to take her out rather then in you, specifically.
Apparently, when she did finally meet you, you didn't turn out to be her cup of tea. Her later offer to see the movie seems to have been gratuitous, her just being agreeable, she didn't really mean it. That's why we go by a woman's actions rather then her words.
When a woman says "no chemistry", that usually means she wasn't turned on by your physical appearance.
But I have to say that calling her as much as you did trying to resurrect a date out of the ashes only signals desperation. And calling to ask "if it's over"? is just weak. It's better for your quality of life as a man, to see the evident signs and judge for yourself that it's going nowhere, and choose to shake the dust of your boots and be the one who moves on. You'll feel better about things because you'll feel more in control of these circumstances.
I know it's cold and somewhat barren and that the good looking women are sparse in Saginaw. Try Petoskey!
And inferring that you were now going to delete her from your computer... you're venting at her. If you wish to delete her, just delete her. To tell her so is more about you trying to smack her ego, serve her a return blow for the smack she gave you, to make you feel better. The thing is, all that does is make you come off like you're bitter, angry and showing it, and that only reinforces her notion that she made the right decision in not seeing you again. The fact is, deleting her is something she couldn't care less about, since she doesn't care to see you anymore, so it doesn't affect her. If anything, it probably gives her laugh with her girlfriends.
This also stands out to me:
at on the first date she told me she would bring a BUY ONE ENTRE GET ONE FREE coupon
I know you may think that this was just her being thoughtful, but to me, it signals her wish to not feel obligated to you. Not a good sign. Women are good at crafting things that outwardly we may decode as interest and thoughtfulness, but it's not, it's actually contrived to be self-serving.
What you saw as high interest, her "taking the lead most of the time we were together", is not a sign of high interest. The man has to always take the lead. Defaulting to the woman's lead has the woman take on the masculine role, which they will because of the default, but unless they're control freaks, they'll resent having to do so. I know you may think you're being gallant by deferring to her, but again, this is one of those areas where the woman actually feels uncomfortable by having to make the choices.
Try this:
Not so much calling next time and keep any calls purposeful and short.
Don't talk much about yourself or serious life subjects, just keep it fun and laughs for now.
No dates for the very next day. Make them for a few days away. Space yourself.
See the mannequins in male clothing store windows and models in catalogs? Dress and groom like them. Make sure you're spotless and smell good. Trim your nasal and ear hairs. Get a decent haircut (Just saying...)
If the gal turns down a date, don't offer her alternatives. Get more phone numbers in the meantime.
You make the plans and stick to them.
Never let them see you sweat.
