I agree with both
@Bigpapa and
@LARaiders85 and I think they are both describing the same phenomena.
Yes if a woman thinks you are desirable she will think it’s very easy for you to get laid (one reason among many to only entertain high interest women…downside is if they lack self confidence they are going to act jealous and/or insecure because of the belief you can get laid easily)….
I know players and playboys who are very skilled seducers who strike out plenty. Now. They also have hot streaks where they might score a dozen new lays in a month…but they aren’t being all that selective in those streaks, from what I’ve seen firsthand. And it’s expensive to get out that often & participate in that many interactions.
As far as OP? Agree he blew it with weak frame. What you do in a situation like that (she is out & didn’t invite you beforehand) is you play it completely cool when she calls (remember this chick DID call him that night)…the purpose of her calling is two fold. 1. To let you know she is NOT all tied up with someone else), and 2. To see what OP is doing.
Best play is “Glad you are having fun! I’m out with my buddies doing XYZ. Hit me up later if you want to meet up…”
She called him after she got home too. Great opportunity for him to go crash at hers. You want a woman wondering what you are doing and who you are with when you are not with her. Acting mad that she didn’t invite you tells her you got absolutely nothing else going on, and her desire drops. And suddenly the dude who kept bugging her for her number at the bar while she was wondering about you? He just got a whole lot more interesting.
Men you must understand that you are never seducing in a vacuum. Never.