Beautiful women get approached all the time. That’s the landscape. It’s as natural as breathing. Now. Having said that there are ways to discourage unwanted attention. I do not wear make up on business trips any more for many years. I STILL get hit on everywhere, the rental car bus, going through security at airports at the store, at my fiancé’s events.
I get dolled up for him only. But if I’m dolled up obviously other men notice.
Last weekend some guys were checking me out (I didn’t notice this going about my business) but he did. He walked over. Embraced me & told me these guys were checking me out and one had grabbed a buddy to also check me out. So my guy noticed & made it clear that I’m taken. I mean I wear his ring and everything. He enjoys it actually. It makes him feel proud and like a winner along the lines of “Yup. She’s with ME.” (Big smile on his face) I don’t know who the guys were the other day as I didn’t look and didn’t care or notice in the first place. But this happens all the time.
I do not keep orbiters. My male friends are actually friends. We discuss and advise one another on relationships, parenting, and life. We encourage one another, hold one another accountable and are pleased to see the friend happy. That does not mean everyone is out to jump bones! My male friends are all abundance mindset men, at ease with women and skilled at seduction. Like them I understand “game” or I wouldn’t be here.
This idea that women are ALL so thirsty and insecure to be taking back up offers no matter what indicates not only insecurity in a guy but distrust of women generally as well. No way I’m dating or being exclusive with that. I have character and and treat my man with tremendous respect. If he is uncomfortable with something I respect that. He does the same for me.
Real friends are wonderful to have. Ditching friends, real friends who have been loyal to me when life was tough are not getting tossed out. Ever. And neither do I expect that of him.
I am a very sexy appealing woman. I know that. I manage that myself (conservative dress, no make up, chat about my man if someone chats me up)…etc. None of my guy friends are trying to get in my pants. Even if they think I’m hot, they are used to hot just as I am used to handsome. These are men who understand I am taken just as some of them are taken. And these are handsome abundant men. As a result a mutual respect exists.
And these guys really like & enjoy my fiancé too.
Such a nothing burger with real actual friends.